justin's like a whole new person now, he's always asking me to be in a serious relationship with him/be his girlfriend. other girls don't text him anymore and if one of them rarely does, im the only one who calls and texts him now besides his mom. and if he does get a text from a friend who is a girl he doesnt always respond/and he does it strictly platonicly.

he wants to be in a serious adult relationship with me and actually says the word "commit". do you think he's lying/messing with me or are his feelings of love/commitment true? i want to trust him fully now because we've been dating for four months and he's never been this serious about the two of us, he no longer talks about "experiencing" other girls before he gets serious with me.

I don't think you need a "reading" for this, its all part of life and the uncertanty of life.

I think that this man sounds like he is committing to you and wants to be with you, so continue to put him first treat him how you wish to be treated and enjoy your relationship rather than be mistrustful.  this means you will have a wonderful time instead of holding back just in case he hurts you.  You will hurt your relationship doing that.

I have to tell you that even if you have been as married for as long as I have men can still hurt your feelings and get to you and you can still fall out, argue and row but its the bit after that makes all the difference, knowing that despite your differences you don't want to be with anyone else.  If you can make lifes journey with one person thats great but your not a failure if you do it with many people too

Iife is not really about heartache and happiness its really about the journey and about having the ability and capacity to cope with whatever life throws at you because despite us you just don't know whats going to happen later on.

Much love and happiness

Suzi

he's never been in a real adult relationship and has only slept with 3 girls even though he's 24, he used to talk about experiencing other girls before settling down with me. but now he doesnt talk about other girls anymore, just me. i wanted to know if he was sincere, but yeah i will dive in head first and just trust him with all my heart.

Hello Heart,

I hope that neither Suzi or yourself will mind me butting in here, but I must make you aware that we are not allowed as readers on Mystic Boards to give you a reading or directly answer any questions about a person other than yourself: a so called third party reading.

Without giving you a formal reading however (these are mainly my opinions and first impressions), I feel that for you to dive in head first and trust him with all your heart would be a recipe for disaster. You could be rushing in where angels might fear to tread, and could over the longer term seriously regret your on the spot feeling of being pressured decision.

He wants you to commit to being with him, but where is the sign of his genuine commitment to you?

Telling you in detail about his other sexual conquests (if he has) strongly suggests to me that he could soon be talking to the next woman he wants to sleep with about having earlier gone to bed with you.

You are I feel quite correct in saying that he has never been in a real adult relationship before, and I am to be honest having great difficulty seeing him having a real adult relationship with you now.

Being 24 might legally make him an adult in your country, but being a true adult and taking complete responsibility for your actions and their consequences in other people's lives does not happen automatically with anyone at any particular age.

What you should be asking yourself is as to whether he is just wanting to be honest and upfront with you that he has previously slept with other women, or as I suspect might be the case it is an outward symptom of his feelings of sexual inadequacy and his insensitivity to your womanly feelings.

A person who genuinely loves you normally does not go on and on about who they were with beforehand, unless they are planning to add you to their constantly growing list of conquests like one more trophy.

If he told you about the other women he has been with once so that you do not find out any other way and think that he was attempting to hide it from you and hurt your feelings, that is probably OK.

But if he is doing this to boast about how many women he has slept with and use you to make himself believe that he is God's gift to womankind and that you do not deserve any better treatment than this from a man who professes to love and care for you, show him the door and your foot in that order.

My advice for what you may feel it is worth without using the cards, is to slowly but safely give him the opportunity to earn your trust, before you place all your faith in him.

Take it slowly and while you should not see everything he does as a possible sign of his betrayal and infidelity, go into this relationship with both your eyes fully open.

Do not be blinded to any solid evidence which is staring you squarely in the face that he is not all that he claims to be by your love for and your strong physical attraction to him.

Hoping that this helps and does not unintentionally offend. I sincerely hope that I am completely wrong about what I am presently feeling about this man and his true intentions towards you.

You deserve all the love, respect and happiness in this world and this life, which any other person does (man or woman).

Never settle for second best!

Be kinder to yourself,

EoT