Hello,

I would greatly appreciate insight into my situation. I'm currently in Egypt (my DOB is Feb. 4, 1980) and my partner lives in the UK (his DOB is 27 Oct. 1977). We've been through a lot together, but he's changed lately also due to not being able to travel sooner to him. He should come here soon, however, so we get to talk about us...etc.

My question is: is late July a good time to meet; is it good for a reunion? Second, why has he changed and is there anything to be done to bring us closer again? Because I'm not convinced distance is all that's to it. We both believe we are soul mates but I don't know what's wrong. I'm going through a very bad time. Please tell me what you see for me and us.

Love and light xx

Dear CrystalRose,

Based on your reading I must agree with you that you were each meant to come together in this lifetime in order to learn a series of important but difficult lessons that could be more easily learnt from each other than with any other person, so in this way I suppose he would be your soul mate. But unlike the highly romanticised notion that soul mates are entirely compatible for the rest of their lives and will have no challenges to face (the happy ever after fairy tale), this is the real world where the physical distance between you can often get in the way of what you want to happen. Actually the problem you are currently facing with you living in Egypt and your partner living in the UK could be instead be seen as supporting evidence to your belief that you are indeed soul mates.

Now without being able to read his mind or intentions towards you directly by way of a third party reading which is not permitted on this site, I do not feel that there is anything more suspicious or sinister going on under the surface (I cannot say precisely why his attitudes have changed recently). In other words I feel that you are already aware of what the problem is, without having to suspect that he is developing cold feet because of some other reason he has hidden from you. No, I feel that your love and sense of commitment to making this relationship work at least temporarily at a distance is being sorely tested enough by your present living arrangements, without you further complicating matters and unintentionally making things even more difficult than they already are.

Honestly I don't think other than that the weather might be better in July compared to what it is the rest of the year, that when your reunion is is going to make any significant difference. I am not an astrologer and there may I suppose be some cosmic alignment in July that would appear more favourable to your reunion being a joyous one, but if I were you I would not depend on this happening based upon the position of the stars in the July night sky.

Yes I also agree that the sooner he comes to Egypt  or the sooner you visit him in the UK if this is possible, the better your chances of working through the problem of the physical distance between you will be. Hopefully, eventually one of you will move to the same place as your partner and this will no longer be an issue. But the challenge you face in the meantime is to make the arrangement work as well as you are able until the reunion happens. It may be that present circumstances with his job or family may be preventing him from getting to see you as soon as you would both like.

This however is not a sign that you are going the wrong way and that you should simply give up and leave each other for someone else closer. The whole idea of the exercise is to both measure the depth of and strengthen your common resolve not to allow the physical distance between the UK and Egypt to get in the way of your love, no matter what personal sacrifices or compromises by either of you might need to be made in order to bring this about.

There is no one future for me to predict when it comes to whether or not you will make a success of your relationship in the long term, but rather there are instead a number of most likely possibilities, one of them which mainly through your own actions and decisions made in the present moment will in some yet to be determined time in the future become your future relationship with this man.

My suggestion would be to make the path to finding true love in each other's arms instead of always at long distance smoother and therefore easier by discussing any possible compromises over the phone or any other means such as the internet, that will not make this we will either have a reunion in July or instead go our own ways never to be a couple again look over extreme and inflexible.

The sooner the better it is for the re-union, but with the condition that if present circumstances prevent this from happening that you will make a real attempt to work closely and co-operatively together as a couple instead as of two separate individuals who are trying to satisfy only your own individual needs and not considering your partner's situation as well.

There is I intuit still much reason for you to be optimistic that you will ultimately make your relationship work given adequate time and patience, if only your love and commitment to each other through thick and thin remains strong enough to be able to survive the distance and bring you both the lasting love and happiness which I feel you so richly deserve (a play on the word distance).

Many blessings to you both,

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