Hi i would like to know what install for my love life.

date of birth is the 24.2.1987

Hi Paula,

Your further input is needed.

Please include any details of any current relationship you are in as well as what you are actively doing to help yourself in this area, and to increase your chances of meeting the right man for you sooner rather than much later with your response to this message.

Your reading should follow within 24 - 48 hours after I see your updated reply.

Please allow for any time zone differences between where you live and here where I live in Adelaide, South Australia in your calculations.

Don't panic and please be patient (I heard you loud and clear),

eye_of_tiger (male)

Im single at the moment and I unable get out much because of my kids,

But i have join a playgroup. I do walk tothe  shops a fair bit.... and when i can i try and go out for few drinks...

It hard because i dont know many people where i am

Hi Paula,  

The first step to successfully solving any problem is to first clearly define it.

I will begin my response by telling you once again what you probably already know too well. Your main problem as I see it is that you have limited to zero social opportunities to be able to meet men of similar interests and a similar age group to your own. With rare exceptions you are hardly likely to meet the man for you at your child's playgroup. A walk to the shops is also hardly likely to present you with a prospective partner, and "new" father for your kids. It depends mainly where you drink and with whom you drink as to whether this is going to be of any advantage to you in seeking a mature and lasting relationship from a man.

Also as a loving and responsible parent you naturally want to offer them the best possible start in life. Finding a suitable and trustworthy baby sitter can be a frustrating and expensive experience at any time, let alone when living in a different and relatively new place where you lack the emotional and financial support network of your friends and family members who you left behind you.

And as a responsible protector of your children by the end of the day when the night life finally gets going, to be honest you have very little energy left over in reserve to want to go out and enjoy yourself and perhaps find some male companionship. And who takes care of your children when you do motivate yourself enough to give it a try?

Now that I have more clearly defined your problem as I see it, let us now move on to your actual reading, with the positive intention to provide you with some useful insights and solutions to make this easier for you.

The Five of Swords which is your featured card for this reading basically says that sometimes it is better to accept that there is no benefit served by trying to win every single one of our personal battles, so that it is better to turn and walk away so that each of us will still have a chance of winning the overall war in the end.

Now I am not suggesting through this reading that you should permanently give up on the whole idea of ever having a special man in your life who loves and respects you, ever again. But there is such a thing as trying too hard. I am also not saying that you should go out looking for a man as if you are going into combat. This card is to be interpreted symbolically -  not taken literally or at face value. The image on the face of the card stands in place of something or some situation corresponding to it in your real outer world.

So in summary what this particular card IS telling you loud and clear is not to make all your social activities focus entirely on finding a mate. Of course you can always look but don't touch unless you are first reasonably certain about him at the men when you go out with your female friends.

But simply try to ensure that some of the things which you do while you are out of your house and personal comfort zone have nothing at all to do with you finding a soul mate. Learn to relax more and enjoy the company of your friends, as I feel that when what you are waiting for eventually happens, that you will meet him through one of your existing friends - possibly on a double date.

Do not constantly try to burn your midnight candle at both ends and exhaust yourself, if you discover that it is just not your night when it comes to matters of your heart. Getting angry both with yourself and your friends for a "no man night" is only guaranteed to make you less attractive to the type of man you have been looking for in the way of his personality strengths and weaknesses when they are compared to your own.

If you do not at the same time take as much care of yourself as you do of your children, what useful good are you going to be to them if you lose your health and peace of mind in the process? Just as the figure on the face of this card is doing by turning in the opposite direction to his opponent and walking away, take whatever positive lessons you are able from your past experiences with men, turn 180 degrees from open confrontation, then leave most if not all of your negative emotional baggage from past relationships behind you.

See if any of the other mothers at the playgroup would be happy to be your baby sitter for the night, then return the favour when she wants to go out in place of exchanging money. Just as some people are members of a driving pool to conserve fossil fuel by all going to work in the same car, you might think about establishing  a baby sitting pool which is to every mother in the play group's common benefit.

If you do not have your own support network handy and cannot afford to pay very much to hire a child minder, then explore social or council services for single mothers through no fault of their own in your local area.

Make a list of the positive qualities you are looking for in a man, as well as a second list of the negative qualities you will not accept under any circumstances. Then use your two lists to help you decide which places you could visit with your friends going along with you for safety sake and moral support, and where you would most expect to meet the type of man best described by the lists.

Now I am not going to insult your intelligence by telling you that this will be easy or that there will be no further challenges awaiting you around the next corner. I fully empathise with the difficulties you are facing in feeling trapped for doing the right thing by your children, but I am also at the same time deeply encouraged by your obvious inner strength, courage and commitment not to become your own life's entirely helpless victim, which can be clearly seen from your reading.

God Bless,

eye_of_tiger

Thanks for the reading