Was my ex-bf playing me, or is he confused? He's supposed to be my soulmate!

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Could I then in turn please request a personal favour of you by permitting this reading to go ahead in a modified form, as I have told the member through a private message that if any mention of a possible pregnancy could first be removed entirely from her request, then I would be pleased to offer her a relationship reading, which was not in itself a third party one?

Pregnancy should only be diagnosed by a qualified medical doctor, and although I cannot read her boyfriend's motives and intentions directly, I still feel that I have something valuable to offer her nevertheless through giving her a relationship reading as promised.

This reading (if allowed) will be focussed squarely on the member requesting the reading, as well as the negative effects of her boyfriend's confusing behaviour towards her, the nature of which must continue to remain confidential between the two of us.

To be honest, being soul mates (if this is true) does not necessarily guarantee that there will be no problems within a relationship. Sometimes being soul mates greatly increases the challenges involved of living together on a day to day basis, as they often have certain important lessons about life to share, which cannot easily be learnt in any other way than through more effectively dealing with sources of conflict.

This is not really anybody's fault, but it is probably by our Creator's design?

Thanking you in advance for your assistance in this matter,

eye_of_tiger  

I sincerely hope then that I am not overstepping the mark by going ahead with this reading as I originally promised the member I would. I am assuming the fact that the posting was edited to a different form rather than being outright locked, as is the usual practice with requests deemed totally inappropriate, means that this would be acceptable.

As I have already told you, in order to fully understand his reason or motives and why he still appears emotionally bound to his ex would involve me having to give you a third party reading, and me being a mind rather than a psychic reader. It is often difficult attempting to understand the way in which own hearts and minds work, without trying to understand someone else's behaviour from a distance.

As I also mentioned to you, I believe that your boyfriend is about as confused as you are in knowing what can realistically be expected from any one person and that while I do not wish to be seen as condoning his shabby behaviour towards you in repeatedly feeling drawn back to his ex, there are obviously unresolved issues between the two of them which were there long before you came upon the scene. While you should not lower your expectations of him and simply continue to put up with what must be an intolerable situation at times as though you do not deserve anything better (which is total nonsense in my opinion), this only proves that basically he is about as much a FHB (Fallible Human Being), as we all each are to varying degrees.

Put aside for the sake of your deepest feelings your highly romanticised notions of what being each other's soul mate is all about, as I explained in greater detail above (quoted below for your convenience).



My impressions on the basis of this reading are that while you were meant to be together for a relatively short period of time,  the shorter term purpose of your relationship has now sadly come to an end. I recognise and remain sensitive to your ongoing hope that he will in your terms eventually come to his senses, and realise that he has made a serious mistake by continuing to have a series of on-off relationships with the both of you (first you, then his ex, then you again....). I simply feel that he is playing you each against the other, and both wants his cake and to eat it too. He appears to have his own distorted beliefs that any woman who has him should consider herself extremely fortunate, when in reality he is on a path of self destruction as well as the very real possibility that he may eventually end up with no one who will be willing to put up with his infidelity and wandering ways.

If a visit to your family doctor proves that your deepest fears have been realised (do not for one moment believe that having his child will make him come back to you), my feelings are that you will get little if any support from him, whether it be financial or otherwise. I fear that the writing is on the wall with regard to your relationship with N...., and especially if you are now carrying his child, both of you are probably better off without him.

I am sorry to have to be completely honest by telling you that I see no future for your relationship with N...  (short of an absolute miracle) and I sincerely hope that you will obtain whatever forms of support you require from professionals, family and friends, whether or not you are pregnant. Is this the proper way that you should treat the person who you claim you love so much, then leave her once again for another woman? He seems on the surface at least to lack the maturity necessary to commit himself to any one woman, for very long at a time?

I do not wish to judge him unfairly as I do not know all the facts of the situation, but while N... in himself might be a very nice and decent man, excuse my English when I say that his behaviour towards you APPEARS TO STINK, BIG TIME. IMHO

Love, Light and Peace,

eye_of_tiger