Dear eye_of_tiger,

Thank you for your prompt reply. Your first reply really helped me through my heartbreak and now I'm bright and shiny, I forgot all about the betrayal and heartbreak last December, but now, just a bit depressed.

Please be assured that I am not pressured by your reading to deem this certain man to be "the one". I've been eyeing him for the longest time, and he surfaced about the same time as the man from my December heartbreak did. I'm quite interested with him, and the moment I first saw him, I just knew in my heart that I would want to take a chance with this person for I could actually see myself loving this person.

The problem is - with him, I do not know if he is interested. He has been elusive most of the time, and very coy. Fate has also hindered us so much, I don't know. I just would not want to be humiliated when I finally learn that he isn't really interested at all. Though I really really want to get the chance to know this person better.

Without wanting to sound too judgemental of you as my friend, while I completely agree with you that a big part of the problems you are experiencing in determining whether he is equally interested in you are largely his responsibility, your understandable fear of being rejected and therefore what you perceive as being humiliated is also playing a significant role in all this.

I never suggested that it would be easy, but if I were you I would much prefer to know for certain whether or not the relationship might have had a chance of working if I had only had the courage and persevered (only you are viewing being rejected on the first attempt as a valid basis for feeling humiliated), rather than having to live the rest of my life regretting never knowing whether or not it could have.

Human beings in general make terrible mind readers?

If you are eventually rejected (and I am not saying you will be), at least you will now know this for certain, and can subsequently look forwards to further opportunities for love and romance with another man. One who is both capable of and willing to offer you the type of deep and lasting love you so richly deserve.

Hoping that you will find these added comments helpful,

eye_of_tiger