Hello all,

I realize the guidelines asked me to not request a reading right off the bat, but I just discovered this place today and have a bit of a quandry...

I'd been taking care of my mom for many, many years. She passed about a month ago. At the time of her death there was a huge fiasco. I ran out of the house for a second after the EMS people arrived, a police officer who didn't see me or know who I was positioned himself at my door, and I tried to come back in and he grabbed me (not knowing who I was-- I understand). He was hurting me and I tried to get free and touched him in the process. Well, they charged me with assaulting an officer (after he flung me off the porch and sprainded my wrist and foot)! He was considerate at the end and said he'd put a good word in for me. I'm not a violent person at all. I wasn't trying to sock him, just get away.

So much for the peaceful death I was hoping for her...

Now I'm ready to got out and find work. With this legal matter hanging over my head I'm afraid I will be out of the running for many jobs. Also I was considering teaching but am not sure about that in general, and if this goes to court I can probably forget about that altogether.

I appreciate any insight to be given.

Namaste,

Edgar 10/02/65

PS. I don't really post too much on any board I go to.

Edgar,

Could you please explain to me just who the EMS people were, and why they as well as a police officer should be required to attend when your mother died? With due respect your fast exit from the room would suggest to any reasonable person that you were feeling guilty for doing something wrong, although it could very well be a misunderstanding on their parts in the heat of the moment. If your mother has just died then it would be perfectly understandable that you would be over emotional and not thinking rationally when you pushed the police officer aside, but their actions suggest that the cause of your mother's passing is not yet known, and everyone including her son is therefore immediately a suspect.

Whether or not there was anything suspicious about the method or reason of or for your mother's death, you probably made the situation much worse for yourself by your violent behaviour, innocent or not. If you have nothing to hide, then your name could be easily cleared by providing whatever information they require in a fully co-operative, friendly and polite manner. Not until then will you be free to find suitable work for yourself. One way or the other until your name is finally cleared of all possible wrong, I feel that there is little point in giving you such a reading, while there still remain legal barriers to us commenting further about this.

Regards,

eye_of_tiger

gee, thanks for the vote of confidence...

i called my sister cause my mother had the "death rattle." my niece happened to be with her. niece called ems. when they arrived before ems, my niece screamed at me about not calling the ambulance. when they started working on mom, i ran out and told my niece they were just breaking her bones and to see what she had done. i tried to come back in and the officer wouldn't let me, (in my own house) nor give me a reason.
nothing nefarious. sorry i ever asked. moderator please delete my post.

I am still not quite sure who the ems are and why your niece herself called them in preference to the ambulance then blamed you for not doing this, but the entire incident seems to be a series of mistakes and misunderstandings by well meaning and concerned people which quickly got out of hand. Your niece was already on the scene, so it was her option to call the ambulance instead of the ems. Perhaps she tried to project her guilt for making the wrong choice on you, because she felt so inadequate?

With everyone screaming at everyone else and making matters much worse than they already were, it was almost inevitable that something like this would happen. It would have been the complete opposite of what your mother wanted to happen, but now it has you will need to make the best of what was an unfortunate incident.

Surely you are not suggesting that I am accusing you of anything, but your description of what transpired at the time does suggest that the law does still have an interest in this matter of your mother's death and her subsequent treatment by both family members and the ems, or why would you be saying that "with this legal matter hanging over my head I'm afraid I will be out of the running for many jobs"?

Your only crime therefore in their eyes was the way in which you reacted when the officer barred you from returning to the room where your mother's body lay (whether or not he had the right to do so as part of his job). Otherwise they do not have any case against you, other than you being overemotional at the time which is quite understandable for a son whose mother has just died.

I sincerely hope that the moderators will leave this posting in place at least until you have an opportunity to read what I have written here, as I would not wish you to go away thinking that I have unfairly appointed myself as your judge, jury and executioner.

This was never my intention, but if you take the time to examine more carefully what I wrote in my original response, you should I feel soon recognise that this was a tragic comedy of errors made by people who were only doing their best while under a great degree of stress for many different reasons some only known to themselves, that quickly got completely out of hand. It was not intended to cast aspersions or guilt upon you as the person who has I believe been wronged or misread here.

Yours sincerely,

eye_of_tiger

Usually ems = Emergency Medical Services ?