Hi! I need your help...Since I have gotten married 7 years ago I constantly worry about losing my partner...it is such an irrational fear maybe.,...Someone told me in my past life I lost my entire family....I dont know if that is the reason I am constantly afraid something bad would happen I dont know..........I dont know if that was for real....

.I am feeling anxious about certain things in my life which is not giving me peace....Can you also  tell me if a friendship lost will be healed and mended. We were close but a misunderstanding happened and I was hurt very badly...


Thank You  for helping me
Anu

Welcome Anu,

This is hardly in my opinion an irrational fear for you to have, unless of course it is completely stopping you from being able to fully enjoy your relationship with your husband of seven years, or it is making you physically ill.  

But it does strongly suggest that you are currently feeling more than a little insecure about your husband finding you as attractive or loving you as much as he did when you met.

Now I have heard the old wives tale many times about the "seven year itch" that married men often supposedly suffer, that makes them more likely to put their boots under another woman's bed after being married for about that long.

However I have yet to meet a man who actually suffered with this particular malady every seven years of his marriage (I have been married for over 30 years myself - what's wrong with me?), although I am certain that for those men who find it impossible to remain faithful to their partner for more than 24 hours at a time (your hubby is not one of these), this probably seems as good as an excuse as they are probably going to get, and they might as well take full advantage of it as a way out of having to explain their wandering.

Unless you have solid physical evidence that you have good reason to worry about your husband's fidelity to and affection for you, your reading is effectively telling you to look within yourself for the possible reasons why you should be feeling particularly insecure at this stage of your marriage.

You should already know that most men will not profess their undying love for their partner in so many words every single day which they are together, so if that is the reason you are losing valuable beauty sleep over this then please do not give it another thought.

Your reading clearly shows me that like most men your husband does not understand that some women like you need to be regularly reminded through both his words and actions that he only has bedroom eyes for you.

It just occurred to me that spiritual teachers often tell us that our lives are divided into several phases, each of them being approximately seven years in length. Now if by chance the time which you married him coincided with the beginning of a new phase of your life, that one is now close to being over.

What I am thinking through your reading is that you might be feeling more insecure at this time when compared to how insecure you felt earlier in your marriage, because you are about to enter a new phase of your life which frightens you so much, that you are misinterpreting the signals that your body and mind are putting out due to the major inner changes that are going on within you at this point, as a sign that your husband might be considering leaving you.

Or then again it might be a hormonal problem, or a possible side effect of a prescription medication you are presently taking. See your doctor if you suspect that either of these might be the case (or that there is a real medical basis for your chronic anxiety).

Once again if you do not have any actual evidence that you have good reason to fear that your husband does not love you any longer (or loves another woman more than you), then please do not spoil what is otherwise a strong and enduring marriage by giving him the impression that you no longer trust him.

By doing this you could unintentionally be creating a self fulfilling prophecy. That is by showing him that he is no longer trusted (when he never did anything wrong), you could potentially drive him straight into the arms of another woman, when he never thought about doing this before.

Keep both your eyes fully open (unless you happen to be sleeping at the time), but also be careful not to jump to any premature conclusions about your husband, without the necessary evidence to back up your suspicions that something about your relationship is not quite right.

Recently, your confused emotions could possibly in effect be lying to you?  

L&L,

eye_of_tiger

Thank U very much for the readin.g..I appreciate it.......
I have had 2 kids and do feel not like how I looked before kids but my husband always tells me I look great etc etc...So I guess I have to work on myself
I am sorry when I say losing my partner I meant him passing away before me and me being alone.......It is not causing me any physical problems as I dont voice this fear to anyone but here! I wish I could get over my fears and enjoy life right now

Thank U so much again!!

Thank U for the insight...I will try to overcome these fears ...I think it comes from being hurt by alot of people...and my immediate family are the only ones there for me so I get scared I will lose them or my husband and be all alone.....


Thanks again

Anu,

It was indeed my pleasure to be given this opportunity to help you through a reading.

Please note that what follows is not in any way to be seen by you as an extension of your reading, and I am NOT predicting that any of the things I am talking about below must necessarily happen.

I am simply saying that a dose of prevention is often far easier than a cure once things are set in motion, and that if a problem does get worse beyond anything which can be given to you through insights contained within a psychic reading please do not be too proud or backward in seeking professional help ASAP.

Even if you will not do this for yourself, your children's safety and welfare could be in danger if you become non effective as their mother due to your fear turning into a phobia.

Phobias are something else again, and are definitely outside of anything which can legally be discussed on a psychic forum such as this one.

Whether you may lose your partner through him passing or instead due to the breakdown of your relationship, the pain of your grief is still effectively the same regardless.

And now finally to my extra comments as promised.........

But your fear of losing him for any reason is again not irrational in my opinion and is understandable up to a point as you have your kids as well as yourself to care for if he is no longer there by your side.

If this fear eventually extends to other areas of your life, it can quickly become from my own first hand experience of this happening in my own life what is commonly called free floating anxiety.

This is a potentially crippling condition where there is a constant feeling of possible impending doom, when there is no obvious reason for such a high level of anxiety on your part.

If it does get to this point (or if your fear of losing your husband continues to increase exponentially) then I would recommend that you seek immediate professional assistance from a qualified doctor of the mind, as this could indirectly bring about the very situation which you had feared would happen right from the start, but in a more round about way than you imagined it would.

Love, Light and Healing,

EoT