hi,

It seems to me that you are not looking for proof but for the courage to follow your convictions. it is not easy to leave a relationship, even an unhappy one. over a period of time even those who are intelligent start to doubt themselves and in the end find it hard to believe that happiness is attainable, so it is easier to stay.

so i send you energy, to help you find the best solution, we cannot go forward while our eyes are turned backward. you may feel that proof will give you the strength to follow through and leave, but you don't need proof if you know inside yourself, you need strength to do what is best for you. take a bit of time to sit down and invite this energy in. the best outcome is what you are looking for and i hope it will be yours soon.

regards and good luck
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Thank you squeaky, yes it is the strength I am looking for but hes the one who moves things around then says I'm cracking up when I cant find things, hes done so many things all to get me out, even out of the blue just telling me to go, but why should I leave him with what he wants the home, I went out to work originally to get it, its like a status symbol to him, how is it possible I can never catch him, I know wanting revenge is a negative thing and I meditate regularly to help release it, I don't even hate him, but I'm not about to make it easier than its already been for him, hes the one that must go, which is why I posted to see if anyone could pick up anything that would help, I completely understand why no one as come forward with anything as the issue is life changing, I think Ive said probably to much already, so I'm would like to request that the thread now be closed

I would like to thank all those that have answered