First of all, we never declare anything about pregnancy, unfaithfulness, sickness or other thing that can have a great impact on the questioners mind or health.

Let me try to give you some thoughts, seen from my life experience and not from any psychic stand.

You are very young, 20, and I hope I can congratulate you both with yours first child.

For most womans "parenthood" come as a natural thing in connection with birth.

For many males it comes like a shock, and they might need time to adjust,he (we) is nothing but "a overgrown boy", that has had a nice time with you alone.
Now a new citizen has moved into the home, who might cry a lot, who might have feeding times, at short intervals, even at night, who turn around all the routine you and your hubby had from before. This might give him some fear, or insecure on how to deal with the situation.
I am not saying all males act like this, but some might do.

I think you shall act as natural as possible, don't try to push anything on the sex front, don't try to start any quarrels.
Try to let him take his turn with the baby, it is now you must make the ground for how you want your hubby to take part in yours sons  future.
If he takes no part now, it will be harder to make him understand about it later....be firm...try not to make arguments.

If you go around believing that your hubby has someone on the side, you will start to beam mistrust towards him.
You might not say anything,direct, but such thing will be picked up, because there will always be given comments one way or another.
If he feel your mistrust, this might lead to bad feelings, which also"lower the sexual activity" for the partnership.

I am not saying you shall go around wearing blinders...you must always evaluate your marriage/partnership, and it is always important to talk frankly about thing that bother you, because thoughts can burn one mind very hard, if allowed to grow.

So try to relax, enjoy the child together, and hopefully all three of you have a harmonic life  again soon...I know I would

Good Luck to you all!

this is not our first child tho. this is actually our second. thats why i am so confused. after our first he was ready to get in the sack before the stiches were healed and ended up getting a cut because of it. but now something is just so different and off. can you tell me how my future love life looks?

I tend to agree with all that has wisely been said above, and while we cannot give you a reading about possible infidelity within your marriage, my feelings are that with you having a second child at the age of 20 that your husband's noticeable loss of libido is possibly more related to him wanting to be both a loving and responsible husband to you and your two children, but at the same time wanting to make up for the part of his life he has given up to do so. Please do not get me wrong about this, as I do feel that he still loves you deeply and that he has no intention of straying unless you push him into resuming your physical relationship before he feels adequately prepared to.

Basically I feel that he is probably so stressed out at the moment with all the changes that are going on at home and perhaps other factors associated with his job, especially his growing concern that he may not make a good enough income to be a good provider to his family. There may also be underlying health problems negatively affecting him that should put him off wanting to make love to you, and perhaps a physical check up and man to man talk from his doctor rather than you immediately considering a marriage counsellor or divorce lawyer may be just what is needed to resurrect your love life.

Continuing to nag him about this and not being sensitive to what else may be happening in his life will I feel only be more likely to push him into another woman's arms, when if you asked him what is the matter without pressuring him to make love regularly and on demand, I really do not feel that you have any reason for concern with regard to this. So in summary my impressions are that marital infidelity is not one of your current problems, but that it could potentially become so if you do not remember how much your husband has himself given up to be able to be a good husband, provider and parent, and how much he still loves you.

Good sex begins with positive two way communication between each partner, and in your case I feel that due to the circumstances surrounding you having your second child, it is very difficult for your spouse to find time to discuss the things which really matter to him because you are so busy and stressed out yourself. Bedtime may be the only time he feels that he can do this, and as any person who has been the parent of a new baby even your time together in the sack is likely to be interrupted at any time which is not particularly conducive to either physical intimacy or talking things out.

Yes I do feel that something is going on within your relationship with your husband as a whole and especially in his attitude to lovemaking, but I seriously doubt that at least at this stage that the many possible reasons for this include another woman. Rhuto is absolutely correct when he says that jumping to this conclusion without solid physical evidence of him being unfaithful to you could quite unintentionally become the trigger for him looking to another woman to satisfy his needs (which only include physical ones).

Hoping that this has helped as I do feel that you have every reason to hope that if you can reopen the channels of communication between you and your husband (not just in bed) that your marriage will be a long and happy one and you will have no reason to believe that he will ever leave his boots under some other woman's bed.

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