hi EOT

could you please give me a reading for the following

I am already in a relationship with A, but I am presently interested in having a relationship with B in the near future.

Could you please tell me through a reading whether you can see a relationship with B developing for me during the next six months, in preference to me staying with A?

hope to hear from you .

thanks
sweet

Sweet,

Your reading suggests that you are trying to ensure that you have someone to share your life with, and are fearing that by continuing to have or want a relationship with both A and B at the same time, that you might end up with neither. You are attempting to cover all your available options for a loving relationship, but your energies cannot be effectively spread across two relationships at the same time.

Basically you cannot have your cake and eat it too, or in this case fit both man A and man B simultaneously into your one heart.  It is clear that your relationship with B is of a particularly intense nature, but that it is also an on off (intermittent) one over a long period of time, but whether or not it is a healthy one which would over the longer term be likely to eventually lead to something much more stable and permanent is beyond the scope of this reading to predict with any degree of reliability which would be useful to you in making your final decision with regards to which man you will spend the rest of your life with.

Probably the best way to go about this is to compare what type of life you already have with A, with what type of life you could expect to have if you left A and went ahead with B. Do not base this decision entirely upon your feelings as to whether you were meant to be together or that you deserve no better treatment than you are currently getting from B who your reading feels is playing a game of cat and mouse with your most intimate womanly emotions.

Also because you are so emotionally involved with the outcome of this reading, it is difficult to read what you should do subjectively, as your obvious frustration and confusion as to what is the best and right man for you is clouding the psychic connection required for this reading to be an effective one.

This is not to blame or criticise you for feeling emotional about this, as most of this is unconscious and therefore by definition not under your conscious control. The intention of your reading mentioning this was to simply to make you aware of the emotional static which is only adding to the pre-existing difficulties of me being able to give you the clear answers which you are looking for.

Base your decision more on what you have already experienced with either of these two men. Which of the two has shown the most reliable long term commitment to making your relationship work? Which of the two men better treats you as a person or merely as someone to confide and find comfort in, but only when it is convenient and to his advantage to do so? Which of the two men truly loves you, and which of them is only using you? Based upon past experience which of them is most likely to still be around to love and care for you when you most need him to be there for you?

You may have the impression or belief that because you feel so intensely and passionately for man B that he must be your soul mate, and it therefore follows that you were meant to be together no matter how disrespectfully he treats you when he makes your relationship like a revolving door, where he can come in and go out whenever you mention the big C word (COMMITMENT).

I do not know whether B is one of your soul mates (as we each have many in any single lifetime), but regardless of whether he is or is not, this does not necessarily mean that you are anything like 100% compatible with each other, or that you will live happily ever after. Actually most soul mates meet over and over again in multiple lifetimes precisely because they have outstanding issues with each other which for one reason or another have not yet been satisfactorily resolved in the past.

My feelings based upon this reading alone are that during the next six months it will become even clearer than it was before what is the best direction for you to take in deciding between two very different men, with reference to them being your life partner. In other words I feel that either man A or B will show what he is truly looking for from being with you, and that in a strange and unexpected way the decision will be made for you.

Because your energies are being scattered or diluted by multiple relationship perhaps only for the near future, you will need to take special care of yourself and specifically your health on all levels if you are going to be able to take maximum advantage of the happiness and increased sense of self confidence and self respect which is waiting for you in either A's or B's arms.

Hoping that this reading has been at least of some small help to you when deciding between the two special men currently in your life.

L&L,

EoT

hi EOT

thanks again for giving me this wonderful reading once again . you are bang on with whatever you have described in your reading for me except for something that has left me confused this time.

confused because the way you have mentioned man B in your reading is actually the way i have had experiences with man A . which means that man A is the one who has not treated me well ever and he is the one who has left me in a state of great distress and lost self-esteem while man B is the one who has been always there whenever i needed him the most. although i am currently in a relationship with man A but it is man B who has been committed towards me (as a great friend all along) inspite of me being distant to him (physically as well as emotionally) due to various personal reasons but we have shared a great camararderie all along . man B's company has been of great help in my life all along and has made me stand back on my feet and feel self-reliant once again in life when i couldn't think beyond pain and restlessness. it is man A with whom i feel being used . while man B has always been very respectful and committed towards me through thick and thin (even though there has been no committment from my side as i am committed already to man A ) .
man A despite of being committed to me has never been a good partner. he has been treating this relationship like a revolving door as u have mentioned for man B ever since we started off and has caused me hurt that is beyond repair .  
i don't understand why your reading mentioned man B against the qualities that i know belong to man A ??

also i am not sure what it means when you write

"Because your energies are being scattered or diluted by multiple relationship perhaps only for the near future, you will need to take special care of yourself and specifically your health on all levels if you are going to be able to take maximum advantage of the happiness and increased sense of self confidence and self respect which is waiting for you in either A's or B's arms. "

are you pointing towards the likelihood of the above situation coming up in my life in coming future or is it something else that i haven't understood correctly ?
it would be helpful if you could elaborate this part .

thank you so much for your time and effort to pass things to us querents through your wonderful reads which  are always insightful .


best
sweet

Sweet,

You are very welcome.

This transposing or mix up as to which of the people included in a particular reading the information refers is much more likely to happen when too much rather than too little background information has been provided by the person requesting the reading, equals the querent, who in this case equals you.

Please therefore apply some but not all of the characteristics which the reading has incorrectly ascribed to man B, to man A instead. Minus the commitment?

In whichever direction is most positive overall, there is a very clear cut difference between the two men, especially if A and not B is disrespectful and abusive, and treats your relationship like a revolving door for his own convenience. No wonder then that you have found solace and companionship and the type of deep and lasting love which you so deserve to be given in B's arms over the last five years.



The reading is effectively saying that you cannot spread your feelings and energies over two relationships or two men at the same time, without something having to give. You need to make a decision one way or the other, then let the other man go in both your mind and heart, if your relationship with the man whom you have chosen is going to have an above average chance of being a reasonably happy long term one.

You cannot spread your affections for too long at a time between both men, without running the real risk of losing both.  Eventually during the next six months you will need to decide between A and B, then learn to deal with the consequences of that decision in a responsible and balanced manner.

Which is always easier said than done; I know!  

EoT

hi EOT

if you could spare some more time to further this discussion that would be really helpful . i have pm'd you my response already.

hope to hear from you again .

thanks