I am puzzled and confused as to understanding why the prediction that your closest relationships are about to enter a period of relative peace and harmony should be causing you so much reason for concern. A large share of the most difficult of the challenges are firmly behind you, but also during the next six months I feel that there will be several positive opportunities for your personal growth and development which will tend to increase as time moves forward.

Yes it is true that significant change in our lives always involve some degree of risk to be taken, and that there are no guarantees that everything will work out exactly as you hoped that they might, but what is being predicted here is something to look forward to rather than something to be feared. The following next six months will not only offer you challenges, but they will also offer you opportunities for improving your relationships which would not have seemed possible only months before now.

Perhaps if you could clearly indicate in your response as to exactly what it is about the reading that is especially worrying you so much when it appears to me to be a dream future for your social and love life, then I could as your reader help you more effectively to recognise that your fears have either minimal or no basis in reality. These are more products of your own subconscious mind which although it helps you to stay alive, is mainly fear driven.

There is such a thing called free floating anxiety where the precise source of our fears cannot be identified, and I feel that this may turn out in the end to have been your main problem all along.

Do you by chance feel that the reading is too good to be true, or that you do not deserve to have the happiness it promises?

If so, you are far from being the only person who has ever felt that way.

Awaiting your further input.

EoT  

Basically, my fear is that the person I'm in love with will disappear completely because I just recently found out that they have someone now, and it's not me.

I'm amazed that the worst of it is behind me though...that's good :D

This possibly sounds to you as though I am being insensitive to your feelings (this is not my intention), but if this person (who henceforth I will simply refer to as X) has has made the conscious decision to leave you and miss out on all the good things which they would have had in their life if they had instead stayed with you, then there is very little if anything you can do to change their mind.

Indeed at this point in time I believe that any attempt to win X back would only be more likely to have the complete opposite effect.

You are understandably feeling lonely, hurt and miserable at the moment, wondering if or when someone else is going to love you.

You are currently in the process of grieving for the death of a relationship, which once held out so much hope and promise to you.

You are as a consequence going through much the same stages of the grieving process, which other people experience when they have lost a loved one to physical death.

It is apparently not bothering X in any way that you are feeling like this, if indeed X even still cares for and about you (which I am unable to directly determine from my end).

X may eventually realise probably too late what has been lost of great value by losing you, but are you now going to continue to give X this power over you to stop you from having someone else who is able and willing to give you the deep and lasting type of love and respect which you so richly deserve?

An incredible power over you to ruin the rest of your love life, which X clearly does not deserve to be given?

So the important question for you is whether (easier said than done) you will eventually choose to give X the power over you to determine your future and force you to indefinitely put the rest of you life on hold, or on the other hand whether you will use these next six months to grieve and calm down, so that your increased self confidence and self respect for not having continued to allow X to do this to you in your own mind, once more makes you increasingly attractive and available to members of the opposite sex.

It is your decision alone to make.

All which I can practically do is to support whatever your decision turns out to be.

But I know which of the two options on offer I would choose, if I was you and 18 again.

Love, Light and Healing,

EoT

OK; I understand, and I know what I'm going to do. Thank you so much

I have seen this message, and I am pleased that you appear to have a better grasp on your situation, which is by no means an easy decision for you to make.

No further response is either required or expected from you in response to the final posting for this thread.

CU next month or when next needed,

eye_of_tiger