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| I'm just not sure yet how to become more selfless like I used to be, because it seems like doing good by other people takes up too much energy that I don't seem to have! |
I cannot give you a magic formula for this, but I believe that you need to find a more comfortable working balance for yourself between helping other people, while at the same time getting some of your own equally important needs met. If you fail to do this you could soon easily come to resent the people whom you are most wanting to help.
Also with due respect, it is not always in a person's best interests to be helped
all of the time. Some people need to learn their own lessons the hard way, and if you constantly step in to do something for them that they would be far better off doing for themselves, you are unintentionally denying them of their opportunities to grow and develop as both a spiritual and human being (which we all are).
If on the other hand you choose to not continue to help people because it leaves you feeling exhausted and unable to work through your own issues, a life lived entirely for self is not in my opinion a life worth living. Balance your own needs against their's. Love thy neighbour as thyself, but first learn to value and respect yourself (practise true self love and not vanity).
Charity begins at home. Be kinder to yourself and allow a much higher and wiser power than ourselves to fill in the finer details. You cannot offer something to someone which you are not first willing to give to yourself? To love and help another, first learn to better love and be a best friend to number one.
Hoping this helps,
eye_of_tiger
