i was just wondering if someone could help me answer some questions. im october of 06 my step father murdered my mom and i still have a lot of unanswered questions. does she know what happened? did she feel the pain? is she ok? i just had a new baby. ddoes she watch over me and both grandkids? is she sad about what happened?

i would very much appreciate some help. thank you so much.

my birthdate is 08/08/1987
my moms was 06/24/1959
my name is brittany and my moms is mary.

Hi, Brittany,

I'm SO sorry about what happened to your mother, and to you and the rest of your family and the people who cared about her.  I hope you've gotten some help in dealing with the incredible pain that your mother's murder must have caused.

I can't tell you what is happening specifically with your mother; there may be others here who can.  In my experience (and I hope that this is not too upsetting to you), people who die suddenly and violently may have trouble understanding what happened to them, and have a hard time leaving the place where they died, and the people they love.

Please understand, again, that I can't know where your mother's spirit is, or answer with any certainty your questions.  But my gut feeling, based on the experiences I've had with the spirits of people who have died unexpectedly, is that they need someone to let them know that they understand what happened, and to tell them that they love and care about them and will be happy knowing that they will be passing on to another place where they can have peace.

My suggestion--and it's only a suggestion--is that you "talk" to your mother, even if you can't see or hear her.  Tell her that you love her and miss her, tell her gently what happened and what's transpired since (for example, if your stepfather has been prosecuted, or anything else that's relevant), and tell her that you want her to get to a place where she can find peace and perhaps still watch over you and your baby (and definitely tell her details about your baby that will make her happy! ).  I don't know if you're at all religious, or ascribe to any faith, but what I do when I encounter "lost souls" is pray for them to whomever might be listening, and explain who they are and the circumstances of their death, and ask that they get help in getting to "the light", or wherever it is that spirits go to find peace and help.  I don't know who, exactly, is listening, but I feel very sure that someone is, and that your mother will be cared for.  I also feel that it will help her to hear directly from you about the things she would care about.

I hope that helps.  Again, I'm very sorry for your painful loss.  I do believe that your mother will hear you if you speak to her (I don't think that you need to do it out loud, necessarily--just find a quiet place where you can talk to her in your head, or, if it feels more helpful, in a whisper).

Feel free to write again.

Doe

thank you for your reply. i do talk to her some. i just dont feel that she can understand me tho. but hell i still feel like its all a drem also and it has been over a year. it just feel like it is not real. i dont know................

To answer your many questions about mom is a mediumship reading.  That is why your request has been moved to the reading forum.

To be open to your own communion with spirit takes a little effort and understanding on your part.

thats just it tho. i dont understand anything that happened. none of it makes sense to me. i cant even understand the smallest detail. i know exactly what happened but that doesnt help. i feel like maybe getting some of these answers can guide into the right direction of understanding and maybe eeven one day getting past it all.