I've been thinking about how to word this so i can get an accurate reading.  So im just gonna ask what i've been thinking....im in a toxic relationship at the moment and iam leaving for the summer, there is a person that lives where iam going and we have a past together, will our relationship evolve into something more than just a fling? or is it too late?.......I need to know its killing me inside.  Anything else you see for me is also welcome, thank you!

Danielle-Aug-31-1981-Virgo-female

Hi Danielle,  

No psychic reading by itself is I feel ever going to be able to tell you what you want to hear. While I am not totally insensitive to your suffering as a result of the toxic relationship you are currently in, I feel that if taking up again where you left off with this man from your past and settling down with him as far as possible from your current partner is seen as the only safe way for you to get out and have a life of your own, then I sense that you would take this course of action on offer.

Now of course there are a host of factors which could affect whether or not your plans to start all over again with another man are going to turn out quite as you expected them to, as there is no mention at all if this man you once knew even knows that you still exist, or that if he does he is still interested in having any type of relationship with you.

Still I do feel that you are highly motivated to do something (anything you can think of) about what appears to be on the surface a hopeless situation with regards to you continuing to put up indefinitely with this decidedly unhealthy relationship in the hope of finding something much better in the arms of another man, and the fact that he is a past love interest probably attracts you to him in preference to someone completely new. I feel that if all the factors I mentioned go more in your favour, then your sheer determination to break off this toxic relationship and replace it with a happier and healthier one in another distant place would make you do whatever you feel is necessary to increase your chances of finally finding true love and lasting happiness.

Another way of saying the same thing is that although I do not think that this other relationship can by any stretch of the imagination be guaranteed to work out as you hoped it would, you are going to be the person who will need to do the hard work involved, as well as being the person who will have to live with the consequences of your decision to take the significant risks involved that you may end up with neither of these two men.

My advice therefore would not be to burn all your bridges behind you, before you are reasonably certain that this old flame of yours is as keen to take up with you where you both left off years before, as you obviously are. If you rush in where angels fear to tread and find out too late that he does not return your affections, you could live to regret doing this.

I am not a person who will tell you that you should stay forever in a toxic relationship and be miserable for the rest of your life as a result of what I told you was the case in a reading, but by jumping to premature conclusions that the man from your past is still as interested in you as you are in him, and packing your bags to move in with him (then discovering much too your embarrassment and horror that he is not) you could possibly be jumping from the boiling pot into the burning fire (things could actually get worse, not better, as your self confidence would be totally destroyed if he also rejected you).

Sorry that I cannot accurately predict how this whole situation might eventually work out in the end for you. Too many unknown factors, each of which could instantly render any prediction I have made invalid.

eye_of_tiger  

Thank you for getting back to me.  The situation is confusing for me....the guy from my past does know that i exist and we talk still...im going to visit my mom this summer and she lives in the same town as the guy from my past.....i know that he is interested in hooking up but i just wanted to know i guess if there would be anything more to it then that.  i was just hoping to get some insight on that situation but it is true that if he was willing to rekindle what we had in the past i would have to do it not only because of my current relationship but because being with him again is always on my mind....and even if this current relationship was a healthy one i could not be in it fully and truely because the other man is always running through my head.

but i would just like to thank you again for taking the time to get back to me....thank you!