I'm really getting mixed messages from this person but I really need to know if this person wants me to pursue them or should I just leave it alone?? I like this person alot but I dont wanna waste my time if this person doesnt like me. Any insight will be greatly appreciated.

Unfortunately in order to be able to directly read this person's feelings and intentions towards you would involve me giving you a third party reading, which is sadly not allowed on these MB forums.

But with due respect approaching anyone in a romantic manner must always necessarily involve the risk that you will be rejected on your first attempt, and if you are waiting for an absolute rock solid 100% guarantee that this person will want to pursue a relationship with you either now or some time in the future, then you are barking up the wrong tree or looking for something which can never be given through a reading or any any other alternative method.

You could be quite unintentionally by doing this setting yourself up for years of feeling lonely, living with your regrets that you did not at least find out if you may have had a real chance with them.

Life and love are always at the best of times to be sure risky businesses, but without taking some calculated risks, we can never hope to achieve anything of importance to us (and I stress that it must but important to us, regardless of what other people may think is important) in this life.

I understand that you feel you are lacking in the confidence you need in order to pluck up the courage to approach this person and determine whether you have a basis for a relationship to develop, but everyone feels that way especially the first few times we offer our heart to another, although only the bravest amongst us is willing to openly admit that we are incredibly nervous at the very thought of having to do this.

My advice would be to take things slowly at first by introducing yourself and getting to know each other better with no pressure for either of you to take the relationship any further at this relatively early stage (assuming that this unknown person is not already in a relationship with someone else, as if this is so then you are I feel looking for trouble and will probably find it). Start out by being their friend, then allow nature to follow it's natural course if indeed your relationship is meant to be.

But you need to be in it and to take the associated risks involved with putting your heart on the line, to have any real chance of winning over his or her love for you?

At this point in the proceedings therefore, I feel that giving you a reading on this would be counter-productive, and could be if misinterpreted used as an excuse for you not to at least give this your best shot.

While I cannot offer you a guarantee that he or she will be interested in you, on the other hand I would not want to be seen as standing in the way of true love by making any predictions with no basis other than my own preconceptions (understood?).

Yours sincerely,

eye_of_tiger

Sometimes, if you sit back and 'allow' the situation to just be, you'll have your answer.  Always be friendly, kind & loving (and especially to yourself), but don't spend too much time fretting, worrying, or wondering.  Listen to your instincts.  You always know what you want to do.  ALLOW the situation to unfold, naturally, without any control or negative emotion.

If you think you're going to "waste" your time, it sounds like you think your time is more valuable than even trying to know the person.

Hey there,


Youre never going to get any str answers about Life and Love. Just one of those things! You get better at assessing situations, but there will always be a time when it seems like a complete curve ball hit you and that you never saw coming.
I have always lived with two things kept in mind, (well actually many many things kept in mind but these are two that kinda stand out alot), and that is:
Time - it is the best tool you can ever have, let things unfold the way they are meant to - if a clear answer is not right infront of your face then its not ready or youre not ready to see it. be patient. The answer will be sure to present itself. "All in due time" as they say

and says it quite perfectly.

"personally i would rather regret something that I have done that regret something I was too scared to do" - Movie.
And the mentality with that is - So what!! you put yourself out there and maybe you get your heart hurt?? Soooo???? You will carry on living thats for sure! You're not going to die from it - so take a chance and you might be very pleasantly surprised.

Thats my 2cents on the heart....

Now taking your post:

I'm just going to let my thoughts run with me...

Well mixed messages....those can be yours...like a heart vs mind clash or that maybe she is sending you very clear messages and you don't want to interpret them.
Or that you know very well deep down inside what the answer is, for you, but you don't really want to accept it.

A little more descrip: maybe you know that she is not quite right for you...even though you like her, just that niggling feeling that, well, you could really do with a different choice.
She may tick all the boxes for you - but still...there is that niggly feeling...
Or it could be that she is quite clear that its just friends, but when she's friendly then youre interpreting it as something else?

Be careful which one is giving you the answers - whether its the heart or the mind. Heart is the way to go.

And quite frankly - I don't really like ppl who give mixed messages...to me it seems dishonest - like there is something that the person is trying to hide. I don't like that.
Life is far too short - say what you mean straight up and upfront - don't mess around - the truth may hurt but then it hurts for a little while and then you get over it. Being honest and upfront gives you and the other person options. It allows them to choose for themselves what is most correct.
Keeping quiet - takes everyones choices away and then its just stalemate, no one wanting to make the first move....blegh.

Yip okay - those are some rambling thoughts
Good Luck!!
Hope you keep us informed on what your decision is!
RR


Okay just read your dream interp: hummm puts some extra thoughts in mind - maybe she is a girl that has alot of stuff going on, like drama around her and sometimes you will get the urge to protect her, but you don't have to...she has a very very strong totem looking out for her.
So its not a broken-wing kinda relationship - if you do pursue her, then don't let it trick you into thinking that it might be a broken wing relationship, that you need to protect her or fix her kinda thing.

--> eye of tiger - is that a little too close to a third party reading???