God bless you, any reading or answering my inquiry. I am asking a "relationship question". Big surprise!                                                         I am quite empathic I believe. I "feel" a lot.  I am married for 20 years. Recently I met someone who I have felt a connection as if she would be a partner to  me in some way or some time. It is not a comforting feeling or bad either. It is driving me crazy.I feel connected daily in the heart. In the middle of the night while asleep I have connected with her spinal energy which amplified 1000x. I have felt her direct feelings of connecting, healing to me many times. I also help her by balancing, helping her emotional state as it impresses me because if I don't it is a constant irritation.When I think I am over- attaching or taking this to an extreme, I try to ignore it. The connection bursts into my awareness either in waking or dream state. I have a life with my wife now and will not be cheating. I have had no contact for months with this woman, and only briefly talked to her a few times, but I can't resolve this in the present. As I said, it is driving me crazy as there is much "pleasant feelings" and energetic interaction going on daily. I wish I never felt this as it is almost an obsession because I can perceive a possible future purpose.I know this is a lesson in many ways . I just am over thinking it. Thanks to all who reply.

Davrep,

There is no doubt in my mind that there is some sort of spiritual energy connection between you and this woman, but the important question is what are you going to do about this?

Are you willing to sacrifice all your 20 years of marriage for what may well turn out in the end to be an unhealthy and unproductive obsession with her, or are you suggesting that she should wait and have no other partners until your present marriage is finished for whatever reason?

Or are you toying with the idea that you might leave your present wife who loves you so for a woman whom although you feel so attracted to has not made any form of commitment to anything that resembles what you already possess in great measure with your spouse?



I do not wish to appear overly judgemental of you but in response to your above statement, whether or not you feel that you would be doing anything wrong by constantly focussing on this other woman (exciting and tempting as she might first seem to you), you must be doing this at the sacrifice of your current partner's needs, and are therefore by any definition of the word if only in your thoughts cheating on her.



In the end you are the only person who can decide if you are willing to give up what you already have for something which will probably not even begin to compare to it, but I feel that just as a recovering alcoholic needs to stay completely away from hotel bars, drinking friends and liquor shops to strengthen his resolve to put the demon drink permanently out of his mind, contacting this other woman in your case would only make things worse than they already are.

If she is increasingly occupying your waking thoughts and dreams, how do you possibly keep your mind on your work and relationship with your wife at the same time? Surely this would neither be in your own best interests to pursue, and think for a moment what this could do to your wife to know that you are waiting for her to leave you, so that you can carry on with this girl to your heart's content. To be able to place yourself in your wife's shoes and to try to imagine how she she might feel is she learned about this is the true meaning of empathy, or of you being empathic. At least it is in my book.

Over to you now to decide what to do next,

eye_of_tiger

Excellent analysis. Thank you for your time and insight. Honestly, I have been through all the points you've brought forth and am right with you. One item not mentioned is what about the person I've seemingly linked to. What would she think of this. Answer- I think she'd be shocked and hesitant to have anything to do with me although I can tell she can feel what's happenned energetically.I haven't seen her and may never meet her again. Really, I am wondering what is the connection, what happenned? When this awareness started it was like a shock to my body and mind/emotions. I could not help the flow and balancing of feelings.  Just putting this out in the open has helped give me relief of the intensity of attachment to her. What now? I feel like we are related in some way and if I can maintain perspective and holiness to any interaction I may learn something and maybe help her in some way. Actually my wife knows her and it may end up being a good thing. Thanks for your insight. And is it Tiger or Tigress?

I believe that it is a result of past life experiences which the two of you have had in common, but in different roles than you you have taken on in this current one. I sense that in at least one shared life experience she may have indeed been your wife.

Your comment that your wife knows her and that it may actually over the longer term strengthen your marriage with her remaining a friend to you both, only confirms my feelings as already described above.

Another real possibility is that this woman, your wife as well as yourself are all members of the same soul group, which basically means that although your paths may be different in some respects, you each have much more in common with regards to your purpose for being here than you may consciously be aware of at the moment.



It is Tiger, as I am a man who is nearly 56 years of age, married (soon to be for 30 years) with two now adult children.

EOT