Well we started dating on July 2nd, but he broke up with me on July 28th.  He stated it wasn't me and that I was the perfect girlfriend and gorgeous but that he should be cuddling with me and being romantic and he thought he wanted a steady girlfriend, but yet doesn't.  Of course it hurt, but we remain friends till this day.  Although we are friends we still did kiss and held hands but we never had sex really since we broke up (sorry if that was too much info).  Just recently, he told me we should continue to be friends, but it would be hard on both of us to hangout right now (I guess b/c of the connection we have).  The friends thing really doesn't hurt me, as we are still civil, but I do still care about him and often wonder if we'll get back together in the future.  There's even a possibility we may work in the same place together (that's if I score an interview and can get the job as it's high paying).  

I'm a 20 year old cancer and he's a 26 (soon to be 27) year old libra.

Dear Tonessa,

Firstly I wanted to be one of the first people to welcome you to the Mystic Board forums, and especially to this the Psychic Reading board.

I also wanted to apologize to you in person for the delay in getting back to you about this as quickly as it is my usual habit to, as to be perfectly honest with you your situation with your boyfriend is so remarkably similar to what is currently happening to our own nearly 28 year old daughter, that your request made me uncomfortable because it was too close to home for comfort, if you understand what I mean.

This could be a big part of the reason why you may have thought that nobody on this forum was willing to offer you a reading, and since this issue is obviously important to you and I agree it is, you chose to then request a picture reading in the hope you would have better luck there in getting the reading for which you are eligible every 30 days or so on any one of the several different reading boards.

So with my genuine apology and explanation as to why your picture reading request has now been made instantly invalid out of the way, let us now without any further unnecessary delay get down to the process to giving you your actual reading.

BTW I am not into astrology, so I will not be using the information you have provided about your respective Sun signs in your reading if that is OK with you.



Looking back at what you have just told me both in what you have written as well as what extra I am reading between the lines, I feel based on your reading that for the two of you to remain just good friends would be a personal form of torture that you would not be willing to subject yourself for very long at a time. At best it would be an uncomfortable way of you keeping him around you on the assumption that he will eventually work out what he really expects to get from any future relationship he has with you (if indeed he does decide to come back to you as your lover and not simply as your friend), but I feel that the emotional strain this waiting indefinitely would place upon you could easily destroy any of your remaining self confidence.

While it is always possible that he will at some later stage change his mind and have a physical as well as a true love relationship with you, if I were you, it would be dishonest of me if I told you through this reading that I saw this happening at least during the next six months, which is the commonly accepted period of time thought to be covered by a reading of the type given here.

It was reassuring in a way to me that he made such a special point of letting you know that what problems he is experiencing are not your fault. You he says have been the perfect girlfriend, you are gorgeous and if the situation had been different with him, he would have never hesitated to give you the love and respect you so deserve to receive from a man.

I cannot unfortunately directly read what is in his mind and heart at present and what plans if any he has to eventually return to you, as this would require me to give you a third part reading, which I am not either willing or allowed to do according to the forum rules which have been put in place by this site's owner for good reasons. A third party reading is one which is about any person other than the valued member who originally requested it.

In this case, YOU!

Any attempt by me to read his intentions would be seen as an invasion of his personal right to his own privacy of his thoughts and feelings, especially since he does not even know that we exist, let alone having requested a reading from us. No matter how much I recognize that such information about him could be helpful to you in getting your relationship back on track, both my psychic hands are effectively tied tightly behind my back when it comes to providing you with such information by third party.

My impressions for what you may feel they are worth, as you admitted in your introduction that you have given aura readings in the past to other people and consequently feel more comfortable receiving one of those when compared to the intuitive type of reading which I am giving you now is that any attempt by you to convince him that you are the only woman in the world for him, will be seen by him as interfering in what he regards is his business alone.

And that is one of the things that really concerns me about your situation. By isolating himself like he has from you, the longer this continues as it is presently going, the more will be the chance will be that he will then look for comfort and reassurance in the arms of another woman.

So you are in the extremely difficult position of many young women including our own daughter where if you try to push things along as you want them to happen according to your own rigid time schedule before he is prepared to, you will almost certainly lose him.

But on the other hand if you leave things too long as they are now, you could potentially not only lose him, but to another woman. I see your only viable option to be to somehow and this is always much easier said than done find the right balance between giving him the distance and thinking space he needs to get his feelings about you made clearer, but at the same time not to leave it so long that he strays right into the arms and bed of another woman because he feels you are trying to control him, and his at the moment particularly fragile male ego feels too threatened to allow you to do this.

If you had no longer cared about him and no longer had any feelings of love for him, this would not be such a major issue for you, and both of us would probably never have met on this forum. But is is undoubtedly a significant and ongoing major emotional issue for you as I do not need to be particularly psychic or intuitively gifted to be able to plainly see the sheer depth of the love which you still feel in your heart for this man.

I wish you all the very best for the future, and sincerely hope that the balance approach to your relationship difficulties with him which are offered in this reading, will eventually drive him back into your waiting arms. Only time and a lot of patience both with him as well as with yourself as yet another fallible human being, will I feel tell if what I am feeling are your chances of getting back together as a couple over the longer term (over 6 months from now) will be ultimately proven to have been correct.

Many blessings of joy and love to you both,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you very much.  I am so sorry that your daughter has to go through it too.  Trust me, I know it sucks so bad no matter what the circumstances are.

Tonessa,

You are very welcome for the reading and I completely trust in your assertion that whatever the situation might be, that this can definitely suck big time.

Be kind to yourself,

EoT