I feel like my life has just fallen apart this past week.  I'm discouraged by it, yet trying to have hope and faith that it will turn around soon.  On saturday I turn 24 and I'm still single.  On top of that I was fired from my job on monday.  I'm also living at home with my family.  If a general reading is possible I would really appreciate it.  I'm just so unsure of where to start or what to do.

I don't have a preference for what type of reading.  I'm willing to give any information that will help with the reading.

Thank you for taking the time to consider me for a reading.

Songstress,

Your understandable concern about your love relationship situation or lack thereof appears to be an extension of your request of May this year. MangoMom has already told you much of what I wanted to say, which is hardly surprising knowing that we are both accessing the information from a common source, although our methods of obtaining it may be quite different.



Of course on top of all your other difficulties (which are unfortunately very real and not simply as some might tell you a figment of your imagination or making a mountain out of a molehill), losing your job almost exactly a week before one's 24th birthday is not calculated to do anything positive for your overall mental attitude or motivation to keep going in spite of the obstacles placed in your path..

Now it is always much easier said than done, but whether or not you will psychologically and emotionally suvive this troubled time in your life largely depends upon the meaning you associate with each event. For example if you see your birthday as a milestone or one step to being closer to realising your most cherished dreams, then Saturday should be a time for you of celebration and a positive feeling to look forward to.

On the other hand, if you see turning 24 in a few days time as just another year on your ticking biological clock which only confirms yet again in your own mind that nobody seems to be interested in wanting to get to know you better (because if they did then they would soon recognise how blessed they would be to be loved by you) Saturday is going to be something you wish to avoid as a topic of conversation, and your emotional response to its inevitable arrival is only likely to hope that everyone will forget completely what day it is, and you can crawl away into a safe hiding place and make yourself even more miserable by losing your confidence in and respect for yourself in the process.

So this illustrates the possible reason why the emotional reactions of two different people on experiencing the same event can be at opposite ends of the spectrum. It is not so much what happens to us in our lives, but what we feel is mainly a funcdtion of the meaning we assign to the event.

Now I do not wish to unintentionally bore you by going into extreme detail about each of the events you have described here, and how you could possibly turn around the thoughts you are most regularly holding in your mind about each of them in turn in a more positive direction.

You have just lost your job and you are going to turn 24 on Saturday. Changing your thoughts is not going to turn back the clock to help you get your job back. Nor is trying to forget or ignore your 24th birthday going to change the unavoidable fact that you will be one year older.

But by telling yourself that by losing this job you might possibly have doors of new abnd exciting opportunities open up to you that would have probably remained forever closed to you if you had stayed with your curreht employer, your motivation and self confidence are both going to be enhanced rather than damaged by your unspoken belief that you are life's helpless victim and are unemployable.

In a similar manner while I am not in any way guaranteeing that you wil necessarily find that special man to love and respect you during the next six months if you treat your lack of a partner as a wake up call to how you could actively increase your chances of meeting the right man by going to the types of places where you could reasonably expect to meet a man possessing the positive qualities you are looking for, then this could potentially mean a major boost to your social and love life effectively overnight.

There are no predictions offered as part of this reading that you will be any closer to meeting the man of your dreams by the beginning of next year, but I can confidently predict that the process of finding such a person will be much more enjoyable if you keep a positive and open mind to learning to truly love and be patient with yourself as being the wonderful woman whom I know you are in the meantime.. Life is frequently just as much about the journey, as it is about it's destination?

Hoping that this reading will be both a source of encouragement and comfort to you, when your life is looking at it's darkest.

Yours sincerely,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you EoT.  

I've gone over my reading from MangoMom many times in the last month.  I'm really trying to be positive about everything.  Luckily I do have people around to support and encourage me.  I'm trying to find what doors are open to me now.

I do not waste my valuable time and energy on people who are unwilling to do what they can in order to help themselves, and you my dear friend are anything but being included as one of these professional victims.  

As you did last month with MangoMom's reading, I would suggest that you should similarly read this one over and over again to help the practical messages it contains become  more impressed upon your subconscious mind, where ithey can have the strongest and most lasting effects.

It might also be worth copying it to a text file to be saved to a safe place on removable media, to be read while you are off-line but in need of a timely reminder.

From one of your most loyal fans,

EoT  

I will copy it and save it to my computer.

I was surprised when today my mom called to tell me a job had been posted for a field I'm experienced in.  I immediately got dressed and went to apply for the position.  Hopefully next week turns out to be a great one filled with interviews.