I don't know if it's too soon to ask, if so I apologise sincerely. I had a reading from EOT just over a month ago asking about my LD relationship (at the time) of a year with John because I was feeling unsure about us.
Sadly, I ended the relationship not long after the reading  
He was shutting me out, not calling, or answering or returning calls. He seemed to be stressed and depressed, but I'm not even sure now. He sent a text saying that he didn't know what to do because he wasn't doing so well mentally, and I never heard from him again - not even after the break-up email, which I would have preferred not to send (for many reasons), but I had not other way of contacting him, and my heart was just breaking. I never felt  less important or less cared for by anyone, than the way I was feeling as a result of his actions.
Because of the way things ended I feel like I have no closure. I'm so sad now feeling as though he never even cared for me. I need to move on. I want be loved and have something substantial, but part of me still hopes it's not completely over, and I don't even understand why because I should be furious at his treatment of me.
If anyone could possibly give anything which might help me understand this better, I would so greatly appreciate it!
If it's too soon to ask, I completely understand.

Thank you in advance!
Alessandra

Dear Alessandra,



I am sincerely sorry to hear that you broke up with John not long after, but you might remember that I included this possibility within the reading I gave you over a month ago (which also means that it is not too early to request another reading now).



The major problem as I see it is that in order to have some sense of closure you believe that you need to either get in contact with John, or wait until he contacts you. In his current emotional state I do not feel that this would be productive or even advisable, if you could locate him. I sense that there has been very little change in the factors which lead to you parting since then, and that openly confronting him would only be likely to escalate into a slinging match where each of you would say something hurtful to the other person in the heat of the moment that you could soon live to regret. Unfortunately once it has been said then it is impossible to take it back and make out that it never happened.

My advice therefore would be to do one of the following (or both if you feel it would speed up the healing process).

1. Write a letter to John saying everything you would want to say to him face to face. Just let your feelings be set down on paper and do not censor anything or worry about the spelling. Write for as long as you need to and end it by telling him that you wish him no harm and that you now release him, while asking that he will let you go in return.

DO NOT POST THE LETTER, EVEN IF YOU DO HAVE A CONTACT ADDRESS YOU COULD TRY. BURN IT COMPLETELY IN A SAUCER TO PREVENT IT FROM CAUSING A FIRE IN YOUR HOME, WHILE SAYING OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE NOW WITH LOVE RELEASING HIM FROM ANY FURTHER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, LETTING HIM GO HIS OWN WAY, WITH NO BAD FEELINGS TOWARDS HIM AT ALL.

The human mind always enjoys us using rituals in order to help us focus on and come more fully to terms with letting go, and burning the letter only emphasises that closure is what we most need.

OR

2. The empty chair technique. Place two chairs directly facing each other so that they are only a relatively short distance apart(3 feet or 90 cms). You sit in one chair, and in the other you visualise John seated. I know that tit probably sounds silly to your logical mind to have to speak to an empty chair, but our minds and bodies do react if we visualise the person well enough as if the person was really sitting there. As with the letter, tell John everything you would want to say to him face to face if you could.

Really get into the role as if you are acting the part, and try not to feel too silly or embarrassed when you discover that this causes a blessed emotional release that will make you feel that closure has been achieved. This and the first technique will even work if the person concerned is now in Spirit, so try either one or both of these well established psychological healing methods which were given to me by a qualified counsellor in helping me to find my own sense of closure with my father who died in 1989. Let's just say that we often did not see eye to eye when he was still alive, and I always knew that he loved me but things between us were for various reasons left unsaid and these techniques were found to be helpful in properly saying my goodbyes.

Please let me know whether or not these suggestions helped,

Love and Light,

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Thank you so much, EOT. I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to share your gift and insight with me.
I will definitely try the techniques you've suggested, and I will let you know how things go, but I feel already that they will be helpful.

Thank you again  
Alessandra