Im in love with a guy since 6-7 months. I did think that he is attracted to me, but not sure. We are good friends and keep in touch regularly but neither of us have expressed our feelings to each other. Im sure he is aware that I love him, have told him indirectly in different ways, however he has not taken any steps to start a relation with me. Recently, he told me that his parents are looking out for a girl for him. Where does that leave me??? Am I just a friend and nothing more ?? What abt my own marriage? Am I likely to get love in the near future ?

Would appreciate a reading from learned members.

Regards
Ria

Dear Ria

From your name and the way you express yourself, I get the feeling you are in Greece...
Your profile does not show your age (I respect your privacy) and you do not say much about this guy's age either. I am sorry, but these are some vital details on which advice can be given. I have checked your past history and I see you have been given a reading in the past.

If I have to go by what I feel from your question, Ria, then I will have to, as feelings are like a guiding star.

You say you have expressed your intentions to this guy and have not had a response from him. Then you also say his parents are looking for a girl for him for purposes of matrimony. Hmmmmmm..... does he live in the villages, this guy? Would he accept his parents' choice for his bride-to-be? These are all questions that come to mind and I am wondering at your question: "where does that leave me?" Nowhere, unfortunately.

Of course you are likely to get love in the future, but would you please consider looking back and see the kind of guys you have been attracted to and look at the pattern there.......? Do they all look similar? Not the guys, but the pattern in which you entered into some form of interaction with them.  If yes, does that tell you something, or not?

Your question above "Where does that leave me?" saddens me, if I have to be honest with you. Where does that leave you my dear? Confront him; ask him the once-and-for-all question and then Out you go if you don’t get a satisfactory answer. For some reason, I dont feel you will get the answer you seek.

The question of age still comes to mind for both of you. As to how this guy would tolerate his parents looking for a bride for him, I find it a bit difficult to understand. I also accept with respect that these things still DO happen in many parts of the world.
‘Where does this leave you Ria?’ Get out of it, in my humble and yet strongest opinion.

Is there love for you in the future? Of course there is, but forget men for the time being and just go and enjoy life with male friends, female friends, family and so on….. Just leave Love on the shelves for the time being and look after Ria.  Love will come to you when you least expect it and give it the least chase. Unfortunately, we cannot prescribe Love or a partner. We can try our best to live our life – for it is a most wonderful gift to enjoy – and then let Love come and find you.

Endaxi? (I am taking a risk here that you are Greek). Forgive me for assuming:)

Lots of  agapi (love) to you from us and be happy with your own life.

Hugs.

Thanks Cedars. Im amused at your guessin me to be a greek. Sorry, but im an Indian.  I will be 41 on 1st August. Never married yet. This guy im talking abt is a few months older than me. We share a good friendship and discuss almost everything under the sun. He is a divorcee. He would always tell me that he is not sure abt getting married again. Dont want to get tied down etc. Recently he tells me that he is mentally preparing himself to get married as his parents are putting pressure on him. Dont be surprised. These things happen in India. Arranged marriages is the most popular kind of marriage here. Couples still shy away from seeking their own partner. His first marriage was also arranged. No, i have not clearly told him "I love u" etc. Just given him subtle hints like, lets go for a drive over the weekend, or a movie which we have done in the past. I was just wondering if he was just shy to take a step towards me or plainly not interested. Anyways, from yr reading u said that i should just get out of this relation (which at the current stage is purely friendship) where only i seem to have fallen in love. Thanks.

Dear Ria

I did not mean any offense by assuming you were Greek. Your name, Ria, is a well-known Greek name and some of your terminologies in English came across as a Greek person would say it in English. That's all.

As for me saying that you should get out of this relationship is not the gospel truth. You should still do what feels right for you and yourself. If you see that this connection is not going where you would like it to go - with this guy - then you should do what feels right for you.

I am no stranger to arranged marriages and have seen them around me. Some of them DO work just fine. However, that's besides the point.

I somehow sense you are on the right track in making up your own mind.

Bless you.