hi i have been encountering people that aren't understanding or sympathetic or act like somehow i am less knowledgeable then them, it's creating a lot of arguements but i feel like the points i make go over their head and it turns into an argument

my question is what is attracting this situation? what in me is? thanks

thank you so much cascade you rock!

i have been passive for so long that i feel the need to be more assertive and have been expressing myself honestly but respectuflly but no matter what i say to them i am always wrong. Thank God it's not me lol!

Thank you for the wonderful reading!

Hey waterfountain, I'm not a psychic reader, but I was reading your post thinking how I can totally put myself in your shoes! So if I may: here is one thing I have found about energies who attract each other. I was always very passive in the past too, and found that when I would want to assert myself it would somehow blow back up in my face. And still does, although I think people should really expect me to assert my true opinions these days (so I don't know why they react so much to something they should know is coming). People always have to shoot me down. But the thing is, I feel I have attracted these reactive shoot-you-down energies myself. It's because we attract the energies in people that are energies we ourselves need to work on. Assertiveness can sometimes mean argumentation without careful delineation of what one is arguing. You know how they say opposites attract? When we have a lot of passive energy we are likely to attract people with a lot of assertive energy. It is in order to encourage us to develop assertive energy, but as we do, it becomes conflicting. The assertive people unconsciously were attracting passive energy so they could develop that trait, but now there is an excess of assertive energy. It's what happens when two alphas come together, in order to work out who's boss, there has to be a battle. But generally that is how life tends to work. We are always battling between balances of energy in ourselves and with those around us. When we gain more and more assertive energy, we are naturally going to be drawn into battle. I think it's the nature of that energy, and until we get a firm grasp of it (which in many cases can take a full lifetime--which is why some people have continuous drama) we will be in battle to gain the balance we truly seek. So don't think of it as anybody directly attacking you or your intelligence. Think of it as how both parties are in the midst of a lesson on how to deal with assertion. How do we keep our own power and authority without shutting the power and authority of the other person down? It's tricky, of course. It really takes both parties to have a firm understanding of maintaining that balance. I still continually attract that energy in my life. What we have to do is change our perspective on it. Like Cascade of Light says, you have the opportunity to slow down and smile and wait. Wise advice! I think I will take this advice too! Is this what you are going through too?

Also, I think there are some people who are just nuts! lol and they just shoot others down for no good reason! Don't listen to those ones!

Caithiggs...I agree with you to some point.  Opposites do attract, yes.  But, as I see it, we attract that which we fear.  Waterfountain, could it be that you are allowing yourself to feel as if these people believe they have more knowledge than you?  Are you expecting an argument?  Are you overreacting?  Do you have a fear of being perceived as less than another?  

I am coming from a similar place.  Having spent years feeling as if people view me as, perhaps, less of an intellect or less of a person, I feel what you are expressing.  Just as Cascade of Light responded, slow down.  Do not be quick to assume that a person is feeling this way towards you.  Sometimes when we finally decide to be more aggressive than passive, we over respond.  We "puff up" more than is needed, and it becomes an attack of sorts from us.

Perhaps your base of knowledge is really more than these people can relate.  Acting aloof or superior just might be a response to mask that they truly do not understand what it is that you are trying to say.  Instead of engaging in an argument and trying to win, relax and look at the viewpoint of the person you are speaking with.  You do not have to agree, you do not have to sway from your own view, but be empathetic to the place from which the person is responding. If you come from a place of understanding and listening, the other person might be more receptive to what it is you are saying.  If you take away the argument, growth, listening, understanding can come from it.

And, sometimes it feels great to know that the other person just isn't going to get it, and there is no reason to use any more energy to try and make them see your way.  This might be what it is you need to learn...when to pull back.  It in no way means you are less of a person, or less knowlegeable. Maybe these people are not ready to receive the knowledge that you possess.