Hi everyone again

I just need to know one thing...I lost contact with this guy Anthony around Valentine's Day.  All of a sudden, I'm sensing that he's going to reconnect with me soon.  When will this happen??

He's a Leo, I'm a Libra.  I noticed that my Venus will be transiting through Leo currently and continuing within the next few weeks.  Supposedly, March 12th through 17th (with particular emphasis on the 19th) are the key dates.  Would it be beneficial to renew contact at that time?

If needed, here's the birth information again:

Paul (me):  Sept. 24, 1983 at 2:48pm in Valley Stream, NY
Anthony:    July 26, 1985 at 12:01am in Plano, Illinois

Of a more interesting note, my Venus is located in the 8th house which is ruled by Leo.  My Venus is also in Leo as well.

Hello again Paul,



Interesting, but unfortunately of little value to a non astrologer such as myself. My advice would be not to use the fact that Venus is located in Leo in both your charts as a reason why you are having difficulties in your relationship with Anthony. I understand and respect that your mind is frantically trying to find a sense of reason or purpose behind your communication breakdown with your soul mate, but I really do not feel that going down this particular path is going to correct the underlying problem - which is I feel that both yourself and Anthony are so confused about your feelings for each other, that any relationship seems better than having none at all.

What happened to Carlos? Less than a week after you lost contact with Anthony on St Valentine's Day you were considering dating Carlos. Doesn't that only go to confirm what I have just said above that you are becoming frustrated and more confused by the day with Anthony's constantly changing moods and attitudes towards you? So frustrated and even angry that you felt that Anthony had betrayed you and that you played with the idea of making him jealous by dating someone else in a vain attempt to make him contact you once again. If the date with Carlos went ahead, did Anthony find out about it indirectly through the grapevine, or if it did not did Anthony know that you were considering going out with someone else?

I am not expecting you to answer such deeply personal questions in a public forum such as this one, but the questions are running through my head while giving you your reading, and I am therefore writing them down just as I  have received them, so that you might not only get a clearer picture of the intuitive process by which I give readings on these forums, but also to help you to better understand why you could still be having relationship and communication difficulties with Anthony. It has very little I feel to do with your respective astrology charts, and I am equally hesitant to use your dates of birth for a life path reading as I fear that you would then latch on to anything I said as yet another reason why you and Anthony are currently at an effective stalemate relationship wise.

Do not get the wrong idea about what I have just told you, and begin to think that there is no possible way to resolve your problems with Anthony, as I am still fairly confident that the relationship can be resurrected if you are both more willing to be honest about your true feelings for one another, and stop trying to reach each other's thoughts. I sense that  much of the confusion between you arises out of your apparent inability to effectively communicate what you really want to say to your partner, and this is I feel compounded by your own extreme sensitivity to what are most likely perfectly innocent comments that Anthony has made in the past.

You are looking I believe for meanings where they do not exist, and this is distracting you from the really important issue of learning to communicate more effectively and tactfully with him again. I also suspect that both of you are too proud to want to be the person who first approaches the other and says sorry, but until one of you does this I do not feel that any astrology or numerology reading is going to help you to get back together with Anthony, sooner rather than much later. Can I say that I feel that you (and possibly Anthony as well) are presently my good friend wearing your heart upon your sleeve, and it is therefore not surprising that you are increasingly vulnerable to having your deepest feelings hurt if for some reason only known to himself Anthony has not contacted you since St Valentine's Day.

My feelings are that contacting him yourself and telling him that you are sorry for any misunderstanding that has happened between you would be a vital first step towards regaining his trust. It would then give him in return the opportunity to tell you why he did not contact you himself. I feel that you will be embarrassed when you finally discover that his reasons probably had very little to do with something you did or did not do. I feel that there is currently so much going on in Anthony's life outside of your relationship with him at the moment for him to be able to give you the attention that you so obviously feel he owes you. Do not make the common error of explaining every single one of Anthony's problems only in terms of yourself. There is much more happening in his life, just below the surface. He could do with some of your love, support and understanding at this difficult time of his own life. Are you therefore willing to be the one to first break the ice, and reopen the temporarily closed channels of communication between you?

Love, Light and Healing,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you, Tiger, for such an insightful response.

Firstly, I feel perfectly OK disclosing this information to you in a public forum.  If anything, I'm learning lessons from this, and perhaps other people on this messageboard can empathize with their own issues as well.

As for the one-time dinner date with Carlos, that's all it was.  Nothing transpired after that, and I didn't feel any deep connection with him.

As for Anthony knowing that I was dating people, yes he does know.  In fact, BEFORE our lack of communication happened on Valentine's Day, I told him straight out that I would be dating other people in the meantime and that my feelings towards him would always be stronger, no matter who I happen to take out to dinner.  So he already knows that, and his response to that was a hasty "ok, ok...".

With regarding to communicating with him personally, there are signs of that already starting to develop, which is why I decide to post on here again.  He and I both happen to be on the ever-popular site Myspace, and I noticed that just today, he's been viewing my profile a lot, which he hasn't done since Valentine's Day.  So I think he's beginning to reconcile some of those issues within himself.

Frankly, I don't know what's going to happen.  He may contact me before I do, I don't know.  But I still feel that it's not the time for me to contact him.  I'm going to wait until later next week, then I will contact him.

I hope the above information gives you some further insight into what's going on, and if you have an extension of your analysis to give due to that, by all means, I'd highly appreciate it.

Thank you, Tiger.  Much love and gratitude,

Paul

And as for those "innocent" comments he made in the past, I took them very seriously and I was sensitive to them.  I'll elaborate further.

On one particular evening, things developed between us, and he told me that he doesn't see me in a purely superficial, sexual way.  He also used the phrase:  "Oh the things I'd do to you" etc etc.  Now I took those statements (and how he acted) as very serious ones.  I don't see them as innocent.  Then the following day, he just told me he wanted to stay "friends" and doesn't want a relationship with anyone.  He NEVER said that he doesn't have any feelings for me, however.  Which he probably does, but not as intense as mine.

I wish there was a clear-cut summation as to what's going on here in as few words as possible, along with the probable restoration of communication that I feel coming up in a few weeks.