I request some insight regarding love.  If life was any quieter, I would cease to exist.  I have been on my own for almost a decade.  I feel like a child saying so but, I've been so lonely.  Any help regarding past, present and future would be great.  Also, there has been someone that caught my eye recently and it's just frustrating the hell out of me.  Do I need to tell you why or can you see it?
My name is Peta.  Female.  Born on the 4th December, 1973.
I feel like asking for help with this is long overdue.  Yesiree.  I thank you very humbly in advance, yesiree.

Also, I just posted a photo in the picture reading forum, in case that is helpful.

Dear Peta,

Your photo in the other board is likely to be removed, as you have not actually requested a reading as is required in that or any of the other reading forums. This might seem a formality to you, but by law we are not allowed to force a reading upon anyone, but must first wait patiently for their written request. Anything I say here will be completely independent of any information which I may have gained from your picture, if I had instead been giving you a photo reading.

Could it be that it's just frustrating the hell out of you (your words and not mine) because this man is already either spoken for or married? I do get a definite feeling of unrequited or forbidden love with your reading and while I feel that you deserve all the happiness in the world and that being alone for almost 10 years would be extremely difficult regardless of your age, I am not getting particularly good vibrations about this whole messy situation or love triangle. I do not think that loneliness is age specific, and indeed as the biological clock keeps ticking, the urgency of finding a suitable partner normally grows greater by the day.

The often heard expression (no offence is intended to anyone here) that all the available men are either gay or taken seems to apply under these circumstances, and to be able to offer you a positive outcome for your reading, I must first predict the failure of an existing relationship in order to make yours possible.

Hey I do not wish to make it appear that I am being judgmental and think any less of you for having these feelings towards someone who might already be emotionally involved with someone else (but not necessarily still living under the same roof), but on the other hand I must remain honest about what I am seeing and tell it like it is. Otherwise, there is no purpose for me to continue giving readings to tell my friends only what I know that they most want to hear.

Can you then appreciate the difficult predicament this places me in as both your friend and reader (and from one Aussie to another)? I would not wish to do anything which would discourage you from finding someone else who will love and respect you for being the wonderful woman whom I know you are, but in all honesty I must by giving you this reading as accurately and completely as it was given through me on your behalf.

Having not up until now during your reading consulted the cards, I decided to do so in a genuine attempt to take my own personal opinions and values out of the picture as much as is humanly possible, but your featured card only confirms in my mind what I have already been talking about so far. When I asked what the chances might be of this relationship getting off the ground during the next six months or so (there are no absolute guarantees either way about this), I drew please don't panic the card called DEATH.

Now Death is rarely interpreted as a sign these days that you are about to depart this mortal coil or cash in your chips (or kick the bucket). That is unless for example that you have already been diagnosed with a terminal illness, or are nearing your 90th year and have spent the last few of them seriously ill and completely bedridden.

No it usually means that a time of significant transition and great potential for growth and development is about to be upon you, which will involve you having to die to your old ways of thinking and doing to then be reborn or resurrected into what is effectively a new phase of your life where you are starting over again. Such a period of rapid and significant change can either be seen in a positive light as a good omen fr your chances of making it a successful one, or could equally be taken in a more negative light to mean that you have reason to fear about the challenges which still lie ahead.

Unfortunately there is a third way of looking at this, and is the one which I never like to give anyone whose deepest feelings I care about. It is also the one which I am giving to you now. Rather than this being a physical death, I see it symbolically as the death of any hope you might have of making this relationship work at all. Just as if a person has died I feel a period of mourning for a relationship which will sadly never happen is soon about to begin, although I feel that it could possibly take more than the next six months for you to fully accept that it is over in both your mind and heart. So you are not the only person who is frustrated here, but for different reasons. While I only want what is best for you and want you to feel loved ad reasonably happy, I do not wish at the same time to offer you empty words of comfort or false hope.

