I recently graduated from grad school and for all of my education and qualifications I cannot find a job for the life of me. My parents are willing to help me out until I find a job, but my pride as a 25 year old woman will only let me take so much, So my question is will my situation be changing anytime in the near future?

In general I am not sure when my life became such a mess. In the last three months I would say everything has fallen apart. I lost the man of my dreams because in many ways I was too focused on myself and what I want, and what I need. I miss him everyday and hope maybe one day we can work on things. Then there was school I put that before everyone and everything and now here I am without a job and struggling.  I am an intelligent, articulate woman what exactly is going wrong with my life.

Dear MysticApple,

You are indeed a highly intelligent, articulate woman who has much reason to be justifiably proud of what she has achieved in spite of all the obstacles which have been placed in her path up until now, but until you stop beating up on yourself so much for being human and therefore by definition far from perfect as we all are, your reading is telling me that this temporary series of setbacks is set to continue for the foreseeable future.

You appear to have appointed yourself as your own judge, jury and executioner as if you are guilty until you can somehow prove yourself to be innocent of messing up your life, when to a large extent many of the factors which have progressively lead to this unfortunate series of events were never under your control at the time (and were never intended to be).

Firstly according to what I am sensing through your reading, you had no other choice that to focus most of your energies on gaining the qualifications which will eventually mean the difference between getting the job you want, and on the other hand being trapped in a job which gives you no sense of satisfaction or self respect other than it allows you to pay your bills.

You say that you feel that have lost the man of your dreams through your own fault, but my feelings are that if he could not recognise the importance to you of graduating and be willing to make some sacrifices or compromises to work around this inconvenience, then it may possibly be that he was not the right man for you after all. Although I cannot read him directly as this would require me to give you a third party reading which is not permitted on this site, he comes across indirectly to me through you as someone who can be self centered at times and lacks the maturity to be able to work cooperatively with his partner towards a shared, positive goal.

Surely further down the line it would be to both your advantages for you to gain the best qualifications and the job you want in terms of both making you happy as well as providing you as a couple with a more than adequate income. Or perhaps this is precisely what he is frightened of. You could potentially end up earning more than he does, and he wants someone to be entirely dependent on him as her breadwinner or knight in shining armor who comes to her rescue when she is down to her last few dollars.

Your reading suggests not only that you have basically done nothing wrong and have not messed up your life as you seem to believe you have, but on the contrary that you are right on track towards gaining a job which will give you much more of a positive nature in the way of boosting your self confidence than you can presently imagine it will.

You are evidently a "people person" in that whatever job you do you must spend a large proportion of your working hours in direct contact with the people who are your clients or customers. A nine to five office job where you never get to meet the general public is I feel simply not you. You find daily routines where one day is much the same as the one before frankly boring, and you would prefer if possible to be self employed doing something which you truly believe in and love to do, rather than merely working for someone else to earn large amounts of money in excess of what you require in order to make a reasonably comfortable living out of it.

Could I add that I feel you are fortunate to have two parents who love you so much, and who are willing to support you until that job you are looking for materializes? There are many people of your age group who only wish that they had someone who believed in them as much as your parents do. You also have them to thank for many of your own inner strengths which are being sorely tested now during this period of great uncertainty and long term unemployment.

Your reading is encouraging you to do whatever you are able to let your parents know what a good job they have done by bringing you up with a good head on your shoulders and always being there for you when the chips are down. While I realize that your ultimate goal is to become increasingly independent of your parents and to be able to create a life for yourself as a mature adult, do not make the mistake of biting the hand which feeds you, and prematurely breaking away from them just to prove to yourself that you can make it without anyone to help you.

They say that no man is an island (meaning that even the positive goal of independence can be taken too far to the extreme often at our own peril), and the same principle applies to the fairer sex. We are all to a varying degree at different times of our lives dependent on others to help us along the way, and one of the greatest strengths of any family is of remaining united as a team where each family member is valued and respected for whom they already are. Each person plays his or her own role in contributing to the family according to their abilities and needs at the time.

