HI..

I wrote before... bad marriage.. issues with attaching to people.  

I know my marriage is doomed, that isnt the prob.  

I met another guy.  We got close.  Yesterday he got mad at me because of issues.  He told me to leave him alone.  Not to talk to him because he has nothing to offer me.  I asked him for closure and he told me no.

I am wondering.. if he will be back?  why did he leave in the first place, what did i do?  

thanks....  

just in case you need this info.. my dob is 11-20-1964  
                                         his is 06-30-1973

You need to be alone for a while, find out who you are. Relationship love comes after self love.

Let him go and he will come back to you. They always do.

With due respect I feel that your recently failed marriage is a very big part of the problems you are presently experiencing within your current relationship (or lack of). You are obviously still grieving or in mourning for a relationship which once held out for you such great promise of lasting happiness, but now appears to have been a big mistake .

In order to dull the pain temporarily in order to allow you to be able to continue to continue to function in other areas of your life, your feelings have been temporarily shut down behind a protective wall, which is preventing you from being able to determine what this man's true intentions towards you are.

In other words, your normally accurate instincts about whether or not this man is telling you the entire truth are taking a short holiday or resting period, so that you can begin truly healing.

Unfortunately (although it must always remain your decision as to what is in your own best interests), I sense that you are not yet prepared for any close relationships at this time. You are still carrying too much pain and negative emotional baggage from your marriage with you into any relationship you might enter now, or in the near future?

This is not to say that you are the one who is entirely at fault, as most of what is presently happening is part and parcel of an emotional healing, and is therefore largely outside of your conscious control.

Please do not misinterpret what I have just said as being yet another reason for feeling guilty and beating up on yourself, as my intention by mentioning it was to not continue to passively stand by and watch you becoming increasingly unhappy within one relationship after another, because of something I omitted to tell you as your friend.

Loving regards,

eye_of_tiger

Eye... I am understanding what you said.  100 percent.  I am not yet divorced.  Heck, he acts like he doesnt want to go, but I know down deep inside its been over.  

My friend that left is married too I believe.  I know he has a relationship and kids.  He was helping me develop, if you would say.  Strengthening me to the real world, and something I said to him, he misinterpeted and got angry.  I am not ready for any relationship is true.  He even knows that and that was part of the problem. I am in agreement because he is very strong minded and have no patience at all..lol.   He told me that I am looking to be hurt and he did not want any part of it.  In the friendship, I told him that I need time.  It is all to fresh.  I am working on my move to the east coast, and my divorce.  I have been told that my husband wont want it.  I appreciate your taking the time.  Last time, I was more in love.  This time I am missing my friend because he helped me and i actually listened.  That is a miracle in itself.  lol.

I know what he is looking for.. because I know what he does.  He hides it not from me.  I hear him talk to other women.  I never knew why exactly he helped me, but it is not important now.  I asked him to just be my friend.  

Anyway.. thanks for answering... it is appreciated and eye.. you rock..lol... I was beating myself up.  It comes and goes.  I feel it was something I did.  My esteem isnt the best so I felt it was me.  I still wonder... lol so that was very needed.  Keep hoping i do ok.  I have to move, dont know how that will go.  I need a transfer to NY to make it progress.  One step at a time.  Thanks all who commented, the answered were true.  I hope I will be ok.