Hello,
My name is Sandra , female and dob is november, 17, 1968. I would love to have a reading Well, I would like to know the basics lol love life and carrer if I may request for specific subjects. But mostly , I would like to know if I have a chance with the man I love .I am very confused about his feelings for me. I don´t know if he is not interested at all ( his atitudes don´t seem to inicate that , but at the same time ... well it confuses me ) or if he is indecisive cause it would be a big life change for him or just don´t have courage to make a decision and prefers to stay in his confort zone.
I am really confused about what he wants.

thanks so much !!

Welcome Sandra,  

In order for me to tell you what feelings he has for you or what he really wants out of your relationship with him would require me to give you a third party reading which is not permitted on this site. I cannot therefore directly answer your questions which are otherwise quite understandable ones as you deserve to know exactly where you stand with him before taking things any further.

But don't get me wrong about this as I fully intend to try to determine your chances with the man you so obviously have deep feelings for, indirectly through you as the person who requested this reading. This rather nicely gets around the ruling about third party readings, because I am now only reading someone who has already given me her written permission to intuitively tune into her energy field (aura), with the positive intention to help her with this upsetting relationship problem.

It would be a major change for the both of you, and it would involve you both moving outside your personal comfort zone. But one of the things about relationships that is not in my opinion particularly likely to change in the future is that the woman has much more to lose if the relationship fails for whatever reason, compared to what the man stands to lose if things go pear shaped. While the law in many countries still tends to give preference to the woman's rights over the man's (especially if there are one or more young children involved), above all most women I sense are looking for a long term commitment and a greater sense of security in knowing that their partner will always be there to support her and possibly their kids.

Now I do not know what the situation is in your country with reference to the laws affecting separation and/or divorce, but I seriously doubt that women in Brazil are any different in their need for commitment and security from their man, compared to women in for example Australia, the United States or the United Kingdom. If the woman also makes it clear from the start that she wants children, then this need for security is even greater than if the couple remained childless.

Any human relationship requires hard work and and a lot of love and patience to keep it going smoothly, and significant risks are taken by both when entering into a romantic partnership. Taking risks is an unavoidable part of life (just be sure to make what risks you do take to be well thought out ones), but establishing a new family and having children is a major step that should never be taken lightly. If however you are looking for any guarantees that your relationship with him will eventually work out well through this reading, then with due respect I feel you are presently on the wrong planet.

Both through what you have told me about him in your request, as well as what I am reading about each of you effectively between the lines of what you wrote, I do feel that you still have a chance of getting together with him within the next six months, although the probability is roughly 50 - 50 (meaning that it could possibly go either way depending mainly on what you do or do not do in the meantime to open up the channels of communication between you).

Unless you stop looking for answers in a psychic reading about this and instead begin talking to each other honestly and face to face in the near future, and are willing to both work on these problems without excuses or always blaming the other person when things do go wrong (as they will inevitably do at some stage), then I feel that your chances would be less than average and would quickly tend to zero as you welcome in the new year. Some honest and no beating around the bush and continually avoiding the subjects which are really of concern to you is required here, if you are going to give each other and the relationship a fair go.

Hoping you will find these insights to be helpful in making your mind up as to whether you feel it is worth pursuing him, but in the end regardless of what I am telling you it is only your decision to make. My advice not knowing how long you have already been interested in him, would be to see whether you can make any further progress in the manner described above, before let us say the beginning of May 2010.

If at that stage you do not see any signs that his attitude towards you has changed, then I think the writing is on the wall. If he is already in a long term relationship with another woman either now or then, sadly I feel that your hopes that this will change within at least the next few years are effectively next to nothing.

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Thank you so much for answering and I apologize for taking so long to answer. I have been studying for a test I will take tomorrow and haven´t been on the computer. I really need to pass this test.It is for a job.
You are right about everything you said. I agree that we really need to talk.The problem is that I have been trying to do it.And I don´t know what else I can do to open up the communication between us. But I will give it one more chance althought I don´t know what I haven´t done yet.I really did everything imginable.My birthday is on Tuesday, so lets see if he will write something. If he doesn´t than I will know.
My biggest concern at the moment is my test and I hope I pass it. I really need.

thank you so much again !

Hello again Sandra,  



It was my pleasure to be given this opportunity to help you through a reading, and you must focus all your energies at the moment on passing Monday's test and getting that job. There is really no need for you to apologise for having to set your own priorities as to when or if you can afford to spend many hours on-line each and every day.



Your concern is perfectly understandable to me and I wish you all the luck in the world both with your test tomorrow and with the job which will hopefully follow from it. But at the same time I feel you are about as well prepared as you will ever be for thus test, and I feel confident you will do your best, no matter what the outcome turns out to be.



It is encouraging to me that you are trying to remain as hopeful and positive about your chances of him coming back to you by himself as it is humanly possible to be, but I did say in your reading that this could be difficult to impossible if he is unwilling to make the first move. Leave contacting him again until you at least have the results of your test and know if you have the job. You need to find the right balance for you and him between approaching him to find out what his feelings are towards you, but not at the same time pressure him into making a quick decision on the spot, which he is unprepared to make at that moment.



Unfortunately I feel that your chances of him writing to you on your birthday are close to zero. But it does not automatically follow that this is a sure sign that your relationship is over for good. Do not expect that he will send you a birthday card this year, and you will not feel quite so disappointed when he doesn't. I realise that sounds overly negative but I do not want to offer you false hope and empty words of comfort, when I honestly feel that it will not happen. See this as a long term investment in your emotional energies, rather than a short term one where the possible rewards will be immediately evident. By May next year - remember what I said about this in your reading?

Now we come to the big question I asked during your reading in so many words.

Is it possible that there is another woman in his life, with whom you are unknowingly competing for his affections?



If you do discover that you really are caught in a love triangle, there is definitely no point in you putting yourself through all this further emotional abuse from him, when I feel that you deserve much better than this from life and love.

Yours truthfully,

EoT  

thank you for answering me you are very kind

well, answering to your question , he is in a long term relationship, I just didn´t want to be so open , sorry. but the thing is , I am not so sure about it anymore cause I thought very recent pics of him ( taken last month ) and no wedding ring ( he always wore it ) why? I am not sure, but must be for a lot of reasons , but it is interesting.
and he wrote me a message for my birthday saying ; "Happy Birthday SBdM!!!! I hope your special day is filled with great joy! You deserve it. The world is a better place with you in it!"

It was a nice surprise cause I wasn´t expecting . But I don´t know if he was just being nice or trying to talk to me, I don´t know.

Thank you so much !!