i'm extremely miserable .  .  . for various reasons and in various ways an . . .really lonely wondered if someone would mind helping to clear my mind out a bit i asked my mothers friends who are psychic but they tend to ignore my questions i'd be really greatful

I feel that your mother's psychic friends are too close to her emotionally, to be able to give an objective reading to you.

I sense that the question uppermost in your mind is with regards to why you are still feeling lonely and are without a partner in your early 30s (and if it is mainly your own fault), and whether you are somehow destined to remain single for the many remaining years of your life.

On the basis of this intuitive reading I wanted to assure you that while the reasons for you still being single are fairly complex and varied, you must only accept a limited degree of personal responsibility for this. It is not your fault that people are not often willing to make the time and effort to get to know you better, as I sense that many of them would quickly come to recognise that you have many positive qualities counting in your favour and by so doing learn to value and respect you for being the person you already are, instead of wanting you to be someone else whom they feel might be more acceptable. The worst possible idea you could get in your head is that your God has decreed that henceforth you are doomed to remain lonely and unattached. If you allow this thought to become too deeply implanted in your mind, you are effectively defeated before even the first opening salvo is fired. This thought alone could very well become your own worst enemy in your ongoing search for a mate?

Too many people are making premature judgements about you from what they think they see on the surface, so one of the best ways I feel that you can greatly increase your chances of finding a suitable partner for yourself sooner rather than later is to first learn to more value and respect yourself (practise self love), and they will then tend to agree with you, given adequate time and patience on your part. I am not saying here that you should be vain and believe that you are better than everyone you meet, but I am saying that you are as worthy of having their respect and love as the next person is.

People who feel good about themselves and are confident of their own abilities are very attractive to members of the opposite sex, and if you can do anything to increase your own feelings of self esteem in the meantime while waiting for an opportunity to meet that special person of your dreams, then your problem could soon easily become not of you remaining lonely indefinitely, but rather that you may have to beat off many of your suitors with a large stick. I know that this is hard to imagine at the moment, but you could become so popular that you will need to make some important decisions as to what you are expecting from your closest relationships.

Another thing you could try is to write down the qualities you are looking for in your partner, as well as those things you simply could never learn to accept. Then go to the type of places where you would most expect to meet the type of person best described by your list. It is a fact that unless you are able and willing to move outside of your comfort zone (and home) and circulate socially, then your chances of an ideal mate coming to your front door uninvited are fairly slim. You could possibly be waiting forever unless you are willing to task the risk of being rejected, at least on your first attempt at approaching them.

It largely depends on how well you can apply some of the friendly advice I have offered you in this intuitive reading, as to whether 2008 will be a major positive tuning point with reference to your closest relationships, or whether it will be more of the same. In the end it is mainly up to you to decide how best to emphasise your many positive qualities, while admitting that like everyone else here you have your human weaknesses.

There will I feel be several opportunities for you during 2008 in order to try out these principles I have included above. With due respect I feel that you owe it to yourself to give it your best shot, as there is absolutely nothing in this reading which even mildly suggests that you will remain single for the rest of your life through some perceived fault of your own.

God Bless,

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