Melissa
Female
12/31/1987 (21 Yrs Old)
born at 8:52PM

I really don't have a question =/
I guess I would like to know the general/whats ahead/any advices/or what should i major in I'm very confused /or about my soulmate ... which ever you prefer to answer


Thanks i really appreciate it  

Dear Melissa,

But with due respect you do appear to have an urgent (to you) question about your soulmate to ask me. By your use of "my " I can only safely assume that you have already met someone who you have reason to believe is your soulmate (or is one of your many potential soulmates) under your own definition of the meaning of the word as you currently understand it to be.

Now the sad fact for you that may both surprise and disappoint is that any psychic reader who attempts to convince you that he or she knows for certain that a person is your soulmate or he is not from a reading, is either fooling themselves or perhaps they are for some reason (usually to get attention and more money from you) trying to fool you.

Short of being told directly that this man is your soulmate by a spirit guide (and to be honest I do not believe that any spirit guide worth listening to would tell you such nonsense), only you can determine this for yourself by having an actual face to face relationship with them and by so doing getting to know and understand them better than you already do.

But now that you are in a relatively steady adult relationship with this special man (and hopefully he is not already in a similar or deeper relationship with another woman at the same time), you need to more carefully define exactly what a soulmate would be, if he was indeed one of yours. In other words I feel that much of the confusion you are experiencing about what a soulmate is is due to a combination of mixed body signals that each of you is giving out to the other, plus a faulty understanding of what a soulmate is intended to represent.

These mixed signals we each give out to the other also come about from the lack of proper mutual honest two way communication between many couples these days. Here we are in what is claimed to be the age of communication with all our cell/mobile phone texting, internet and other electronic means of having a relationship as it once was, and because we rarely see each other in person we are in serious danger of losing the true art of effectively communicating our feelings and ideas by word of mouth.

The end result of all this is that we are forced to try to read each others minds, instead of getting it straight from the horse's mouth (no offence is intended by me using this visual metaphor of you conversing with a horse). I think that you understand the point I am trying to make? Most men and women equally make terrible mind readers, and accordingly misunderstandings on both sides are soon in epidemic proportions.

When it comes to working out who is or is not your soulmate (becoming someone's soulmate is a pre-birth agreement made between the respective Higher Selves of each of the two individuals), once again we run into romantic fantasies, which need to be taken care of first, before we can get a clearer picture of what it takes to be a soulmate.

And I feel from your reading that the biggest fallacy or romantic lie to you is that once two people who are in love and who are also each others soulmates meet, it must necessarily be for life, they will be automatically 100% compatible with each other, and will subsequently live happily ever after with no emotional fall outs or arguments ever occurring, in a state of eternal happiness and never ending bliss. This all sounds particularly attractive to all the hopeless romantics amongst us in theory, but in practice this story belongs more in a fairy tale than the real world.

It is my experience that couples come together through many successive physical life experiences, not because their relationship was made n heaven, but rather it is that they have long outstanding negative issues which need to be worked out with each other, and that only by them coming together in this shared lifetime will they be given another opportunity to learn these difficult and sometime painful lessons which human beings are often so slow at picking up.

These lessons which need to learned may not require an entire lifetime, and contrary to the usually accepted belief that each of us has only one soulmate during each individual lifetime, we really have several who could potentially be at any one time. If we never meet a particular soulmate this time around, or if he later leaves your life one way or the other, it does not mean that our life is effectively at an end, or that we no longer have no chance of being happy with someone else in the future. It is perfectly possible to enjoy a loving and lasting relationship with someone who is NOT your soulmate.

Back to your original question, either is this person you have met one of your soulmates, or if you have not met such a person yet, how would you know if he was? Unfortunately although I have already to the best of my ability above attempted to answer the second part of your question to your satisfaction, answering the first part of it is going to necessarily involve you discovering this for yourself. This is something which I cannot directly help you to do.

If you are not regularly meeting face to face and going out with each other on dates, and you are both therefore not able and/or willing to talk to each other about your true feelings and the dreams you have for the future (as people often think one thing, then do the complete opposite to what was reasonably expected they would), then I do not like your chances of ever determining whether or not it might have worked if you had given your relationship and yourselves a fair go.

Of course at first you will each feel terribly clumsy and afraid that you might be seen as too pushy or be worried that the other person could reject your advances, but face to face honest two way communication is the time tested best method of in the end discovering whether this person belongs in your life, whether or not he happens to also be one of your many potential soulmates.

My prayers and healing thoughts for you are now heading in your direction, as we speak,

God bless,

eye_of_tiger (male)

Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions ...
Now I understand ...And your correct ... I was a bit confused b4 ... A psychic told me a few months ago that the person that I'm with is not my soulmate ... And that I will meet my soulmate next year .. And that just got me down ... I just wanted to break up with my boyfriend .. And I believed the psychic because I've been with my bf for about a year and I still haven't fall in love which I want 2 but its just not happening :-( ... But its true what you said a person doesn't really need their soulmate to be happy ...


Thanks once again I really appreciate it

Melissa,    

You are very welcome for the reading.

My advice would be for you never to allow the predictions made as part of a psychic reading given by anyone (including myself), to be used by themselves in order for you to make such an important and highly emotionally charged decision as to whether or not you should leave your current boyfriend.

Remember that no matter how impressed you might be by the accuracy of a psychic's past predictions, in the end you should always mainly follow your own instincts as to what is felt to be the best possible course of action for you to take.

No reading should ever be used as a total substitute for you exercising your own free will to live your life as you choose.

Readings are only to be regarded as advisory, and you are under no obligation whatsoever to accept all or any of the advice and insights which they might contain.

To do so without first testing what has been offered to you with the genuine intention to help you to live a happier and more successful life , and determining whether it is either useful or even advisable would be effectively the same thing as giving over control of your life to someone else to make your decisions for you.

But using the contents of your reading(s) and combining them with relevant information obtained from other non psychic sources on which to later base your decision, is usually quite OK.

EoT

Thank you for the advice I appreciate it
It makes sense to me ....