Thanks Cassie,

You are absolutely correct in saying and I thank you for your support by doing this, that my advice was an example of tough love and particularly difficult and heartfelt (no pun intended about the word heart) when the member is also felt to be my friend.

You are welcome Heart.

I can only repeat the sentence I have already written where it was warning about the potential dangers to you from continuing to remain only his friend in the hope that this will somehow make it easier for you over the longer term to leave him because you have "fallen out of love".

I feel that this would have the complete opposite effect from the one which you visualise or predict.

It would I believe backfire and only serve to strengthen his hold over you.

Never to weaken it!



This means that although you in the end are the only person who can or has the right to decide whether you should turn your back on the caring advice given through this reading to continue to try to force yourself to fall out of love with Justin, and by so doing unknowingly open yourself up to further psychological abuse from him and possible long term damage to your sense of self confidence and self respect as a direct consequence, I am only responsible as your reader to pass on to you as accurately and completely the insights which came through me on your behalf.

As has often been said elsewhere, if you do not like the message which you receive through your reading and choose to ignore it, please, please, please do not kill this humble messenger.

Both of us have our own responsibilities or parts to play within our close working relationship together on this forum.

EoT

i actually dont think im IN love with him anymore, but i have been feeling alone these days, and his friendship and company is rather comforting until i can re-unite with old friends and slowly put my life back together.

Dearest Heart, It IS very difficult, it it so easy to hold onto the crutch to help us through but then you would be using him wouldn't you and that is not really what you are about at all. You care too much, you are too kind and gentle and compassionate. You need to back off and stay strong and hold onto your heartstrings so that you can regain control of your life and this situation. I am sure it won't be long before your get the relationship that you deserve, but, it won't happen whilst you are still hanging on to him.

Cassie

thanks, very encouraging indeed.