Hi Everyone,

My 16 year old is going through a very hard time.  She is dealing with some very deep depression and has been struggling with self injury for a couple of years.  She is in counseling for this, but feels it is getting worse.  I would appreciate any spiritual guidance anyone could possibly give for ways to help her or reasons for the depression (it's not from anything bad in her life).

Thanks!

Hi,

I had to reply to your post, hope that's ok.
I have a 16 year old and she was going through a difficult phase, she kept telling me nothing was wrong lol, but with a psychic mum that's not the best way to hide things. I know that you say your daughter's depression and self-harm is not from 'anything bad in her life' but I beg to differ. Teenagers do not self harm and get depressed for no reason so obviously something is going very wrong. First put aside all your feelings, opinions and worries and look at her closely, what do you see? Something is making your beautiful child hurt herself! Or worse that someone else is doing it and she is too scared to say. Does anyone come to mind now? Talk to people, go to your gp, the school, helplines and get every bit of information you can. And most importantly talk to your daughter. If she is too worried or scared maybe get her to write a letter to you or message you? Strangely msn works well, I talk to my daughter loads on ours It's like she sees it as a friendly medium and me as a friend online. Hormonal imbalances can trigger depression and depression can trigger other hurtful illnesses. Does your daughter have problems with eating? Too much, too little? Or other common teenage problems, bad skin or boy (or girl) problems? Are you a single parent? I sense you are feeling very alone and left out, but that may be because you feel helpless and very scared about this. You have done the right thing though, asking for help is the best way forward.

I will send you both much love and reiki, take care. xxx

I really appreciate your reply, concern, and healing energies

What I meant by 'nothing bad' was things like abuse, neglect, etc.  She has (and says this herself) a great life.  In fact, she feels guilty for being depressed & hurting herself when she feels she has no reason for it.  Part of it is hormonal...we both have hormonal problems due to PCOS (runs in the family).  But I also wonder if part of it has to due with her being empathic like me.  I know how overwhelming it is when you are constantly picking up other's negative energy.  I don't know.  She is being treated for the hormone imbalance and is also in therapy specifically for self injury.  However, she still battles this overwhelming depression.  That's why I was looking for another resource...someone who might be able to receive insight from the spiritual side...to help guide me in other ways to help her or to help pinpoint why she is struggling so.

I am lucky that we have always had a very close relationship, and she talks to me about nearly everything.  It is hard because I am living with a chronic illness, so sometimes she doesn't want to 'burden me' (even though I've told her a thousand times it's not the case).  I'll mention talking over messaging to her...it's a great suggestion.  I have a great husband, who she looks at as her father.  So, I'm not totally alone.  But, being ill has kept me fairly isolated.

Again, thank you for the support and positive energy.  It's much appreciated!

Ahhhh Pcos, explains an awful lot doesn't it? Sounds like you have done nothing wrong and infact have done everthing right and everything you possibly can We all want the best for our kids (oh I can hear her say now "I'm not a kid!" lol) On the spiritual side is she interested in anything? My daughter took up runes, and crystals I tried hard to get her to read tarot but nope, she went her own way and the runes and ogham were it. Has she looked at this forum? It's huge and seems to cover everything lol, lots of inspiration here

Sorry to hear you are suffering too, I wonder that's probably why you want to make sure her life is painfree and happy

Many blessings to you both

I was reading this and just had a suggestion for help, which would be setting aside time for psychic exercises to strengthen the natural 'walls' that we all have. I have a friend who is an empath and she often gets depressed and overwhelmed with other people's feelings and needs someone to talk at more than to, so that she can get them out, so she will text message my cell phone even if I am not able to respond because I am in one of my classes at school. I do respond when i am able just so that she knows there is someone who feels her pain and is there to support her. Anyways, once a week I go to her house and we do exercises and it helps a lot, when I am unable to go over then she will do them on her own. It has helped her learn how to feel what she wants to when she wants to most of the time. Having someone who understands what she is going through and believes her and doesn't think that she is crazy, is something that she needed in her life very much, she was pretty lost about it all when we met. But she is not a pretty normal person... It was just a thought, I hope that it can help.

                                         Nyte