Hi,
I am requesting a reading about me. Seems like I have been having really bad luck in love life for a while. I would like a reading for my upcoming time. Wondering if circumstance will change or stay the same.

Thank you

Hey Parminder,

Please do not as has already happened recently with another member recently on this board misinterpret what I am about to say as me prejudging you, or me being insensitive to your hurt feelings and what appears to be bad luck in love, but things in this direction will only I feel from this reading change for the better, once you are both able and willing to get past the largely unconscious belief that your difficulties in forming and maintaining a satisfying relationship of a romantic nature are all your fault, or that you are somehow destined by cruel fate to spend the rest of your life alone, without someone to love and care for you.

Now it is perfectly understandable from your negative experiences with matters of your heart up until this point in your life that you well might be tempted to take on these self sabotaging beliefs as your own, and to subsequently allow them to express themselves in your love life (or lack thereof), simply because you may not believe that you deserve any better treatment from life than this. I am acutely sensitive to the emotional pain this must be causing you.

But the evidence is staring us both in the face so why can't you see it that you are doing your very best with what you have, and that therefore nobody especially yourself should feel in any way embarrassed or ashamed for having what is unfortunately an all too common human experience at any age of feeling lonely and unloved.

Your reading is then going on to suggest that if you want to eventually reduce if not totally eliminate the incredible negative power these well rehearsed beliefs are having over you in the way of preventing you from enjoying a satisfying social and love life, it is not enough for you to wish them away or for you to try to empty your mind of all thoughts (which is by definition impossible anyway) and hope that they will eventually disappear entirely by themselves without any further effort on your part, you are barking up the wrong tree or quite unintentionally making this much more difficult for yourself than it should otherwise be. Which only makes the whole downward spiral of depressing thoughts which you are currently caught in that much more difficult to treat.

It has been said many times by people who are undoubtedly much wiser and more in tune with their inner wisdom than both of us mere mortals, that nature hates or abhors an empty space or vacuum. If it detects at any point that your mind is temporarily empty of thoughts (even for a millisecond), then it cannot seem to help itself by immediately filling the relatively empty space with even more negative and self defeating thoughts when compared to those existing dark thoughts which you wrongly imagined that you had just rid yourself of.

During the next six months or so, instead of attempting to make these negative thoughts go away and by so doing create an empty space which nature will instantly tend to fill with even worse ones than you had before concerning your seeming inability to find a suitable partner and the possible reasons why this is happening (usually those of a self criticising nature), work towards slowly but surely pushing them aside and replacing them with  much more positive and self loving ones.

At first it will feel to you that you are only making this up in your own mind and that you are fooling yourself into believing that there is indeed someone special out there waiting patiently to love and care for you, but if you practise these love affirming beliefs often and regularly enough over the space of several weeks you should finally feel you are making some useful progress in the right direction once again.

Your reading is consequently encouraging and supporting you in your ongoing efforts to free yourself of these negative beliefs, which are presently holding you back from being able to fully open your heart to and trust enough in yourself and the other person to give these friendly suggestions a fair trial.

In direct proportion to how successful you are in replacing these negative but at the same time perfectly human and understandable beliefs with those which are much more positive and therefore much more helpful in giving you the type of deep and lasting love which you so richly deserve to have just as much as the next person does, so will equally you experience success in drawing a suitable partner to you between now and the beginning of April 2011 (approximately the next six months after this request was made).

You are neither destined nor doomed by unfair or cruel fate to spend your life alone without someone who should consider themselves most fortunate to be loved and cared for by someone as decent, loving and generous as your reading tells me that you are, UNLESS YOU CONTINUE TO BELIEVE AND CONSTANTLY DWELL UPON THESE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS (STINKING THINKING), AND BY SO DOING UNINTENTIONALLY CREATE A NEGATIVE SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY OF LONELINESS AND SADNESS FOR YOURSELF, WHEN IT IS KNOWN BY THE UNIVERSE THAT YOU DESERVE ONLY THE VERY BEST OF LOVE AND LIFE.

What do you have to lose by at least giving this suggested method of potentially freeing yourself forever from these self confidence destroying thoughts your best shot?

Other than perhaps your feelings of loneliness, emptiness and sadness?

Start by becoming your own best friend, instead of your own worst enemy.

L&L,

eye_of_tiger  

Thank you for the kind advise. I was hoping to get a reading just so I can indulge upon some hope.

You are very welcome for the reading.

But it (your reading for this month) is already noticeably hopeful, positive and upbeat in both its language and approach.

Have I failed as your reader to communicate this clearly to you, or are you instead (as I have been myself frequently in the past) feeling so down at the present moment that you missed the important point(s) for renewed hope in your reading?

If either of these possibilities is true, I am genuinely saddened and sorry.

It is my feeling that overall your reading was very positive and encouraging, in that it offered you a valid reason for increased hope for your future, if you are able and willing to apply the principles which it suggests and you manage by your own efforts to replace the negative thoughts with more confident, life affirming ones which could possibly over the space of the next six months mean a large, happy and successful turnaround in your life direction as a whole.

And this method could equally be applied in practise to any life area which is presently of most concern to you. It is not merely confined to your love life, working life, social life or spiritual life? It is a broad spectrum tool for positive change in your life, and therefore should make you not only feel more hopeful and confident about yourself and your abilities, but also motivate you to keep going in spite of any further challenges placed in your path from now on.

I can offer you this positive tool for change in the true spirit of love and friendship, but I cannot and do not have the right to force you to use it. It is a gift from me to you, which comes with no strings attached to it.

Blessed be,

EoT  

Thank you again, I begining to understand as I apply positive thoughts in all aspects of my life. If you do have a tool, I would like to experiment with it.
Thank you again