Dear Goddess,
Firstly I want you not to be so hard upon yourself for your instincts not being particularly reliable in such an emotionally charged situation as happened with your now ex boyfriend.
This is why readers often consult other readers instead of reading for themselves, when they want a clear assessment (or independent view) of a particular situation. You are too emotionally close to the outcome of the reading to be objective enough when reaching your decision. This is not a reason for you to feel guilty. It is just a fact of life which we all need to learn to accept?
Secondly, while I always encourage people to listen more to their own instincts, using your instincts by themselves and forgetting logic and reason can be positively dangerous. It is no coincidence that our Creator gave us both our intellect as well as our intuition to be used in a balanced way to supplement each other.
Without the use of our intuition we are basically like cold, heartless machines or robots. Without logic and getting some solid physical evidence as well as listening to our inner guidance, we are allowing ourselves to be lead as if we had a ring through our noses by blind faith and even in some cases magical thinking or superstition.
I believe that you are still in mourning or are grieving six months after the event for a relationship that now will likely sadly never be (and your reading does give me the definite impression that if it is possible that you could at some time in the distant future get back together with him, then this would involve a lot of effort and willingness to compromise on both your parts).
I do not know whether or not you had some solid evidence to back up your instincts or doubts about what your boyfriend did or did not do which lead to you leaving him, but perhaps if you did not have some sort of actual proof this could then be why you now feel so guilty for having not checked out your facts thoroughly first, before leaving him for good. Perhaps you may think that it was all your fault, or that if only you had waited and tried hard enough things between you might now be much better than they are.
Only you can know why you are carrying such a huge burden of guilt and possibly shame as well around with you now over what has happened.
Only you can eventually decide whether you are going to continue to allow this to negative emotional baggage to prevent you indefinitely from finding someone else who will love and respect you for being the kind and wonderful woman you undoubtedly are.
In the end, you will need to consciously decide if and when to let go of or release it.
So in summary this reading is telling me that there would need to be some fairly major changes in attitudes and your abilities to trust one another again if there is going to be any chance of you getting back together with your bf over the longer term (say within the next couple of years).
Personally at present, while I cannot say for certain that you will never get back together with him, if you continue to rely purely on your instincts to guide you in the future, then I do not like your chances either with him or with any other man for that matter.
In order to confirm that your instincts at the time were really telling you the truth, I would need to be able to read him directly, which would constitute what is called a third party reading which is not permitted on this site.
So my advice based on your reading would be to learn more to use both reason and intuition in a more balanced manner when making similar decisions to this one in the future. If your instincts are telling you one thing, but you have hard physical evidence that they are not working reliably at the time and are distorting the truth (as can often happen when matters of the heart are concerned) then I would tend to give the facts and evidence in front of your eyes a higher priority than your instincts, especially when making such a potentially life changing decision as this one was.
At least during the period of time generally regarded as being covered by a reading of the type given on this forum, I feel that your chances are effectively next to zero. Beyond the six months it is then mainly up to you to make a series of conscious decisions about whether you are able and willing to do whatever is necessary for you to once again re-open the two way channels of communication and trust between you and your ex.
Hoping that you will find these insights to be both relevant and helpful to you in finally finding the true love and lasting happiness in your life that you so richly deserve.
If you are looking for a way of permanently but compassionately breaking the energy bonds that continue to bind you to him, look at the following website and try the visualization technique of DECORDING which is described there every day for at least a month.
Then report back to me here under this thread, as to how you got on.
http://healingtowholeness.com/decording.html
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As you become more aware of your psychic energy during the Running Energy practice, you may notice 'cords' between yourself and an other person. By definition, a cord is an obsolete or unwanted energy connection with another.
Most ordinary communication is unconscious, happening below awareness between the chakras of those involved. And very often this unconscious communication establishes a cord between the people. Cords can be easily removed, although some ways of doing this are better than others. It's important to pull cords rather than cut them. Like an unresolved imprint, the remaining energy of a cut cord in your feeling essence can too easily attract another cording experience.
Although cording is a result of an unconscious agreement between two beings, it takes only one person to decide they no longer wish to participate in the agreement. Here is a script you can use to easily and safely remove cords, and free yourself from unwanted energy attachments with others: |
Loving regards,
eye_of_tiger (male)
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