Hi would really like a relationship reading. Need guidance here.

Sindy,

In order to give you this reading, I would first require some extra information from you.

Does the relationship on which your reading is to be based already exist, and if not what are you yourself actively doing in order to find a man who has most of the positive qualities which you are looking for in your prospective life partner?

And a man whom at the same time lacks most of the negative qualities which you would either be unable or unwilling to accept in someone with whom you are living under the same roof, for more than a day at a time?

Please help me to better help you with this by answering the above questions, at your earliest possible convenience.

Loving regards,

EoT

Hiya,
I would like a reading to be past present and future. I am currently looking for a man with the right qualities but seem to end up with the wrong ones. There are a few I like at the moment. I would consider a man who doesn't have all the qualities I require. I hope this helps you.
Thank you.

Dear Sindy,

Yes this undoubtedly does help me to understand your situation better, although it is probably not going to give you the reading and the answers which you were expecting and hoping to receive.

You cannot be given a relationship or compatibility reading about a relationship which does not yet exist, and making predictions about when, where and with whom this will happen sometime in the future is fortune telling, is not the purpose of my intuitive readings, and is probably as reliable as flipping a coin or tossing a die in giving you any indication of whether or not it is felt that you are in there in the love stakes, with an above average chance.

Such predictions assume that nothing will happen in the meantime which could possibly affect the outcome (this never happens in the real world), and also assumes that nothing the you can do or not do in the meantime is going to make the slightest difference, as the future is already according to such people 100% predestined or solidly set in stone (fatalism).

If our future including our love life has already been decided for us well ahead of time, then this removes any responsibility from us to do anything to help ourselves, and since you say that you are currently looking which presumably means that you already have a fairly clear idea of the qualities you are looking for in your partner, and are regularly getting out of your home and visiting the places where you would most expect to meet the type of man best described by your list, then this is definitely not for you.

Why would you want to be given a reading about your love life up until now or lack thereof unless of course you are testing your reader's ability to do so? If on the other hand you had asked me as to what lessons you were meant to take from the past and bring with you into what is happening now, that is a very different thing and would be a valid question on which to base this reading.

I was pleased as punch to hear for your sake that you are open and willing to considering a man who does not have all the positive qualities on your list, because with due respect if you did hold out for such a person you could potentially be waiting indefinitely for someone who does not exist on this planet.

So the focus of your reading soon to follow below (yes we are finally getting to give it to you) is now squarely back upon the person whom requested it. You are essentially the co-creator of your future love life through what you consciously do with the intention to help yourself in the present moment.

The type of reading given on this forum is commonly accepted to only refer to the period of the next six months or so. This means that anything that happens beyond approximately early August of this year would be beyond the scope of this particular reading. Now can you see why predicting what your future love life will be like with nothing solid to base those predictions upon is often so unreliable and frequently gives so many false positives or false negatives, that it is likely to be of little or no practical use to you in finding him?

--------------Your reading begins here---------  

When I asked the question what could this woman practically do during the next six months in addition to what she is already doing so well to significantly increase her chances of finding a suitable partner to first become her best friend and later to possibly become her lover, I received a rather strange at least on the surface answer coming through me on your behalf.

Your reading is for all intensive purposes saying that in order for you to make any forward progress in finding a man who would be both able and willing to give you the type of deep and lasting love which I feel you so richly deserve, you will first be required to unlearn a series of negative lessons which you have unconsciously picked up and brought with you from your past, then learn some new more positive ones to take their place.

This could in hindsight be the real reason behind why you were asking for a reading about your earlier love life. It is not the actual events in any past romances of yours which are so important, but rather it is the meaning which you associate in your mind with those events which will mainly determine how lovable you feel and therefore whether you believe you deserve to be happy.

It appears from what I am reading between the lines about you (or should I say hearing between the lines about you) that through no fault of your own which means that beating yourself up for what has happened is being totally unfair to yourself, you have learned a series of negative lessons or meanings from what has happened to you in matters of your heart in the past. And to make things worse you are like so many men and women dragging this negative emotional baggage along with you into any relationship you either have now or in the future.

And before you disagree with me about this I must remind you that most if not all of these negative lessons or meanings are in your unconscious, where you would not by definition normally be aware of them outside of your dreams or without a therapy session with a qualified doctor or professional counsellor, who has special techniques which can be used to access this unconscious material in a gradual and safe manner.

Your reading does not go into any further detail about exactly what these negative lessons from your past love life were or are, and it is instead encouraging you to examine and think more deeply about what it or they could possibly be in your case.

It is felt that the next six months will be a valuable opportunity for you to do some soul searching (if you need some professional help to do this, then so be it) with the intention to bring these negative lessons or emotional habits closer to the surface, where they can be seen more clearly in the light of day and be finally seen to be self sabotaging or self confidence destroying that you would be far better off without them. But there is no useful purpose in getting rid of them without having something better to replace them, and your therapist/doctor/counsellor or other professional is best prepared and trained to assist you with this process.

The next six months will consequently it is felt be a time of deeper self examination and of unlearning these negative lessons which up until now have prevented you from taking maximum advantage of any love opportunities that have come, mainly because you did not believe that you deserved to be loved and respected for being the wonderful and kind woman you already are without always having a man in your life to tell you so on a daily basis.

No promises or guarantees mind you about happily ever after and wedding bells, but without you doing this inner work beforehand your reading can almost guarantee that you will still be asking one of us this identical question in another 12 months time from now.

Hoping that my effort helps and does not unintentionally confuse you further. Your future love life will be I sense based upon what I hear through your reading to a large degree determined by how successful or otherwise you are at doing what is suggested to you above, with your best interests always in my mind and heart.

Loving regards,

EoT

Thanks for your reading. I guess your are right about a lot of things here.