I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. Lately we have been distant. I want to know where we are going with this, and really if he is the one for me. It's hard being young and holding on.

Also, my life seems to be in a complete shuffle, will things pick up with relationships with friends/family/money??

Thank you so much for your time

-KL  

Hi,

I so agree about it being hard to be young and holding on. You are just 19, such a wonderful age to be. A fragile heart and so much love to share and give to everyone.

There is an impatience that comes with that age too. So why, instead of being out enjoying yourself you are clinging to this relationship, and you know deep down inside that things are not as they should be, don't you. Three years is a very long time for a teenager, enduring these growing years together makes a bond that will last forever in our hearts but may not always last in reality as things physically change between the two of you. You have grown from a young person of 16 to the more independent lady that you are now. You have more strength and power and wisdom, you know what you want and you have dreams and goals of your own too.
Everyone wants a happy family, everyone wants to know the future and that things will be alright. You have a great opportunity before you and all you need to do is to seize it with both hands. But you need to have open eyes to see the opportunities as they arise and to make them work out as you desire.

If you are always dwelling on the status of your relationship then you will miss other things that come by, friends may get bored with your single track of thought, family have had to contend with another person in your life and adapt to it too.

Please look after your inner circle, they are the ones that will stay with you  constantly rather than relationships that may come and go.

You are in two minds, should you decide to end the relationship or shoud you fight for it? On one hand you have every opportuity you could wish for, on the other, you look into the distance and want more. At your age I know what I would have done. I would have moved on and set things straight with my family and friends and then opened myself to a new relationship.

You may decide differently, to wait, to stick around and see what he does next. But bear in mind that you are half of this situation, speak to him and ask him the problem, what have you got to lose?

Cassie x

Dear KL,

As I am presently uncertain as to whether Cassie intended this to be another reading so close to your previous one or alternately as just wise and friendly woman to woman love advice, I am hesitant to know what if anything I can practically and reasonably do to improve on what has already been said so well.

Only if Cassie's posting was NOT meant to be a reading about the same relationship well before you were eligible for another one, my offer as described above still stands.

Yours faithfully,

EoT  

Sorry I have not answered lately. I greatly appreciate everyone's advice. Unfortunately the relationship has ended for the time being. I am not sure what is it store for me now or the future however I will be posting for another reading in a few months. Thanks again!

xo
KL