Hi,

I am going through a tough time in my relationship, things which were never expected have happened in my life.I am confused as to continue this relation or should quit it.I would appreciate if someone could help me with respect to this relationship.



Thanks

While I am sensitive to how upsetting and confusing this all must be, you are the only person who can in the end decide where your limits are as to what you are willing to put up with in your relationship, and for how long. If you are asking me to confirm that you are not imagining that something is very wrong and that she has not been as honest and upfront with you as you had been formerly lead to believe, then I am genuinely sorry to have to tell you that I completely agree with your assessment of the current situation. In plain English I believe that the way that your deepest feelings have been walked over sucks and that you have every right to feel betrayed.

Of course exactly what you are now going to do about those painful feelings is effectively up to you. Once the sense of trust between you and the other person has been lost, then it is going to be a long hard road to get it back, and it will only happen if she is willing to admit that she is a big part of the problem, and must accept responsibility for the consequences of her actions.

Your focus card for this month's reading is the Five of Wands. Fives of any Tarot suit generally mean that you are experiencing a period of relative instability (in this case within your relationship with her), and that you have hit a particularly bad patch or have encountered a fly in your ointment. However this card is not necessarily saying that the situation is hopeless, as instability should also be seen as an opportunity for growth and development as well. Up to a reasonable level instability can actually help us to develop some humility in recognising that although the other person might have done us wrong, under similar circumstances we ourselves are far from being perfect and could possibly have done the same thing if the temptation was strong enough.

The Five of Wands specifically predicts conflict and struggles ahead where inner doubts and fears will arise, potentially leading to confusion and even panic. The important question it poses is how are you going to deal with this on a personal level. Are you simply going to give in and allow the woman you love to be taken from you without being willing to at least give her the benefit of the doubt and stand up for your own rights within this relationship, or are you going to draw a line in the sand and actively compete for her affections?

This is a time for stepping in to take whatever practical steps you can to first size up the competition, then to fight for her honour (not by putting yourself and possibly her as well in physical danger) by making it very clear to the other person that you are not willing to let her go without putting up a struggle. If you allow your fears that if you do speak up and make your true feelings known that she will walk away from you anyway then you may never know if you had a real chance to heal the emotional rift which has opened between you, and regret for the rest of your life that you did not find out for sure before you called it quits.

I cannot offer you a 100% rock solid guarantee that if you will do this then everything will ultimately work out between you and her and that you will both live happily ever after, but I can almost assure you with complete confidence that if you do not give this attempt your best shot, then any relationships you may have in the future will be weighed down by the negative emotional baggage which you have carried with you from this one.

Hoping these insights have been of some help to you in reaching your decision as to whether or not your current relationship is recoverable,

Cheers m8,

eye_of_tiger

Thanks a lot , you have always been very helpful.

God Bless