Could I have a reading please by someone?    I lost my job, I am very sad and feel very low at this moment.    However some months ago before I lost my job, I booked a trip, a non-refundable ticket for overseas.   I am going on the trip because I really need the vacation but I wonder when I come back will I get a good job?    How quickly will I find a job?   Thanks a lot.

I am genuinely sorry to hear that you have only recently lost your job, but am at the same time hesitant to make any absolute predictions or put an exact time scale on how long it will take for you to get another job after returning from your already paid up holiday, if indeed I thought that was possible. I am with respect much more concerned about what potential damage the experience may have caused to your self confidence and self respect over the longer term.

Only a qualified, properly trained and professional career guidance officer possessing a detailed knowledge of the relative availability of the type of job you are looking for in your local area is going to even begin to be able to predict the probability of this happening within the next six months (and also depending on how long you will be away on your holiday). He or she will assist you to match your qualifications and past relevant work experience to the jobs currently on offer as best you can.

So for the purposes of this reading, I am instead asking what you could do in the meantime to boost your feelings of self confidence and respect, so that when you do come home from your much needed rest break that you are feeling much more relaxed and  better about yourself in general, and especially when you get any interviews for a prospective new position.

Your interviewer will look beyond your qualifications and past experience (once they are determined to be adequate), and is then mainly interested etc in what type of person you are (honest, reliable, highly motivated etc) and whether and just how much you believe in yourself and your own ability to do that job well and on time.

In a manner you are selling yourself and your work skills to the company, and as any good salesperson knows if you do not truly believe deep down in the product you are selling, then you are unlikely to be able to convince those people who are buying that it is to their advantage to jump at the opportunity being offered to them.

So the first thing I would advise you to do, since the cost of the holiday is not recoverable (if it was I might be thinking more about suggesting that you should keep the money instead, to help you over a possible financial rough patch due to being unemployed for weeks or months, is to enjoy your holiday to the full, and to try (never easy) to temporarily distract your mind away from anything to do with losing or getting jobs.

Use this time however long it is to recharge your spiritual batteries, and to attempt to clear your mind of any unnecessary anxieties, so that you will be thinking more logically and more positively on your return to the daily grind. You will need to have everything going in your favour, to give yourself a reasonable chance of gaining suitably paid employment within the period covered by this reading (which is approximately to the very beginning of August 2010).

You will need to remain as positive about your chances as it is humanly possible to be (there will always be bad days when you will feel that you have no hope at all), but be realistic and remain flexible to any sudden changes in the local employment market that could definitely be to your advantage in getting you back into the work force, sooner instead of much later.  

And while this is all going on, choose something which is both challenging but achievable and measurable within a reasonably short period of time, with the intention to give you a feeling of being a success once again and giving you the increased hope for more success which whatever you tackle in the future, which is presently sadly lacking.

Each small success in something which is important to you one after the other will have a progressive, cumulative positive effect on your confidence in and respect for yourself. With each success building upon all the ones which went before it, you cannot fail to feel much better about yourself on so many different levels.

These levels include your feelings that your life has a renewed sense of purpose and direction, which goes far beyond whether or not you are working at the time, or what type of job it is. I am talking here mainly about using your spiritual beliefs as a way of comforting and calming you down, so that you will be able to see what direction you will need to take more clearly, and in a more mature and balanced manner.

I commend this reading to you as a possible way for you to begin to heal from the wounds of your past, so that you can start making real progress instead in the way of getting a clearer and more realistic vision of what wonderful and exciting opportunities as well as challenges still await you in the future, especially in your work area.

Salutations and blessings to you in bucket loads,

eye_of_tiger

thanks eye of tiger!    i do pretty crappy and i feel like i lost a part of myself!    i dont want to go on this vacation but I must.     i will try to remain positive.