Hi, I was hoping I could get a reading. I do not get along with most of family because I don't follow the Jewish religion. I mean my sister adopted three children and didn't even tell me. I feel alone. I think my question is, will I eventually find someone? Is there a family out there for me. This is something I don't usually tell people, but for a true reading, I have Multiple Sclerosis. I haven't posted much, but that's because I don't usually know what to say. I can only say Thank you from my heart.  I was born on 10/10/67 at 5:30 A.M.

Thank You for any help you can give. Callie

Dear Callie,

Increasing numbers of people these days (often through no fault of their own) no longer feel as though they are accepted by or even acceptable to the other members of their own blood family, and the fact that you have an illness which further isolates you from getting out of the house and living your life as you see fit to do so does pose an incredible challenge to you  eventually starting a family of your own or at the very least feeling that you are a valued member of a group of people with common interests. I cannot begin to imagine the difficulties you face as a result of the on/off but inevitable progression of your MS, but it has often been said that if you do not feel valued and respected within your own family, that often your only option may be to find another family where you are accepted for being the wonderful and loving person I sense you already are, and not for being the type of person whom others expect you to be.

It is my feeling that this is precisely why these Mystic Board forums and many other sites of a similar nature were created in order to fill the increasing gap which has opened up between members of our own families and many of us. In a definite manner when you become a member of an online spiritual community such as this one you are also being welcomed into your own internet family of caring individuals who while the challenges they face may be quite different from one another, there is a friendly atmosphere and the desire for people to help other people where they are now. Now I know that you would dearly love to feel more accepted at home or alternately be able to be more independent of your relatives, and I am certainly not saying that even at the age of 40 that this change in their attitudes towards you is impossible to change, but I would be irresponsible and to be honest rather cruel if I suggested to you that shifting them from their own opinions is going to be an easy task and that what you most hope for with all of your heart and soul is effectively guaranteed. So welcome to our community and the loving family you have wished for all along.

Do not limit your concept of finding love (or a noticeable lack of) to your own family, as I feel that they are not prepared to question their beliefs to the point that they will allow you to be whom you truly are. You can also do quite a lot to help yourself by practising self love. Learning to more fully love yourself is something totally different from being vain or self centred. If we cannot value and respect ourselves for whom we are, then how can we reasonably expect others to do it on our behalf? There is I believe no possibility that the MS is suddenly going to go away and it will therefore always remain a part of you as a whole.

But don't allow it (the illness) to completely define who you are, as you are far more than the physical body that you are currently inhabiting and you deserve far more from life in the way of finding love and compassion wherever and from whomever you can.  What I am attempting to say to you (and am probably not doing a very good job of it) is that I feel that you need to significantly expand your concepts concerning love and family, while at the same time putting a brave face to the world, even when  you feel that life is treating you unfairly (which is always much easier said than done).

Could I respectfully suggest that you should make an increased effort starting today to begin looking at the other members of these forums more as real people with their own problems as well as their own unique strengths, rather than merely as another screen name?  Regardless of your MS and possibly because you have it you may be able to help another person who is in need by drawing on the wealth of your own experience and the incredible healing potential of your soul. It has been my observation that helping and loving others at least temporarily distracts us from our own pain, with the added bonus that whatever energies we put out are in one way or another eventually returned to us in even greater measure.

Therefore try more to be yourself (MS and all) and spread the love you feel within your heart liberally around you (like fairy dust), to those of our members who could badly do with whatever help and friendship you could possibly offer them at this difficult time in their own lives. You have taken the first small but vital step towards your freedom from these feelings of loneliness by demonstrating the courage to post your innermost feelings here, and for this I feel that you should be congratulated and applauded. It is said that we are only expected to take the first step of our journey without being able to first see the entire staircase, and I believe that the sudden urge you felt to stop lurking on these forums, and to say what is both in your heart as well as on your lips is a sign that the time has now arrived for you to take the next important step, and another and...........another.

As the Rogers and Hammerstein song "You'll Never Walk Alone" (from Carousel) tells us.....



Love, Light and Peace to you and your dear family,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you, I am sorry that it has taken me so long to send you a and everyone a Thank you, and you are right in the fact, that I do let this "wear" on me. I do not mean to, I try to pay attention so that very thing does not happen, easier said then then done.  I truly didn't walk away from my family, I don't question their beliefs, I just don't follow them. You are absolutely right, I have never before hidden my voice or my feeling as much as I have in the past few years. And know it has become a habit. I cry or laugh when I read some of the post, but I think I have only answered the easy ones. I can only say that I found this sight for a reason, and for that I am very blessed.

Callie

Hi Callie,

Better late than never, I always say.

The purpose of us attempting to identify some of your unconscious thought habits is in order to help make things a little easier for you in the future.

We are not into negatively judging you or putting you down for being less than perfect (something we all share as human beings), so please do not use what we say to do this to yourself.

I feel both humbled and privileged to share at least this small part of your personal journey towards better understanding yourself with you as my valued friend and a welcome member of these MB forums.

God Bless,

eye_of_tiger