While this reading is not providing you with any definite time line as to precisely when you will get that job or find a man you deserve to be loved by, I do feel that its message is overall a positive one of hope and faith for the future, if only you can be more of a friend to yourself, instead of unconsciously becoming your own worst enemy by not showing the same compassion towards yourself that you regularly do to people around you.

If there is anything going "wrong" in your life, it would have to be the unconscious messages which you are unintentionally sending yourself that you are incapable of overcoming your difficulties, or alternately do not deserve any better from life and love because you are punishing yourself for something which you are not responsible for. The first important step to better prepare yourself for your next job is to closely examine some of these distorted messages in the cold light of day, and by so doing discover that they have very little if any basis in reality.

You lost the man of your dreams? NO, he lost you through his lack of consideration for your emotional and financial needs (which were equally important to his own).

You messed up your life? YES you have made some mistakes up until now, but so what? So have we all. You may not win every single battle in this life, but the outcome of the war is still undecided. Only people who never try to do anything important to them never make mistakes. It has been said many times that we as human beings frequently learn much more from our mistakes than we can ever hope to do from our life's little victories. But NO you have NOT somehow accidentally through your own mistakes thrown a spanner in the works of the plan which the Universe/God or your Higher Self has for your life.

What is essentially going wrong with your life at the moment? It is only that there are a series of negative factors such as the current world economic downturn, the insecure state of the job market, the relative low availability of the type of job you are wanting to get in your local area, you have not met the right man for you yet, and of course not being kind and patient with yourself in learning to better understand yourself and your human limitations.

God bless and wishing you all the very best for the future in both love and work,

Love, Light and Healing,

eye_of_tiger

You are right about a lot of things I am a perfectionist. I hold myself to standards that I don't necessarily require of other people. I think a lot of that is left over from my childhood. My parents always pushed to be more, do more, achieve  more. If I came home with a 97 on an exam it was pretty much where are the other 3 points, so I think as a result of that I am hard on myself. Its easy to fall into a rut and become stagnant and not make any progress and I am very afraid of that.
  As for the guy I was dating, school was never the issue so much. He wanted me to go to school closer to him, so we could spend more time together, he was very giving and generous, he wanted to help  me pay for my eduation, and all of the other things I wanted. He always went out on a limb to make me happy. I never had a single worry when he and I were together. I feel he had trouble communicating his feelings because of rejection in his past. He and I were amazing together. People would always comment on how happy I looked and that I was glowing. The same amount of thought and care he put into my emotional well being I know I didn't do the same for him and I honestly regret it and wish I could have a second chance because in my heart I feel that we are both missing out on something that was great. I feel I have a lot of offer and I feel he does as well.
  I am somewhat confused as to what you are trying to say. I try to think positive thoughts because I definitely believe what you put out into the universe will come back to you. So I try to be aware of the energy I put out there. I am thankful for my parents everyday. I learned a long time ago I was very lucky, a lot of my friends did not have a family like mine. Its really hard to stay positive I send out resumes, I fill out applications and nothing, sometimes I feel dejected and down because sometimes I feel that sometimes maybe there is something I can do better that would help me get that job.

You are very welcome for the reading, and I wish to further clarify what I was trying to say in your reading.



I am in no doubt whatsoever that it is extremely difficult to remain positive, keep sending out resumes, filling out endless applications and getting nothing back in return for all your time and effort to help yourself, but I feel that getting the job will continue to be your top priority for some time yet, just as your education needed to take preference over what your boyfriend would like to happen.

This does not necessarily mean that you will never get back together, but it does probably mean that unless he can accept that this is the position your are presently in, then I predict that little if any progress is likely be made relationship wise during the period thought to be covered by a reading of the type given here (six months or so) towards you becoming a couple once more.

But on the other hand anything in theory is possible within reason, and I would be honestly overjoyed if you proved me to be wrong about what I am feeling from this particular reading is the likely time line for your relationship with him.

Once you do have a job, it will be much easier for you to see each other more often and each have enough money to contribute to your shared funds (which will do wonders for your sense of self confidence and self respect, as you will feel that you are finally doing your share financially as much as he is).

Does this now make my intended meanings any clearer to you?

EoT