Hello everyone!

I would love it and be really thankful if anyone can help me out and grant me the privilege of a general love reading for the next few months.  It just seems as if things are a bit tricky and confusing for me in that arena lately.

Thanks again for your consideration! :D

I'm not in a relationship.

I ended a relationship of over a year with someone about at the end of 2007 and he keeps trying to get back with me....I don't have the heart to tell him I just can't give him another chance.

Now, I'm just feeling confused about love I guess. Thank you!

Because in the back of your mind is the fear that by not being willing to give him another chance that you could unintentionally be cutting off any chances of ever having a relationship again with any man. I do not know exactly why it has come to this between you, and I am certainly not going to advise you to put aside your doubts and fears and take him back regardless of how he has betrayed your trust in the past.

But I do feel that at present you are carrying so much negative emotional baggage with you from your relationship with him into future ones (mainly in the way of guilt over factors which were never under your control in the first place) that it is highly unlikely that you will be able to successfully begin another one within the next six months.

This does not mean that I feel you should become a social recluse or forget completely about ever having another relationship in the future, but I feel that your deeply wounded heart is presently in great need of healing, and that it would take a very special type of man to have both the sensitivity and inner strength which was needed to be able to help you get through this at this relatively early stage of the self healing process.

I would also not be wanting to tell you to turn down any opportunities for love and happiness with a man during the next six months, because I told you that I felt that it was not a particularly good idea for the immediate future, or because you believed that you are somehow destined to remain single for the rest of your life and this all therefore seems too good to be true. I sense that for most of your life other people have basically decided for you what is in your own best interests, and you do not really need someone like myself telling you this once again.

While we do not have total control over and consequently the total responsibility for all factors which could either work for or against us in our relationships, we each do need to feel that we are reasonably in control over as a whole what is our life to live as we see fit. It is especially important that the next man you have a relationship does not attempt to take too much control with reference to making all your decisions for you, as I feel that this would only serve to reinforce your unconscious suspicions that a man with just the right mixture of personal qualities for you does not exist, and that you should therefore minimise your losses and keep running.  

But ask me the identical question after six months has passed, and your reading could then be very different from this one. Your own feelings of self worth have taken a terrible beating because of what happened in your previous relationship, so anything you can practically do in the meantime to increase these positive feelings towards yourself could potentially speed up the healing process, and greatly enhance your chances of finding the right man for you, sooner rather than much later.

Wishing you continuing good health and much future happiness ahead,

Love, Light and Healing,

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Hey thank you! Everything you said was basically dead-on! I put up with more negative things from my ex than I should have and it has definitely changed me. I feel like somewhere in it I have lost my empathy for people in relationships, and like I've become more selfish. I think it had a lot to do with that, but also I realize that I have let it affect me that way. I'm just not sure yet how to become more selfless like I used to be, because it seems like doing good by other people takes up too much energy that I don't seem to have!

But thank you I will definitely take your advice and just try to heal and feel better. Thank you so much!