Depressed. Any reading please?, Mysticism, reading, forums, Numerology, Sun Signs, Divination

Posts: 12 · Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 11:52 am

Hi,

I had a bad breakup with my first boyfriend of 4 years about years 4 ago and just this year I thought I would meet the right person but turns out that this new guy is just playing with my feelings. I confronted him but he denied and flared up. I am 80% sure he wasn't honest with me all these while and was just toying with me.

I am both hurt and disappointed with him and myself. I shouldn't have trusted him at the beginning. My instincts were right. I wonder when I will meet my Mr Right or am I destined to be alone........

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 12:21 am

There is a very big difference between feeling painfully lonely, and choosing to spend most of his or her own life in their own company. While I do not feel that any person including yourself is destined to feel painfully lonely, I do feel that it is in the life path of certain people not to have many friends, or to never be able to enjoy a loving relationship. Fortunately I sense in your case that you are neither of these two types of unfortunate people, although I do understand how your previous relationship which I feel failed because of factors which were mainly beyond your control might easily make you begin to believe that a lack of true love is your lot in life throughout this current lifetime.

In order to fully love another person, we must necessarily place a certain degree of trust in them, although our trust must be gradually earned on the basis of what the person does rather than what he thinks, over a reasonable period time. What is the point in punishing yourself for being human? I would to be honest be very surprised if you did not have issues with trusting this man, in the light of what was done to you in your relationship almost 4 years before. Why then are you disappointed in yourself for feeling much more insecure than most people would who had never been through the negative relationship experiences you already have? It would I feel be quite unnatural for you NOT to feel this way.

Sadly I tend to agree with you that to a certain degree (I am hesitant to put an actual figure on this), I do feel; that this man is manipulating you by using the fact that you are now wearing your heart so openly upon your sleeve against you. I could advise you not to take this situation you currently find yourself in so much to heart, but under these circumstances trying to build a larger protective wall around your already deeply wounded heart will at the same time I feel unintentionally cut you off from receiving any positive feelings of love as well.

It would I sense be very counter productive and to be perfectly frank cruel for me to suggest to you that you should not be feeling this way, or that you should alternately harden your heart and by so doing deny yourself of any future hope of finding lasting love and happiness in the arms of another man who is both able and willing to give you the love you so deserve. I do not see any easy way out of this but I do feel that your fears and doubts do have at least some basis in reality. I do not therefore feel that you can immediately accept anything which this man says at face value, but that it needs to be first tested as being true in the often cold, harsh light of reality.

I do not think that your present relationship situation is entirely hopeless just yet, but it would be patronising of me to tell you that this is not looking like a formidable task for anyone to take on, least of all someone who already has such difficulties in trusting any man, as I believe you have. Whether or not you ultimately decide that with regard to this man enough is more than enough, I do feel that you are neither somehow destined to spend your many remaining years without also having a man to share your most cherished hopes and dreams, nor that you deserve anything other than the best which life can offer you.

But my impressions on the basis of this reading are that only time and much more compassion for yourself will begin to slowly heal the wounds from your previous (and perhaps this) relationship, and that it is more than likely that the time has come for you to cut your losses and leave this man as soon as you feel that you would not be placing yourself in physical danger by doing so. As I do not know whether or not he would resort to physical violence in order to get you back, I am then hesitant to offer you advice that would place you in any further danger of being abused (physically, psychologically or otherwise). I will of course continue to support you as much as is humanly possible from this end of the planet, with any decision you may reach.

Love, Light and Peace to you and your loved ones,

eye_of_tiger

PS: Normally new members are discouraged from requesting a reading as their first posting according to the forum rules, but in your situation I felt that there was a real need for some fairly urgent help to be given. Now that you have received your much needed reading, could you please honour the faith I have placed in you that you will now respect the forum rules enough to choose to contribute to some of the non reading forums, before coming back here in a month's time for your next reading?

MANY THANKS IN ADVANCE.

Posts: 12 · Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 11:34 am

Thank you for your advice. The heart feels heavy but I guess time will heal everything.
No worries, I will contribute to the non-reading forums before coming back. Have a good weekend ahead!