Good day dear reader. I have a gnawing concern and i hope you could help me. You see, I plan to reconnect with a crush of mine after so many years. My friend and I tried calling 3x on 2 separate days, but she wasn't home. I was pretty resolute in calling her, since i already got a go signal from a psychic. But the other day, i was surfing the net and i saw a pic of a heart shaped stuff toy that my former textmate that became my crush's bf posted last Feb. 14, 2011. I instantly had a bad feeling upon seeing it and it made me bothered and hesitant, since that guy subtly discouraged me from calling her before. The reason i found out later, was that he was lying to me from day 1, and she was his gf already. (I just told him to check out her profile in a social networking site, he added her and they became a couple.) That happened last 2007. But when i ponder about what he did, i'm still hurting until now. I assumed that they already broke up, that's why i'm bothered by that pic. Now my question is will this guy meddle if he finds out that i'm texting or communicating with his gf or ex gf? Or they've split up already and i have nothing to worry about? I prefer to reconnect when this guy is out of the picture already, since it would be a lot less stressful on my part if they're not a couple anymore. Since i dunno if my crush would even bring up the topic that he is, or he was her bf. It's an awkward topic too, since she knows that i like her. Sorry if my post was quite long. I just want a clarification and forecast so i can watch what i say when my crush and i talk. I'm sure her loyalty is towards him, but i don't want him to know as much as possible that i reconnected with her. Hence, i'm concerned if this is the right time to call, coz if they're still a couple, he'll know for sure. So i wanna know where i stand. And i just need a guide on what positive or negative things to expect when we start talking. I hope i was clear in stating my question, to avoid confusion. Thanks.

Hi there
Just to let you know that it is Mystic Boards policy not to do third party readings.
That means we cannot give readings about people other than yourself.
It is also difficult to give a reading about a relationship thats not already in existance.

I wonder if you could ask for a reading based around you ie, a general reading?

kind regards

Suzi

Hi Dierdre,

What Suzi is telling you is absolutely correct.

But only if you are asking us through a reading...............



Then the reading would be directly about people other than yourself (this guy, his girlfriend and his ex girlfriend) which is defined as being third party, and accordingly not allowed.

But if on the other hand you are asking us through a reading for some helpful guidance as to what would be the best for you to say to or ask of him in order to more reliably determine whether or not you still have any future together as a couple, such a reading would be entirely about you and definitely not third party.

With due respect to Suzi (in other situations than yours I would have offered the identical advice of a general reading) I feel that since this concern is currently uppermost in and deeply troubling your mind, a general reading which may or may not cover this worrying problem at all might turn out to be a big disappointment to you if your future relationship if any with this guy failed to get a mention. Something which does happen from time to time, and which is completely beyond our control to stop from happening.

Any reading would be about what I have highlighted in bold print above, and given by me within the next couple of days, unless you say that you disagree and do not want to go ahead with this question at all (which you must decide between now and then).

EoT

Sorry Suzisco and EOT if i asked a 3rd party question, i thought that the "meddling" part still pertains to me, since i'm about to anticipate such actions from the guy, if ever he finds out that i called my crush. Anyway, there has been a misunderstanding, lol, i'm actually interested in the girl, not the guy, lol The guy knew that i super like this girl since high school, i confide in him. Then when he saw her pic, he liked her too and never told me that he initiated a conversation with her. I think i need to give them a name to avoid confusion. Let's just call the guy "J", And the girl, "C". I was given the go signal by a psychic to call  C, since he told me that she has also been thinking of me lately. So i was pretty firm with my decision until the other day, which i have expounded in my 1st post. So with that said, i agree to ask the question that EOT suggested, like will there be a future for us, either as friends or more than friends? Any do's or dont's regarding what to say or do? Will there be no antagonists? You see, the reason why i'm concerned about J is that he seems to be the jealous type. He even made C cancel her social network account due to pure jealousy. So i just want to know if the reunion will be smooth sailing. Thanks.

Dierdre,

This is not just a minor misunderstanding, but it changes the entire direction of the reading.

What started out as being a reading about you contacting C with regards to you getting back together with J has evolved based upon this extra information into a case of sexual jealousy, with you asking whether or not it is likely that J would be willing to passively sit by and allow you to have an intimate relationship with another woman C.

It is still not perfectly clear to me whether C is living together with J as his girlfriend or ex girlfriend, or whether they are now living apart. What worries me about this is that J's influence on C regardless of the current status of their relationship and living arrangements is still so strong that he can make C cancel her social network account, jealousy or no jealousy.

You do not need to have a reading to recognise that if he does have such an emotional hold over her to make her do something which she does not want to do, then you may have already lost her yourself in spite of how your relationship with C might develop over the coming months, if J permits it to happen.

If he cannot have her nobody can, including and especially her having a relationship with another woman. Due to the third party restriction I cannot directly read what J is capable of and likely to do to get his way, and I am therefore hesitant to offer you advice that could unintentionally put you in danger, either physical or psychological (or both).

Another thing which deeply concerns me was your need to be given the go signal by another reader before you were willing to contact C. I do not wish to have my reading used either as a go or stop signal for you to do anything. What insights do come out of my reading are only to be used in combination with that obtained from other non intuitive sources, as well as your own feelings on the matter.

It is my belief that at present that a reading is only going to be of minimal help to you at most, and potentially harmful at worst. I feel that I am being involuntarily dragged into becoming a referee in a three way battle, and that I could do more harm than good by proceeding with this, even if I were to change the him in my modified question to her or to C.

The big question which still comes up in my mind is as to why you still care so much what J thinks about you having a relationship with C (other than you fearing what he might do as revenge), and why J's influence over C is still so strong.

Love triangle readings are especially unreliable (particularly when they involve a same sex relationship), as the number of potential factors working against you are so much greater than with a couple, and no offence intended but I wish to use my right as a reader to turn down your request on this occasion, for the reasons I have explained above.

I would of course be pleased to offer you a general reading as a substitute, but it would not include anything about what you have asked in this request.

I will leave the final decision to you about both my general reading offer which still stands, as well as whether to proceed at all in having a relationship with C as more than each other's friends, with J out on the war path for revenge by any method available to him to do you both harm.

EoT