Dear Krystal,

Yes you are doing it right in that you are requesting a follow up to or update of the reading which I gave you way back on January 4th of this year, under the same thread. It makes more practical sense to me and also makes my task an easier one to be able to simply look back to what I wrote over 10 months ago near the top of this thread, although you were probably fortunate that I did not miss it, when looking for new requests with zero responses.

You asked:

And what immediately came to my mind was the strong overpowering feeling that if anyone deserves to find some more love and happiness in her life after the tragic death of her boyfriend Chris as a result of an accident, then you are one of the most deserving of all people whom I am privileged to include amongst my internet friends.

In order to reliably predict whether your relationship with this guy is likely to progress beyond remaining just good friends, I would need to give you a third party reading about him, which I am not allowed to do under the forum rules.

I can try doing this indirectly through you, but any predictions made will be due to their indirect nature less reliable for you to base any important decisions upon when deciding how long you are willing to wait for him to want to take your relationship to the next level (which is obviously what you most want to happen).

My feelings based entirely on this one isolated reading (so be especially careful when putting all your faith and hope for the future of your relationship completely in this reading) are that while anything which is within the laws of the Universe is possible in theory, this is not going to be plain sailing, and unfortunately while he is now seeing you regularly again and talking to you, he I sense that he is not yet entirely out of the woods when it comes to emotionally separating from his ex "for good" or permanently.

The Tarot card called The Magician which I drew as your focus card for this month's reading hi-lights the often major difference between what is possible within this relationship and what is the most probable outcome if no factors change in the meantime. In theory at least the possibility of him taking things to the next level without you prompting him to do this are near to 100%. But the probability that he will do the same thing is currently perhaps not much above that which would be realistically expected by chance alone (50%).

Followers of New Age beliefs or eternal optimists would try to convince us that if only we believe strongly and deeply enough that the relationship is going to grow from strength to strength and blossom into love, that it is guaranteed to happen without any further effort on our part to help things along.

While your reading agrees that it must be comforting for these eternal optimists and New Agers to believe that positive thinking conquers all, out in the real world which many people view more as being a maze or impenetrable jungle in which it is all too easy to get lost the situation is not anything like as simple or straight forward as leaving everything entirely to random destiny or fate.

A stage magician may appear on the surface by magic to manifest or materialise solid objects apparently out of thin air by the wave of their wands and a few choice magic words, but below the surface much of the preparation for the trick has to be done out of the sight of the audience.

Similarly in a real world relationship, while things between the partners can frequently appear to virtually overnight improve completely by themselves, it takes a lot of preparation and a willingness to communicate and compromise between them in order to lay the foundation for these changes which will only come later through a maintained and well planned effort.

A major positive turn around in your relationship during the next six months commonly accepted to be covered by your reading might seem to others outside of your relationship to have happened spontaneously, but in reality getting this relationship of yours back on track or going back in the direction which you are wanting it to is undoubtedly going to require hard work and sacrifice of other things along the way if you BOTH want this to happen badly enough. If however he wants you to remain good friends beyond the next six months, that would also be beyond the scope of this particular reading to determine.

In summary during the next six months it is felt through this reading and specifically your focus card of The Magician that for all intensive purposes he will only want to remain your good friend or companion for this period.

But that if you are willing to and patient enough to wait for him to fully open his heart to you more than six months from now that all your efforts during the next half year NOT to push him into sealing his commitment to you with an engagement or wedding ring before he is emotionally prepared to free himself entirely of his ex forever, could eventually be given its just reward, or alternately give you who you most want as both a lover and life partner.

Wishing you and your still emotionally confused guy all the very best for your future as separate individuals, as a united in love couple, or both.

Namaste,

EoT  

EOT....sorry it has taken soooo long for me to get back with you!  Thank you so much for responding..I appreciate it very much!!

Thank you that really means a lot...I feel like I struggle so much....and all I try and do is be the best person I can be!  I have my faults just like anyone else..I just wanna be happy, and I feel like that it will never happen for me...I just keep pushing forward and hope that things will all come together.

That's what I was afraid of...I don't think he has fully separated from any of his past exes.  His words are so contradictory when it comes to us...that I will probably be forever confused lol.  Despite that, he is a great friend...and I do love him (not sure if in love with him) but I love him non the less.  If it wasnt for him, I honestly don't know if I would have been able to make it thru the death of Chris...maybe thats what he is in my life for?!  My grandmother always said she sees us together...she could never put her finger on it...but she just seen it.  I don't know if she is right...I guess time will tell.  

I will patiently wait and see what happens...I think he is worth it, if he wasnt I don't think we would have gotten as close as we have...but time will tell and if for whatever reason it never does...hopefully we can remain just as close.

Thank you again   You are truly a guiding light, at least for this girl

Krystal,

Just take as long as you feel the need to. God and my family and my own health willing, I will still be back here to greet and read for you on your return.

It is always better late than never: I always say.

Yes I think that the quality of patience is in very short supply these days, but that it can often move mountains and perform what appear to be miracles in eventually making an event possible that would have seemed impossible, only days or weeks before.

Only you can decide whether or not you feel that he is worth the waiting, but no matter how patient you might be, you must make it clear to him from the start that you still have the rest of your life to live as you best see fit to do so, and even a saint (which we are not) has his or her limits with regards to what they are willing to put up with, and for how long.

There may come a time when you will be forced by your ticking biological clock to say that enough is more than enough to him, but at least until then and well beyond I will of course continue to fully support and respect any decisions which you make in this sensitive, highly personal area of your life.

May your path be bright and full of light everywhere you go.

EoT