I do believe that with adequate time and patience of yourself and the luxury of hindsight, you will recognise what I have told you today was the truth after all, even though for you to admit it to yourself at the time would have been painful in the extreme. Another positive aspect of the card called death which may indeed be the only compensation I can offer you at present (cold comfort I know), is that the death of this relationship will then open up new possibilities for having a much less frustrating one with a man who is not already taken or spoken for.

While you continue to hold out in the remote hope that what is not far short of a miracle will happen, you may be unintentionally denying yourself of the opportunities to be loved and to be able freely express the love which you feel in your heart for someone else, without always having to worry about what other people might think or without dealing with the emotionally devastating consequences of your actions on their existing partner (plus one or more young children, as the worst possible scenario).

Sorry that I cannot offer you better news about your chances.

Yours faithfully, but this time with a heavy heart,

eye_of_tiger

eye_of_tiger, you fabulous creature, I love you.  Don't ever fear to be the bringer, to me, of difficult news.  I love you for it.

the death card you mentioned is fascinating.  the man I mentioned is someone i have felt i was meant to meet but, i have also partly felt, deep down, that  it may not be for the reason i would like it to be.  i'm not sure if you recall issues i may have mentioned during our last reading regarding the work i do.  well, though i have my own desire to change direction in that area, it was meeting this man that really cemented that for me... brought it home to me, if you will.  he is one of very few people that have turned my head in all this time and, so, i guess you can see why he has been so hard for me to forget.  i have had trouble with that whole i-know-i-was-meant-to-meet-you thing because, as far as re-iterating my own thoughts/needs in that significant area of my life, he has been a catalyst of sorts - for which i'll be always grateful.  i sit and say to the world, often, "even if he doesn't end up being the one for me, thank you so much for sending him".  so, wow, eye_of_tiger, that has death-card transition and change written all over it.  as always, that was super-well-done.
also, he was engaged last year to a young girl who left him inexplicably and suddenly and i know his heart is probably still mostly consumed by that.  just because i would've liked different news from you, doesn't mean i can't accept what you've said here.  it's probably what i already knew, deep down.  you're saying all of this will help me a lot in putting a lid on the situation and if that must involve some stinging tears for me then, i'm not frightened of those.  i'll be ok.
am i pushing my luck, dear friend from the east, if i ask about the landscape once i have cut the emotional chords with this present situation?  i do understand what you have said about ways that those chords can stop new doors from opening.  
thank you, eye_of_tiger.  your intuition is as sharp as ever,  i'm genuinely amazed by you every time we do this.  and i love you for telling it like it is, i know it must be painful for you to do sometimes and, i appreciate your diplomacy.  
love love LOVE to you x

Peta,

I don't remember ever before being described as a fabulous creature, but it feels good and I thank you sincerely for the heartfelt compliment which I believe that it was. I must confess that I laughed tears of joy and nearly had an embarrassing accident after reading your response through several times, which was by the way possibly just what my doctor would have ordered. Who says that we get nothing in return for all the time and effort we spend working on this forum on your (all people requesting readings) behalf? There are many things in this life of far more greater value than mere money.

What comprehensive and useful feedback you have so kindly provided me with.

This is as always much appreciated by yours truly!

Unfortunately it is not so much a matter of you pushing your luck to find out what the landscape would possibly look like once the energy cords which presently bind you to him are cut, but more that your reading is now complete, and cannot be revisited at this stage with another entirely different question on which to base it.

So in the absence of being able to answer your question intuitively, let us look instead using logic alone. If not cutting those cords can prevent you moving forwards with your life, then successful and permanently separating yourself from him would be reasonably expected to offer you a renewed sense of freedom and increased control over your own destiny and love life, which surely must be a positive and highly desirable goal for anyone to aspire to.

Hopefully this will offer my equally fabulous friend from the West some comfort until next time we meet, when she is once more eligible to receive another reading according to the forum rules and guidelines.



Salutations and blessings in abundance,

eye_of_tiger

That was a very warm and friendly experience.  I think a person is in very good hands when there is still a laugh to be shared with sad news.  It's wonderful.
Thanks, eye_of_tiger x