Firstly, thank you if you are reading this and considering replying to my request for a psychic reading. I can see that this is a busy board and as i am new don't come very high on the priority list.

I have been considering the fate of my relationship with my partner for some time. So much so that i cannot see the wood for the trees so to speak and have lost touch with my gut feelings and intuition and i am feeling quite low about it all. The rocky patch we're having seems to stretch on and on and i sometimes think it would be easier to walk away..yet i cannot imagine not being with him either. I would like another child with my partner (we are not preventing)..yet sometimes i am scared we are not stable enough to survive another baby despite having a young baby together already. My head says it would be madness to have another child under these circumstances..yet my heart would love another with him. It is possible i could be pregnant already, but is too soon for me to tell.

Does anyone have an insight into how our relationship will progress and if we will manage to make it work. Do you see another child for us? Any insite into the road ahead for me (and my partner) would be so much apreciated.

Many thanks,
Morag

Hello Morag,

Your assumption that simply because you are new to the board this automatically means that your request is given a low priority by our team of readers is incorrect. In your case especially I feel that there is an urgent need for asking for some help with this very upsetting problem, and I am not about to turn down your request as the rules for readers were meant to be applied in a compassionate manner. Hey there is a real person at the other end here, who also has a life to live beyond merely these forums, not without it's own problems, and I am therefore always pleased to be able to lend a helping hand or a listening ear (or a shoulder to cry on when life begins to get you down).

As you mentioned in your posting this has been an ongoing problem with your relationship for some considerable period of time, and like you I feel that to have a child with this man would probably be unwise, your strong maternal urge and hormones are saying something completely different. Many say that having a child (or another one) can only bring the couple closer together, but frankly while this does sometimes turn out as expected, I believe that rather than it being the general rule, it is a relatively rare exception.

If you think that you are going through such a rocky patch in your relationship with him now, think how much more this will be so if neither of you can get any sleep with a new baby in the house. The stresses and strains of your existing relationship are quite enough for any person lesser than a saint to cope with, without you also not being able to think straight because of the negative effects of long term sleep deprivation. As you say that you and your partner are not actively doing anything to prevent you conceiving another child, it seems that the decision to go ahead regardless has been made at least on a conscious level, even though your understandable doubts and fears about what potential effect this could have on your partnership in terms of future happiness continue to linger in deeper layers of your mind, and will probably continue to do so in spite of anything I could tell you now through a reading.

Unfortunately the only real way to see what effect another baby might have on your long term happiness as a couple may be to have one, but this hardly seems fair on anybody, least of all the child him or herself. My only suggestion would be to take a more relaxed and wait and see attitude to having a baby with him (easier said than done), and go with the attitude that if it does happen, that it was meant to be. In the meantime while you are waiting, try to work upon the interpersonal issues which you most feel lead to your present problems in the first place (if necessary with the assistance of a qualified professional relationship counsellor).

There is only one notable exception where I feel that this would not be the best thing to do, and that is if you have any physical evidence that your partner has been unfaithful to you, and his boots have been under somebody's bed other than your own. If you have anything other than vague suspicions of sexual infidelity from your partner, please immediately get yourself tested for STDs by your doctor and make your decision as to whether to continue to share a bed with him and to therefore even consider wanting to bring another child into the world with him as the father a fully informed one as is humanly possible.

 

It sounds to me from this that you already have a child or children from a previous relationship with another man. While having another child with this man would be a way of expressing the love you feel for him, what about the possible effects of making the wrong decision on your existing child or children? Also what about the potential effects on your own health and peace of mind?

You appear to have more than one person depending on you, so in this case while I do not feel that it would be madness to have another child "under these circumstances" firstly it is very important to more clearly establish what the current circumstances actually are. I feel that you are making broad assumptions here before you have most of the facts you will need to decide whether or not this relationship is now effectively beyond saving. Not madness, but merely you taking sensible precautions out of your responsible concern for yourself and any children you may already have from a previous relationship (or earlier with him).

Hoping this reading has helped to confirm your own feelings that you do need to tread carefully,

eye_of_tiger

Thank you so much for taking the time to write back to me.

You have helped to clarify some of the thoughts that have been whirling round my head in my low moments and you are quite right that another baby would add to the stresses already in our relationship (though my hormones would beg to differ!    ).

We have in fact had a heart to heart this morning and i can see there is a way for us to start to mend the problems we have been having so i am feeling much more hopeful of a positive outcome.

Many thanks again,

Morag

Brilliant!

This is excellent news and it has really encouraged me immensely to hear this.

This is exactly the reason for me continuing to offer readings on this forum. To help other members solve their own problems, and by so doing make myself redundant at least with regards to that person, so that I am then better prepared to help others to do the same.

Thank you sincerely for immediately brightening up my day,

eye_of_tiger