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Posts: 20 · Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 6:28 am

i would like a reading that may perhaps help me see who is the better person...

my ex boyfriend, robert seems to want to make a commitment and get back with me. his sign is aries, if that helps. the only problem is that he's in college, and everyone i talks to thinks i shouldn't get back together with him since he could cheat on me and i most likely would never know. but when i'm with him, i see something different, i feel like he really cares.

the other guy's name is john. his sign is sagittarius. i've just recently met him and we both know someone in common. he also works with my mom which is how i initially met him. he seems like a very sincere person, but i don't know him that well.

i would just like some advice...i don't want to make a mistake...

thank you very much,
chelsea

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 2:31 am

Dear Chelsea,

If you are looking for a 100% guarantee that your boyfriend would never think about cheating on you, then with due respect I feel that you will be spending the rest of your life alone, regretting that you were unwilling to take the small but still ever present risk involved in giving your heart to somebody else whom you love.

I do not know exactly what originally lead to you breaking up with Robert (who walked out on who), but could I please ask if you have any actual physical evidence that he ever cheated on you while you were still a couple? By definition he cannot be accused of cheating on you, if you were not already or still in a relationship with him at the time it happened?

Your friend's concern about Robert seems to revolve mainly around your age difference (you are not yet regarded as being a legal, consenting adult in many countries), rather than any suggestion that he has been unfaithful to you, which was precisely why I was asking you if you have any real evidence that this has occurred.

I do feel that while your friends probably have your best interests in mind and want to protect you from being hurt yet again, that you need to assert your own right to make such decisions for yourself, while taking into account any advice from your own parents or local legal issues related to your tender age. If there is any real evidence of Robert cheating on you, then the decision has been already largely made for you, unless whatever lead to you parting the first time has significantly improved for the better, and/or that he can somehow convince you that his cheating days are over.

In the end this must always remain your decision to make, but my feelings on the basis of this reading are that John (who is a Sagittarius like myself) would be a far better bet, at least for the immediate future. I would never want to say with absolute certainty that you will never get back together with Robert and that your relationship with John is a match made in Heaven (and there will consequently be no conflicts or challenges still ahead for the both of you), but if I were a betting man (which I am definitely not), my money would be placed on John being the better man for you, rather than any thought of you going back to Robert. Effectively I agree with the wisdom of your friends (let go of Robert), but for entirely different reasons from the ones you have suggested above?

"Sagittarius and Romance"

http://love.astrology.com/Lswheelsagittarius2.html

Wishing you both love and happiness in your life together,

eye_of_tiger

Posts: 20 · Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 9:27 pm

Thank you very much for your reading and your time

To answer some questions, Robert broke up with me. He never cheated on me while we were together, but my friends were worried that he may since he's in college and I wouldn't know. Also, I don't exactly believe that the age difference is what worries my friends. I've had 3 or 4 friends tell me they just simply get a "bad feeling" about him. Some of them have met him, and some haven't. Recently I talked to him and he said it wouldn't work now because he's in college and there's too much distance.

John, on the other hand, is 19, a year older than Robert. I get a much better feeling about him as well but I suppose I'm wondering what we will become in the future.

Once again, thank you!

Posts: 4135 · Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 1:11 am

Chelsea,

Thanking you for your feedback to my questions. It is therefore more a combination of your age difference and your physical distance from each other that helps to make them feel that he is not the one for you?

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Recently I talked to him and he said it wouldn't work now because he's in college and there's too much distance.

Then it sounds to me that my feelings as well as those of some of your friends about Robert not being the better choice of the two were accurate.

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I get a much better feeling about him as well but I suppose I'm wondering what we will become in the future.

We all wonder about what will or will not happen to us and the people we love in the future. You would not be human if you did not. As long as you do not worry yourself unnecessarily about such things to the point of making yourself ill, wondering and caring about your future is surely a positive quality.

It is those people (not including yourself) who do not genuinely care about what happens in the future that deeply concern me.

May your God go with you both,

eye_of_tiger