I once fall in love with this guy, I was 16 years old and he was 17, I was madly in love with him, we had this great connection, boy did I get in alot of trouble over him, I was always in trouble with my parents, I didn't care I had to have him.

He was my first lover and I broke it off with him when I was 18 years old cause he couldn't stay out of trouble with the cops. I found another guy fell in love, but never clicked like I did with my sweetheart. I got married and been with my husband for 20 years now. I have left several times in the past, and spent the past 20 years trying to find my teenaged sweetheart. what was going to say, I didn't know, but I had to know he was okay!I missed him, I still had some feelings. Well last week, wouldn't you guess who would find me on myspace and email me....my teenaged sweetheart, my heart fell through the floor, I was shocked, happy, etc.

after talking to him in emails for the past week, I have I still have strong feelings for this guy, I can't have him and it does hurt...and he's hurting too, cause now he is looking at all my family pictures and just wants to sit in the background hurting too. He says I still have a piece of his heart, but afraid he will get me into trouble by calling me or even on myspace. He says he's happy for me, but says at the same time it's hard for him.And I know, cause I ee pictures of his daughter and it hurts me too, I wanna be happy for him, but at the same time we had plans on having babies and getting married and spending the rest of our lives together.     He wants to see I'm okay and happy. He doesn't want to interfere with my life and cause any problems. which is awesome, but for us to live this way is gonna be hard.

since kids, we have both found god and I have became rather spiritual in my life and I'm not quite sure how spiritual he is, but he is talking about god now, that is what I always wanted too, for him to find god and stop believing in the athiest crap.

Is there any chance this guy can be my twin soul?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate

I believe from my understanding of the proper use of the term twin soul as well as your reading that while this guy is more than less likely to be one of your soul mates (as each of us have several of these in any single lifetime), that at the same time he is highly unlikely to also be your twin soul.

I feel personally that the term soul mate has been used so often to simply describe any person with whom we feel any sense of connection, and it has then been highly romanticized into meaning something it was never intended to that it now only tends to get in the way of us getting to really know the person. This is even more the case with the concept of a twin soul.

The commonly accepted idea is that if a person is your soul mate or twin soul that you are somehow destined to meet, to stay together for the rest of your lives and to most importantly live happily ever after. On the other hand it is though that if he is neither your soul mate or twin soul, then there it was never intended that you were to have a relationship with him, that there is no useful purpose to be served in finding out if it could have worked, and that if you did foolishly go against the flow by actually putting some time and energy into trying to make it work regardless then you could never have any degree of happiness in your life with this person.

So the frequent unfortunate result of all these misunderstandings and highly over romanticized notions concerning the exact meaning of the two terms soul mate and twin soul  is that many relationships which could have otherwise had enormous potential if they had been given half a chance never really get going at all, simply because of the  twisted belief that since you believe that this person could not be your soul mate or twin soul, that the relationship is doomed right from the start.

Or a forbidden relationship that should never have gone ahead could be quite unintentionally given the green light by what I am saying here (or how I am saying it).

In other words it is all too easy to use your understanding of the meanings of each of these terms as an excuse to either avoid taking the risks involved in any close human relationship, or alternately as I am feeling with you a way of escaping the loneliness and emptiness and confusion you may often feel within your marriage of twenty years.

By all means be happy for him, but is it worth jeopardizing the relative security of your marriage which is no better or worse than most in order for you to escape from real life into a romantic fantasy solely of your own making?

The general rule of thumb is that if you are neither able nor willing to tell your husband that you have recently met your teenage sweetheart and that you intend to continue to relate to him only as a male friend, then this is probably a good indication that your instincts are telling you the truth when you feel that this is and would never be the right thing to do.

Your reading is telling me loud and clear essentially the same thing. Would you be willing to invite him and his daughter around to your home for a meal with you and your husband?

Either continue to have him only as one of your male friends with your husband's full knowledge, or have no further contact with him. While I realise that this is the exact opposite of what you hoped that this reading would tell you, I am only passing on to you as accurately and completely as possible what is coming through me on your behalf as your reader.

If I told you anything else merely in an attempt to please you or to validate you leaving your husband to be with this guy instead based purely upon your reading, then my time as a reader would effectively be at an end, as this would go against my own principles as a responsible reader to always tell the person I am trying to help at the time exactly as I see, hear or feel it.

What you see with me is precisely what you get. Sometimes then I have a strong need to be painfully honest in what I feel are the best interests of everyone potentially affected by my readings (including by the way this man's daughter)?

Disagree if you will with the message I have given you with the best of intentions to help you from doing something which you could easily come to regret, but please do not kill this humble messenger in the process.

Yours sincerely,

eye_of_tiger (male)