well i like  my   job  really and  the  people  i  work  with an d even  the  dr i  work  for, i like  her  but   she isn't  a  very  nice  person  at times,  she  brought  someone  for  feng shui  in her office  which i think is  awesome  even though  most of the  people  that  work  there  didn't approve  i think mostly  because  they didn't  understand it,   but  she is   focusing  on  bring   buisness  to  her   practice,  but isn't  doing  anything aobu t treating the people   she  emplys  with  respect, i am  not  sure  this is the job for me,  i am  thinking  aobut  finding  another  job  i had a  reading  not  long  ago  and   someone  said  that  i  woul d  find a  job   from  an  unusual  source, i did   find  this  one on the internet  which  isn't  unusual these days,  so  may i have  some  adivce  on this  please?

When working with anyone you need to learn to accept both their positive qualities and what you may perceive as their failings. It appears to me that the doctor concerned is having the accept the cold harsh realities of running any business that if you do not make enough profit then you cannot provide your services, and consequently those who need your help will be effectively denied of any opportunity of getting assistance from you.

By saying that you do not regard her as "being a very nice person at time" you are ignoring the fact that she is very progressive in the way she conducts her practice as a whole (most doctors would not even consider providing Feng Shui as a complementary therapy), and I feel that her patients would be a better judge than yourself as to whether she shows them the empathy and respect that they deserve.

The real question here is whether it is the doctor, your fellow workers or you who are the source of the problem. I suspect that everyone who works there must accept at least some of the responsibility for the general tone or feeling of the place, and that getting the balance right between conducting an effective healing practice and business and taking good care of the patients at the same time, is going to require you working co-operatively together for the common good.

On the basis of this reading I feel that you owe it both to yourself and to your employer to persevere with any inevitable conflicts of opinion, and to do what you can to make significant positive changes to your own attitudes about those people you work with. You seem to be saying that overall you do like the doctor and that although you do not always agree with her work practices or way of doing things, basically her heart is in the right place and I do sense that she genuinely cares for her patients. One aspect of continuing to care for her patients is that she needs to keep her business solvent and afloat.

I do not know exactly what job you are doing in her office, but it sounds to me that you and those you work with feel as though you do not have any input into what is going on in the practice on a daily basis. Unfortunately to a great degree this is I feel something which you will need to grin and bear, as the doctor must have the final say regarding any changes in policy. Is the doctor approachable in discussing any problems you might be experiencing while working there, and does she have a suggestion box?

If you are unable and/or unwilling to give both your employer and the other people you are working with a fairer go than you are currently doing, then I feel that you are just as likely to experience many of the same problems anywhere else you you go to work. While there may indeed be valid reasons for your present employer needing to change some of her work and business practices for the sake of her patients and employees, do not throw out the baby with the bath water by taking everything so personally as though you are being specifically targeted, when conflicts within the workplace are a common and almost inevitable fact of life. Instead of always blaming the doctor and your work colleagues when something seems to be going wrong on the job, rather than you being a part of the problem be a big part of the solution instead!

If after six months you feel that nothing you can do personally is ever going to bring about lasting positive change in your relationship with everybody at your place of work, then maybe you will need to consider looking elsewhere, while keeping in mind that unresolved interpersonal problems and negative attitudes have a habit of resurfacing wherever you might be working in the future, often at the very worst of times.

Hoping this helps,

eye_of_tiger  

she is  not  appraochable  at  all,  as  i said  as  a person i  like  her,  her  buisness  has  gotten  out  of  hand. i do  insurance  collecing  in h er  office i work in the  back office,   i just  started there  two  weeks  ago   the  woman  b4   start three  weeks  b4 i did  and   one  girl   stared  two  weeks  b4 i did and  the  other one  started  one  week  after  i did,   and  the office  manager  has  been  there  two  years  off  an d on, an d was  by  herself  in the office for  two  months,   and   the dr  went  through  300  employee's   just  last  year.  she  let  her  A/R   get  so  out of  hand  we  are  collecting   for  three  years  previous.  i do  understand  that  she  needs  this  cleared up  but  she  shouldn't h ave  let it  get  out of  hand   to  begin  with.  and  yells  at  us  for  every little  thing  and  no one  does  anything  right  even  if  she  told  us  to do it  that  way  the  day  b4.   every  one in  the  office  except  myself    faxed  out  resume's  today  durin g lunch  hour  while  she  was  out.   am i  her  problem   no   are the  people i work  with  the  problem? no  she  has  had  the  newest  girl  in tears  three  times  today?  I  am  tryin g to hang  in  ther e just  not  sure  that  i can, I  like  all the peolle  i work with  an d we  get  along  great,   Thanks  for the  Advice i will   take  it into  consideration.

Kat

Gosh it sounds like you have all the makings of a full scale revolt or mutiny on your hands here with what has been going on presumably for a long time at the doctor's office, before you ever appeared on the scene. Unfortunately, I do not feel that your experience is all that uncommon, although I empathise with your obvious frustration and confusion as to what is the best possible future course of action for you to take.

Your reading indicated that there were difficulties in the way in which the doctor related to other workers, but I must admit it gave no indication that the problems were so broad and deep seated. This is why I advised you to try to hang on for at least the next six months, in order to see whether you could take whatever practical measures were required to improve the situation. But on the basis of the information you have added since then, while we should remain as positive as possible, I really do not think that anything you could do would be enough to change things more in your favour.

I consequently advise you to seriously consider getting out as soon as possible, as long as you have a firm job offered to you before resigning. Perhaps it is not too late to send your resume, without at the same time giving your employer any excuse to fire or retrench you for your disloyalty? In the end, it must always remain your decision as to when it is the best time to leave.

Take care,

eye_of_tiger