I'm looking to have a general reading done, in the hopes of getting some kind of outlook for myself.  

In advance, I appreciate the time.  Thank you.

Jen

Hi Jen,

The main question which comes out of your reading is as to who is the boss in your life. It suggests that over the coming months there are going to be significant developments in several areas of your life at the same time (it will never be boring), and that to a certain degree you will need to feel more in control of the situation than has often been the case in the past. While we do have considerable control over what the future has in store for us by the conscious decisions we make in the present moment - our only true point of personal power as the past is dead and gone, there will always be other factors each of which could easily throw a spanner in the works at the eleventh hour.

If we feel we have no control over a situation, then it is hardly a surprise that our ability to cope would be soon overpowered and that our sense of hope for a brighter future would soon become a sad and distant memory. But what this reading is emphasising in your life is that there is no situation over which you have no control, and that by working patiently with the ones over which you do have some positive influence, combined with having enough faith in the Universe and in yourself that your life is unfolding as it was intended to, there is a very good chance that you can create for yourself a personal future which will be much more satisfying and fulfilling than it would have otherwise been, if you had depended entirely instead on the Wheel of Fortune to randomly turn more in your favour.

In other words increasingly become the active master of your own destiny during the next six months, instead of continuing to be one of life's passive victims (of which there are already too many).

Kindest regards,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you EofT, I appreciate your taking the time to give me this reading.  

I know that I have control over my destiny, the sad part is I don't know where to go from here.  I got the job I THOUGHT I had wanted, but it's turned out not to be what I had been told it would be.  I'm not married (or dating) and that's making me anxious about whether it will EVER happen.  My finances are blah...my family is blah....

I guess in the end, I'm in a rut and have no idea how to get myself out.  

Jen,

I am of the belief that if we can somehow reduce the often unrealistic expectations we place upon ourselves in one area of our lives, then our ability to deal effectively and in a balanced and adult manner with all other areas is thereby greatly increased.

You say that the job you wanted did not turn out as you expected it would, but does most of the fault lie either with the job or your expectations? If you believed that this job was necessarily going to be your dream one and that it would always provide you with just the right level of challenge and financial security for you throughout your entire working life, then perhaps it is your expectations which need to be more closely examined as being the source of much of the inner stress you are currently under.  Did you believe that you would immediately fit in with the other staff who had already been there for years?

Rather than continuing to emotionally overload yourself with dire predictions that your life will never change for the better and convincing yourself that everything that did not turn out quite as well as expected was under your control and therefore completely your fault, why not look at one life area at a time and consider all available options by writing them down on paper. List both the advantages and disadvantages you see of each of them in turn. The simple act of putting pen to paper forces you to get your thoughts more ordered and clearer.

For example with regards to your job, I see you have two or three major options to choose from.

1. Leave everything exactly as it is now, and get increasingly frustrated and angry about your situation when it does not improve by itself.

2. Resign immediately, with no other job to go into after leaving this one.

3. And this is the one I hope you will choose. Stay in your present job (with all it's many failings in your eyes), and ask yourself what you yourself can practically do to attempt to make the best of a less than perfect set of circumstances. Try not to adopt a victim mentality as though you are completely at the random mercy of all outside influences which could potentially affect your ability to do your job well and on time, and gain a reasonable degree of personal satisfaction and secure income from making the best of it. Why not do some creative brainstorming and write down some ideas on paper now as to how you gain gain greater control over your current working situation?

If you can do this and begin to feel that you are once more moving in a positive, forwards direction with your employment situation, I think that the increased self confidence this will give you will spill over into other areas as well such as looking for a suitable partner and finding other ways to supplement the income you already get from your main job.

Regards from your friend,

eye_of_tiger  

Thank you EofT, I really appreciate your help!  Bless you.