Greetings to all!

My name is Alessandra. I am so happy to find this forum. I've always been drawn to metaphysics, and sometimes I feel I am something of an empath, but I tend to doubt things a lot   I've been reading around, and it's been so interesting (and wonderful!) to see the different approaches of so many talented readers. Wow!

I'd be very grateful if someone could provide me with a relationship reading, please. I'm having several conflicting emotions, and I feel I am really ready for ( and want) a real love with a "lifetime" partner. I was sure I had found him- I felt he is a soulmate- , and there are times I think I still have, but there are also times when I feel that he's just not as invested or into this as he used to be.
I have the desire for a family and a home of love. Will I have this love I desire?
Help would be SO greatly appreciated!

Many thanks!

Welcome Alessandra,

I do not know without giving you a full reading (and even then I could not promise anything) whether or not this man with whom you still appear to be in a relationship is one of your soul mates, but you seem to be under the common and mistaken impression that if you can find a soul mate then it must necessarily be a case of you both living happily ever after from there on. Many people misinterpret the almost inevitable conflicts involved with any human relationship as a sign that this is not your soul mate, and that therefore there is really no purpose going on with this relationship any further.

Before any of us are able to give you a relationship reading, it would be first necessary to know whether it is about your current one, or whether instead you have already written it off and are no longer considering it as even being a remote possibility that you may finally work it out. Only once you have decided that your current relationship is definitely down for the final count and there is simply no way to move forwards once again with this particular partner, should you be asking for a reading about a new one. IMO

If you are already thinking about moving on to another relationship before you have finished the previous one, how could you be committed to attempting to patch things up? Also what effect would it have on any man's ego to know that he is being used merely as a stop gap measure, until someone better comes along to take his place?

My feelings are that you need to talk to your current boyfriend about how insecure and alone you are feeling, and at least give him the opportunity to show you that your fears and doubts have no basis in reality. He is probably feeling just as confused as you are about why you feel so distant to him, as my feelings are that he does love you deeply, but that to a degree he cares too much about you, rather than it being a case of him not caring enough. If you believe that you are empathic (and I do not doubt that you are, then try for a moment to imagine what it must feel like to him to be passed over for another man, simply because your relationship has it's ups and downs like almost everyone's does.

Again I cannot guarantee you that your relationship will survive beyond a period of the next six months, but I do believe that you first owe it to both yourself and the man who you said you loved to determine if your fears and doubts are without grounds by coming right out and asking him. I sense that your chances of improving your current relationship  are still well above the 50% mark. Are you then  more committed to improving this existing relationship as you seem to feel that your boyfriend is not?

I sincerely hope that you will both be more honest about your feelings for the other person in future, as I believe that keeping the channels of communication open in both directions will make many of your fears and doubts disappear. Humans in general make terrible mind readers, and when we also allow our negative imaginations to get the better of us when in a close relationship with another person, then what chance does this give your love to grow?

Hoping this has helped, and wishing you both every happiness for the future,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you EOT for your insights, and you are absolutely right!
I guess my post was not terribly clear.... well I definitely was not, as I now look over what I had written, so I apologise.
I was hoping for a reading into THIS relationship, and if I would have these things with him.
I want to be with him, and I do not want to end it. I have spoken to him about my feelings, and he has a very hard time hearing that I am feeling hurt or unsure. Since he is not very communicative, I thought some additional insights might help me
He is not a stop-gap measure for me, but sometimes I feel that I may be one for him. I guess what also makes this more difficult is that it is a long-distance relationship at the moment. I care for him so deeply, but yes, lately I have been plagued by fear and doubt. He is not very expressive, so often I am left wondering where I stand. I know that everything has it's challenges... even soulmate relationships, and my imagination has been running wild with all sorts of scenarios.

Out of curiosity, do you need more information for a full reading?

Thank you so much for responding and for your advice!!

You are very welcome for both the reading and friendly advice.

We do not offer full readings on this Psychic Reading forum.

We instead offer intuitive readings for which we may use one or more divinatory tools in order to help us to focus and make the connection more easily including (but not confined to) the Tarot, numerology, runes, Angel cards, consulting the Akashic Records or on some occasions no tools at all.

The new featured reader idea which is currently being trialled is an attempt to help people to decide what particular divinatory methods they may prefer, and then direct their requests to the appropriate reader on that basis.

If you want a full formal Tarot, numerology or other type of reading done, this is not the place to request one.

Each reader has his or her own personal requirements as to what information needs to be included in a request to them.

To feel neglected or insecure within a relationship is not always a reliable sign that you are yourself being used as a temporary stop gap measure.

eye_of_tiger  

Thanks again EOT! And thank you for the information Being new here I so appreciate it. I didn't think full readings were given, but when you mentioned it in your initial read and post, I was then unsure, so thank you for clarifying. I was simply hoping for some insights into my current relationship, for which I thank you yet again.

You've been very helpful and I appreciate your time and generosity!!