I am in Deep trouble.
Just a couple of weeks back, I met with an accident and due to which my marriage is postponed. we had to cancel all the fuctions and call all people about the postponement of the marriage.

I would request a readings for my marriage.Whether I would be able to marry to the same girl in the three months.

My DOB - 30.08.1976 BIRTH TIME 0 8:30 PM IST

It will depend much on how much painful your accident was for your wife to be.

Real love can heal a lot, but with real love one seldom comes in big trouble in a short time before marriage.

If you are the cause of the trouble, then put yourself in her shoe and ask yourself the same question, "would you have married Him(You)" ?

We are not allowed to try to figure out her thoughts, so the best you can do is to evaluate the situation, do the best you can for her to understand that you love her, and to accept her decision, even if it would be no.

I would like to offer my support to most of what has already been explained so well above, but I am puzzled by the part of Rhutobello's response which suggests that you should learn to accept "her decision".

I was under the assumption (please correct me if I am wrong) that it was a joint decision on both your fiancées and your own part equally to postpone or delay rather than to give up completely on you ever getting married to one another.

Yes I suppose it was embarrassing and possibly involved significant out of pocket expenses in order to cancel the arrangements at the last minute, but your intended obviously though that your health and welfare was important enough to put up with this, rather than trying to force things along according to your previous schedule and possibly doing you irreparable damage in the process.

Unless as was also suggested you may be the accident (and not the innocent victim of one) or you made a bad decision which has temporarily destroyed her faith in you, I have no doubt that you will be happily married in the proper fullness of time. Broken limbs will eventually heal, but broken hearts can often take considerably longer periods of time to learn to forgive our human failings.

Hoping this has helped,

eye_of_tiger

Isn't respect for others decision one of our ground pillars

You are allowed to work to change it, but if anyones decision are "final", then it is vast of time for both parts, if one will not accept it, and go on trying to get ones own opinion true.

Just said to clear what I would achieve with my statement

Hello Rhutobello,  

I also agree with the need to accept another person's decision when it is final, but my question was an attempt to determine just who it was that was actually making this decision - was it the member, his fiancée, or as the posting suggested to me it was a joint one on both their parts. In fact I cannot find a single point on which we disagree in principle.





Absolutely!

But I believe that the problem with this request is that somsale is asking here for an actual prediction to be made about whether he would be able to marry the girl within a period of the next three months. Neither of us can tell him this with any degree of certainty.

As you quite rightly said in your response a lot depends on the nature of this "accident" and the reasons why they both (?) felt it was necessary to cancel the arrangements at such a late stage.

If those conditions have not changed significantly since the decision was made, I feel that the probability of them still getting married within three months is rather low. But on the other hand within 12 months from now may be a much more realistic prospect if progress has been made. I am waiting for further input from him to help me out with this.

Hoping that I have cleared up any possible misunderstandings as well, this time to what I said,

eye_of_tiger