I've recently had a falling out of sorts with my significant other..we've not been together very long and there is a language barrier..to an extent. Seems neither one of us fully understands the other when things get heated. We've not spoken for 5 days and I'm feeling extremely uncomfortable with this as we work together as well. We both return to work tomorrow. I suppose my question is..I'm wondering if there's any hope of reconciling? I have the opportunity to leave my current job and am feeling that if things were to go south between he and I that maybe it would be best to part ways all together and take another job. I just know what to do here..I'm hurt over the way things are going and honestly can't see myself face to face with this man every day should he decide he no longer wants me in his life.

Both jobs pay the same..neither one is really better than the other so basically the direction in which our relationship goes is what I'm using as a deciding factor.

On the basis of your reading I am feeling that it would be somewhat premature of you to consider giving up your current job, simply because you have had a temporary break down in communication between you or a lover's tiff. The course of most healthy human relationships often involves some rougher patches. This is I believe almost inevitable when two people live together for more than approximately a day at a time.

It is my feeling that many of these so called breakdowns in communication stem from us not being honest with ourselves and our partner and not coming straight out and telling them exactly what we feel or think about something which is worrying us at the time. There are so many times when we may unintentionally hurt the person we most love, as nobody including you and me is immune from making mistakes.

Yes if it does appear after say the next six months that there is no possible chance of reconciliation then perhaps your idea of moving to another job would be in the best interests of all as it could potentially distract you from getting your job done well and on time, but I seriously doubt from what I am reading that this will be found to be necessary. It is my impression based on this reading that doing nothing and vainly hoping that matters will resolve themselves without any further effort on both your parts to clear the air once and for all is not an acceptable or workable option.

My advice would be to make every effort to reopen the channels of two way communication between you as soon as is humanly possible without resorting to blaming him for everything which has gone on. I am not telling you to accept without question what he has done or not done that has caused this temporary rift to develop between you. You have certain needs and values that you should not have to compromise in order to get him back, and I am the last person to tell you otherwise.

This is exactly how things should be. Instead I am saying essentially that it always takes at least two people to make a relationship, and therefore each partner must be willing to take their fair share of the responsibility for any such problems which may arise within it. You should not forget what has or has not been done to your feelings by your better half, but on the other hand learning to over time forgive him is more for your own benefit and peace of mind, than it is for his.

Learn to forgive in your own good time, but never attempt to deny or forget that he has hurt your womanly feelings, either intentionally or as I strongly suspect is the case unknowingly or through typical human ignorance and fallibility.  

My feelings are that it is well worth you making the effort to try to get your relationship back on track once again, as life is too short to allow this to get in the way of what is otherwise a healthy and relatively happy alliance of two people who love and care for one another as you two evidently do.

Please take your mutual concerns back to the peace table, and work things out between you!!!!

Love, Light and Healing,

EoT

Thank you. You're absolutely right. Panic set in and my mind was going crazy..I don't know where things stand as of now as we have not spoken so I suppose I should give it a shot..talk things out and see if we can salvage the relationship before I go walking out on my job. I just assumed he was finished with me..it's not like him to not call me or to ignore for such a long period of time. It's literally made me sick.

Thank you for all you said..it made perfect sense.  

You are very welcome for the reading, and I really do hope that things do eventually work out for the both of you as you hope they might.

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When it comes to human beings in general, it is dangerous to assume anything as it is difficult enough to understand and predict with any degree of certainty what we ourselves might do in a particular situation, without trying to do this with another person (even with someone we love).

Be kind to yourself and to each other,

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