Hello,
I am not sure if this is the right sub-forum to post this. My apologies if it isn't.

I have been praying on behalf of a friend who is terminally ill with cancer. I had not kept in touch with her and came to know last week of her condition. The cancer has spread through her body and she is now in a hospice. On my first visit to see her I was so saddened that I started praying for her to heal for the sake of her young daughter (given her present condition, it seems an impossible wish). Usually, after my prayers for sick people that I know, I get a cold feeling if someone I pray for has no hope of survival and a warm feeling if they are going to live. In this case I got an empty feeling at the end of my prayers which I was unable to interpret. On my second visit I tried to guage what it is that my friend, namely her spirit, wants and I thought that I got a feeling that she has to leave this world as she has to move on to her next 'agenda', but I was unsure as there were other people in the room and I couldn't meditate adequately

I think my personal feelings are clouding my interpretation of this. I was wondering if anyone else can interpret the empty feeling that I got or sense anything about this situation.

Again, my apologies if this is an inappropriate request for this sub-forum.

Hi Shanti,



Through your reading I could not agree more with your feeling that your terminally ill friend's spirit is ready to move on to the next important phase of it's development or evolution. Your impressions or instincts are in my opinion spot on.

I also completely agree with you that it is extremely difficult to read her situation or objectively, as you obviously love and care for both her and the family she will leave behind so much and are therefore very emotionally close and attached to the most likely outcome that she will indeed pass over into Spirit within a short period of time.

She will be healed in spirit and will soon be beyond her pain, but it is unfortunately too late for her worn out body to be saved, and her allotted time on Earth is nearly at an end, regardless of how much anyone wants her to stay with them.

You were even correct about the people in the same room having an affect on what you are feeling about your friend's prognosis, although I sense that you have unknowingly misinterpreted the reasons for the emptiness you are feeling.

The feeling of emptiness you are experiencing with her are not due to your intuitive abilities failing you on this sad occasion.

Neither do they mean that there is some indecision as to whether this is her time to be promoted to the higher side of life. This empty feeling is not the half way point between hot (she lives) and cold (she dies).

It is the fact that you are probably the only person in her room who is willing to accept that her death is inevitable and imminent, and is ready to let her go. Your friend's spirit longs to be free, but one or more of her relatives is holding on to the remote hope that a miracle will occur effectively at one minute to midnight, and that it will consequently not be necessary to say goodbye for now.

Often the most beautiful way to show someone how much we truly love them is to be prepared to let them go. It is also often one of the most difficult or painful things which could ever be expected of us in this life as feeling beings.

Perhaps the best thing you could do would be to somehow make it easier for them to let your friend go by sharing your spiritual beliefs with them in a sensitive manner to their own spiritual/religious beliefs (this is not the time to convert or preach to them) and to hopefully convince then that not even death itself is stronger than the love we feel for each other, and that when their own time is finally over as well that if it is your desire that you will all eventually meet again in the world of Light beyond the veil.

Your reading suggests that you do this by way of your prayers being spoken so that they can hear what you are saying, instead of attempting to give them a sermon or force your beliefs upon them during what is without doubt an upsetting and highly vulnerable time for all people concerned.

Love, Light and Peace to you all,

eye_of_tiger (male)

PS: The following verse might help to bring then some comfort and peace of mind, knowing that your friend once released will still remain closer to them now from Spirit, than the space between two consecutive heartbeats.

"Death is just an open door"

http://members.optushome.com.au/nightcob/door.html

Hi eye_of_tiger,

Thank you so much for your time and sensitive and thoughtful response to my query! I really appreciate your putting it in perspective for me and I think that you hit the nail on the head several times. It may have been one of my friend's relatives, perhaps her daughter, who didn't want to let her go, but I think I may also be responsible for clouding my own judgement as I wanted her to stay to spend more time with her daughter until she could be independent. Yet at the same time I sensed that my friend's spirit has its own path and direction that it has to take and so would determine if she miraculously survived for some more time or passed on to her next stage of evolution.

In the meantime Reality has provided the backbone for my reading. I heard a couple of hours ago that my friend passed away sometime last night, on the night of October 26th. Perhaps I sensed her passing, without realising it, as I was feverishly praying for her 'health' and 'wholesomeness' before I went to sleep last night. I woke up a few hours later unable to sleep and posted my message for guidance on this board. I suspect that she may have passed in the interim while my spirit was flailing against the inevitable.

In a sense I am glad that I seem to have read my friend's spiritual needs correctly, even if I was second-guessing myself at that time, and I am at peace with it and I sense that she is also at peace. And so I am happy for her and happy to have known her.

Thank you for sharing the  verse  "Death is but an open door". I will see if I can pass its message on to her family at an appropriate time. Again, thanks for your kind words at this time of sadness for me and her family and friends.

Shanti

Shanti,

It was my pleasure and privilege to read for someone who is such a caring friend to another, and I am in a way sorry that you did not ask me this a little sooner than you did (even if you only discovered how serious her illness was within the last week).

I wish to extend to you and her family my sincere condolences on the passing of someone who sounds to me to be an exceptional woman who gave so much to others, often at the sacrifice of her own peace of mind and health.

The words "loving and wise family matriarch" and and "peacemaker" immediately came into my mind, when I was reading your request.

The keeper of the family records?

Om Shanti Shanti Shanti,

http://www.omshanticollege.com.au/omshanticollege/AboutUs.aspx?a=17&s=1&c=156

EoT

Hello Eye_of_Tiger,

Thank you for your condolences. I don't know much about my friend's family, except for her relationship with her daughter to whom she was devoted, and your reading of her (quoted above) is accurate in that.  She was a very caring, conscientious and sincere person who never sought attention and was always low-key in her interaction. Even during this illness she never wanted others to know what she was going through. So many of us, including those who worked with her, came to know of her condition only 5 days ago, when her extended family released the information.

Her devotion to her daughter was another reason for my wondering if she wanted to stay on and that is why I decided to try to connect with her in spirit and see what she wanted to do, rather than impose my desires for her in my prayers. Her daughter, in turn, sacrificed college to take care of her mother and, with her passing, it appears that she may have to change the plans that she had for her own future. May she have her mother's strength to shape her own life and may her mother's soul rest in peace (as I believe it is).

Shanti